humanracer25 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 If you go on lots of dates and get rejected or turned down then maybe you should view it as a compliment, after all it says you are unique and not just someone that anyone could take to. I would hate to be one of those run of the mill guys that any woman could settle down with. I see so many girls on dating site who just watch soaps, go the gym,eat out etc. I want a unique partner who fits me so I do not get upset if someone says that I am not for them. I admit that I have unique tastes (obsession with 80s music,introverted,history geek,non sporty) so I realise that is I am not most people's cup of tea but that is good because I would like to be with someone who is a proper match for me. Just a word of encouragement for some people out there. Great forum!
Feelin Frisky Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 "Uniqueness" is a given with me. I've long embraced it as a powerful and evident truth of nature. I don't know if I could use it to console myself from rejection quite that way though. But I kinda get it--you don't want to sound like white bread on paper. Neither do I. Who wants to be so predictable that it's all over but the motions?
Ilovecake Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I absolutely do not see the correlation between rejection and uniqueness. In one way or another everyone is unique. I think if you get rejected all the time you're not unique you're simply choosing the wrong people or there's something fundamentally wrong with you that turns people off.
Author humanracer25 Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 I absolutely do not see the correlation between rejection and uniqueness. In one way or another everyone is unique. I think if you get rejected all the time you're not unique you're simply choosing the wrong people or there's something fundamentally wrong with you that turns people off. No I mean there are types of people who "get on with everyone" and would probably be seen as attractive to quite a large number of the opposite sex. Whereas there are people probably like me who aren't really most people's cup of tea relationship wise. But rather than look at myself as odd or different I just see myself as rather unique. And since a lot of a internet dating profiles don't say much, I just really have to keep meeting people and I find someone I click with. And I would rather turn 98% of people off and find my ideal match than change big parts of who I am just to become more attractive to people.
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