D-day: when Ex gets a new partner

[Banega100]

So found out my ex has a new fella. I responded to this news with 'fair play, good luck to him.'

 

Naturally i checked him out on FB, and i think im better looking ha ha. But that's some small comfort. Also noticed they have the same in jokes as we used to have. Pointless. Needless to say i got off that page pretty fast and im going back to pretending she doesnt exist.

 

Still, it's annoying when this inevitable day comes. Especially when they beat you to it. I guess you just have to press on finding some one sexier and better. On we go...

[achokshi]

I can't imagine what I'd do if my ex girl got a new guy. Sure it's none of my business, but I still love her to death and it's been 3 months since the breakup. She's in college, she's obviously been with other guys, but she's such a cute and innocent girl that I can't imagine her doing anything with anyone else. At least you think you're better looking than the guy, I know I'm insecure as one can be, so I naturally think everyones better looking than me. That worries me, even when one should never think of physical attraction alone. Either way, you must be upset but keep on trucking. In a way it's a good think that you didn't find someone else first, because now you can find someone better than her and not even think about when she will get a new partner, since she already has one. I feel for you man, although it hasn't happened to me yet, I'm sure it will soon enough and I'll be right there with ya.

[AlisaMarie]

So found out my ex has a new fella. I responded to this news with 'fair play, good luck to him.'

 

Naturally i checked him out on FB, and i think im better looking ha ha. But that's some small comfort. Also noticed they have the same in jokes as we used to have. Pointless. Needless to say i got off that page pretty fast and im going back to pretending she doesnt exist.

 

Still, it's annoying when this inevitable day comes. Especially when they beat you to it. I guess you just have to press on finding some one sexier and better. On we go...

Yeah, we all know that day will come. We wish our exes would be alone and single forever but that's just not going to happen, as you will meet someone new too. You shouldn't have responded to the news, you boosted her ego, I am sure. I am glad you're better looking and didn't stalk to page long. Ahhh, fb is the death of all of us. Try not to look, and try not to think of them together. My ex fiance ended up marrying the girl he cheated on me with and left me for. 4 years later, I realize that I am glad someone else is dealing with his bull****. I hope you're feeling ok.

[Banega100]

You two are very nice people!

 

I just think it's weird how these things go round in cycles. I guess it's just life and you have to get used to it. It's so weird. Cheers for the advice.

[collegeguy_24]

Hey man I know your pain. You were/are there for me, and I'm here to return the favor. If you ever want to talk, hit me up.

[whatadeer26]

Find comfort in the fact that we are the best they ever had!!!!!

[DustySaltus]

You two are very nice people!

 

I just think it's weird how these things go round in cycles. I guess it's just life and you have to get used to it. It's so weird. Cheers for the advice.

 

So you're not friends with either one anymore on FB right?

[evilmonkey2008]

dude, hopefully it wasnt so soon after my break up. My ex broke up with me during the week, that weekend she was dating this other guy. I think she was seeing him when we were dating!

 

So i hope there was some time between some break up!

[Capital P]

You two are very nice people!

 

I just think it's weird how these things go round in cycles. I guess it's just life and you have to get used to it. It's so weird. Cheers for the advice.

 

Dude, i dont understand two things.

1) Why she told you this. Or you have spoken to her about it, because you said you have

2) What you are doing looking at her on facebook.

 

This is going to happen. But to make it easier for yourself you blank her out, completely and if you do that you dont have to worry about what she is doing

Unless someone told you about it. In which case, they are a dick!

Edited December 3, 2010 by Capital P

[SlawKing]

I know how you feel. My ex started dating a new guy two weeks after we broke up. To make matters slightly worse she had invited me over for drinks just two days before she started dating the new guy and we both had a little too much to drink. She basically mauled me, pinned me down, and forced me to have sex with her. Then when I had to leave (since I had school in the morning and no clothes there) she begged me not to go. She started crying and saying that she didn't want to be alone.

 

Obviously that was true, because two days later shes got a new bf. I'm convinced it's just a rebound, but it still hurts.

[Love Is An Illusion]

Women can be harsh at times

[VJW]

Women can be harsh at times

 

So can men! My Xbf broke up with me and then started dating a girl right away. He said that meeting her (while we were still together) was the straw that broke our relationship. I had to live with him for 2 weeks while I figured out a place to move while he started dating this girl.

[b_rouse]

I'm actually glad my ex jumped into a relationship 2 weeks after our break up. It ripped the bandaid off quick! There's nothing worse he can do to me now, I don't have respect for people who throw other people away at their dispense.

 

He didn't think his current relationship through, he hardly knew the girl (1 month and "she's the one"). To be honest, I think he's afraid to be alone or left out. He realized I was focusing a lot of time on my schooling and work (I'm attempting to get into med school, cross your fingers!) and less on him. I'm and independent woman! Sorry I have career aspirations that I wish to achieve!

 

He felt insignificant, but instead of talking to me about it, he decides to break up with me and be with another girl. But he chose a good one, she's clingy!

 

But don't worry, I compared myself with the girl he's with now, and she's a down-grade. But whatever, it's not important anymore, he made his choice, he has to deal with the consequences. If he wants me back, he made the mistake of letting me go, because I'm not getting back together with him.

 

Currently, I'm at the stage where I want him to beg, plead, cry, be on his knees saying he's made a mistake, and I kindly say, "Sorry darling, you had your chance, you threw me away like garbage. But another guy came along, picked me up, brushed me off and took me home where he cared for me."

 

Haha I can feel the love from this new guy already!

 

I'm just looking forward to meeting that special someone again! Go through that honeymoon stage of being a new couple. I'm starting to look at other guys again (whereas in the beginning of the break up, I felt as if I were betraying my ex). Oh the beauty of moving on and starting over fresh!

 

That being said, I don't want to rush into things, I want to be ready on my own terms, and I'm definitely not ready to jump into a relationship just yet...

Edited December 3, 2010 by b_rouse

[Coolsbreeze]

I'm actually glad my ex jumped into a relationship 2 weeks after our break up. It ripped the bandaid off quick! There's nothing worse he can do to me now, I don't have respect for people who throw other people away at their dispense.

 

He didn't think his current relationship through, he hardly knew the girl (1 month and "she's the one"). To be honest, I think he's afraid to be alone or left out. He realized I was focusing a lot of time on my schooling and work (I'm attempting to get into med school, cross your fingers!) and less on him. I'm and independent woman! Sorry I have career aspirations that I wish to achieve!

 

He felt insignificant, but instead of talking to me about it, he decides to break up with me and be with another girl. But he chose a good one, she's clingy!

 

But don't worry, I compared myself with the girl he's with now, and she's a down-grade. But whatever, it's not important anymore, he made his choice, he has to deal with the consequences. If he wants me back, he made the mistake of letting me go, because I'm not getting back together with him.

 

Currently, I'm at the stage where I want him to beg, plead, cry, be on his knees saying he's made a mistake, and I kindly say, "Sorry darling, you had your chance, you threw me away like garbage. But another guy came along, picked me up, brushed me off and took me home where he cared for me."

 

Haha I can feel the love from this new guy already!

 

I'm just looking forward to meeting that special someone again! Go through that honeymoon stage of being a new couple. I'm starting to look at other guys again (whereas in the beginning of the break up, I felt as if I were betraying my ex). Oh the beauty of moving on and starting over fresh!

 

That being said, I don't want to rush into things, I want to be ready on my own terms, and I'm definitely not ready to jump into a relationship just yet...

 

B_rouse I wish I had your strength and determination. I'm on the three month mark when my ex broke up with me and she basically got another boyfriend in less then a week after. Even after three months I still miss her dearly. I know that her and I would never work but just knowing how she left me has deeply pained me. My heart is slowly healing but some days it still feels like it's shattered.

[b_rouse]

B_rouse I wish I had your strength and determination. I'm on the three month mark when my ex broke up with me and she basically got another boyfriend in less then a week after. Even after three months I still miss her dearly. I know that her and I would never work but just knowing how she left me has deeply pained me. My heart is slowly healing but some days it still feels like it's shattered.

 

 

My motto about breaking up: The best way to get back at your ex is to prove you're happier without them.

 

Start your morning off with a laugh, not kidding, just start laughing. Your body can't tell the difference between a real or fake laugh (and a real or fake smile for that matter)! When you fake it, your body thinks it's real, so you'll get a little bit of an endorphine rush...beautiful way to start!

 

And I love this quote: Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

 

Ultimitely, everyone heals differently. I don't want my ex to get the best of me! He doesn't deserve to make my life a living hell, I'm not giving him that power. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent (thank you Eleanor Roosevelt).

 

I mean, you can be sad about the break up, and continue to let it effect your life, but I feel as if I'm wasting my life being sad. You only live once, and the beauty of life is you choose how to start your day and end your day.

 

This goes with the quote above, you can mope around, sulk, cry, live in the past...or...you can smile because for x-amount of months, or years, or whatever, you were happy. And you will be happy again. Love isn't a "one-time offer."

 

What helped me, I gave myself a day or 2 to just let it all out. I spent money on myself, watched lame love movies (lifetime anyone?), journaled, ate whatever I wanted, bought expensive chocolate (suprisingly I felt good), bought myself flowers, cried...I pretty much spoiled myself. Stayed in my pj's, wore my glasses the whole time, slippers...I was just comfy.

 

After that, I felt so much better! Not saying it works for everyone, but give it a try.

 

Here's another quote: Hope for the best, but prepare for the worse (I'm just full of quotes in this message!). You can hope you'll get back together, but just prepare yourself for that to not happen.

 

Keep thinking about the future! Look in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself...works for me all the time! Big ego boost !

You'll still have moments where you're feeling down, but just remember, everything happens for a reason...and for all you know, some foxy lady is on her way to you right now...or in the ladies case: some fine man is on his way.

 

...currently they're getting directions to your heart, that's why they're not here yet.

Edited December 4, 2010 by b_rouse

[Banega100]

Yeah my 'friend' told me about it. So i checked the guy out. Don't worry she's deleted off FB, and i never go on her page. Ever.

 

I'm not that bothered to be honest. It's just weird. Besides, it seems other people have been in much worse situations...

[Banega100]

My motto about breaking up: The best way to get back at your ex is to prove you're happier without them.

 

Start your morning off with a laugh, not kidding, just start laughing. Your body can't tell the difference between a real or fake laugh (and a real or fake smile for that matter)! When you fake it, your body thinks it's real, so you'll get a little bit of an endorphine rush...beautiful way to start!

 

And I love this quote: Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

 

Ultimitely, everyone heals differently. I don't want my ex to get the best of me! He doesn't deserve to make my life a living hell, I'm not giving him that power. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent (thank you Eleanor Roosevelt).

 

I mean, you can be sad about the break up, and continue to let it effect your life, but I feel as if I'm wasting my life being sad. You only live once, and the beauty of life is you choose how to start your day and end your day.

 

This goes with the quote above, you can mope around, sulk, cry, live in the past...or...you can smile because for x-amount of months, or years, or whatever, you were happy. And you will be happy again. Love isn't a "one-time offer."

 

What helped me, I gave myself a day or 2 to just let it all out. I spent money on myself, watched lame love movies (lifetime anyone?), journaled, ate whatever I wanted, bought expensive chocolate (suprisingly I felt good), bought myself flowers, cried...I pretty much spoiled myself. Stayed in my pj's, wore my glasses the whole time, slippers...I was just comfy.

 

After that, I felt so much better! Not saying it works for everyone, but give it a try.

 

Here's another quote: Hope for the best, but prepare for the worse (I'm just full of quotes in this message!). You can hope you'll get back together, but just prepare yourself for that to not happen.

 

Keep thinking about the future! Look in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself...works for me all the time! Big ego boost !

You'll still have moments where you're feeling down, but just remember, everything happens for a reason...and for all you know, some foxy lady is on her way to you right now...or in the ladies case: some fine man is on his way.

 

...currently they're getting directions to your heart, that's why they're not here yet.

 

You young lady are bang on the bell

 

Self affirmations are brilliant! And the quotes! honestly, that was mesmerising ha ha

 

AND from the looks things it would be difficult to do anything but downgrade... ha

 

But no, great advice !

[b_rouse]

You young lady are bang on the bell

 

Self affirmations are brilliant! And the quotes! honestly, that was mesmerising ha ha

 

AND from the looks things it would be difficult to do anything but downgrade... ha

 

But no, great advice !

 

 

 

-Helped me tremendiously! Very strong lyrics and powerful images.

 

 

-Very catchy! Happy music! Thumbs up for Dwight from the Office!

 

I really love the my best days are ahead of me line. Haha there's another quote to add!

[xeros]

It makes me feel so sick, the day when she goes out with the guy she left me because she likes is coming at any moment.

[EricaH329]

My motto about breaking up: The best way to get back at your ex is to prove you're happier without them.

 

Right on!!

 

My ex let me know a couple of weeks ago that he has been dating since we broke up. He said that he wasn't able to stay committed because they aren't 'marriage material'. It makes you wonder about people like that. The ones who can't ever be happy being single or alone, I actually feel sympathy for him.

 

I, on the other hand, have been happily single for 9 months. I feel like i've already 'beat him to the punch' so to speak. I'm finally happy on my own. I don't need another person in my life to feel complete. While he is out there searching for his 'one', I am perfectly happy with my 'one'. Myself. And to me, that is so much greater a feeling.

 

And trust me, once they know you are single and loving it, they will be much more envious of you even if they are in a relationship (especially if they are in a relationship)

[b_rouse]

I don't need another person in my life to feel complete. While he is out there searching for his 'one', I am perfectly happy with my 'one'. Myself. And to me, that is so much greater a feeling.

 

And trust me, once they know you are single and loving it, they will be much more envious of you even if they are in a relationship (especially if they are in a relationship)

 

 

Love it! Perfectly put, and I can completely relate. I'm happier without him now (it took me 40ish days to realize this). I still love and care for him, and I wish him the best, but I don't want to be with him anymore.

 

It feels so good to say it! I don't want him back! I'm enjoying being single!

[never_quit]

B_Rouse,

 

You are inspiring. I was dumped by my longtime gf in March and I have been struggling to get over it ever since. I have been moping around and not making much progress. I keep hoping that she will get into contact with me... it's pretty pathetic. Where do you get that strength?

[b_rouse]

B_Rouse,

 

You are inspiring. I was dumped by my longtime gf in March and I have been struggling to get over it ever since. I have been moping around and not making much progress. I keep hoping that she will get into contact with me... it's pretty pathetic. Where do you get that strength?

 

To be honest, I don't know where this strength came from. I'm usually a happy person, but when the break up happened, I was devastated!

 

Quick summary: He's liked me since 2007, finally had the courage to ask me out (he thought I was "out of his league") on October 13th, 2009. On October 17th, 2010 (a little over a year), we broke up, because of "distance." Yet, when I called him a couple days later to get him back (yes, I begged...hot mess), he's already moved on and didn't like me like that anymore. I felt even more horrible. I called again, 9 days after the break up, I was determined to run to him (I'm 30 miles away), once again, shot down and told he likes where it's going with this other girl. I did the blame game, dissecting every little detail in the relationship and I blamed myself for every problem (apparently he was perfect and I was trash). 2 weeks later, SUPRISE! They're in a relationship (he's only known her for a month).

 

Then comes the lowest point in my life. I quit eating, sleeping, studying...yada yada yada. I lost a lot of weight, my grades slipped, and I looked like a zombie.

 

Until I looked in the mirror, and I mean actually looked in the mirror. I pretty much had a conversation with myself, pep-talk as you may.

 

My ex had no right treating me like that, being thrown away because he was done "playing" with me. If you truely care about someone, you don't discard them at your will.

 

Music is a big part of my life. Listening to sad songs only inhibit your healing progress. I was listening to sad songs (i.e. Wait for you by Elliot Yamen, Just a Dream by Nelly)...it did nothing but make me feel like crap all the time.

 

Until I changed. Only listening to those happy songs (i.e. the ones above, Dynamite by Taio Cruz, Fireworks by Katy Perry, Magic by B.O.B., I like it by Enrique and Pitbull, or for jokes: No Love by Eminem and Lil' Wayne). Any song that has a nice beat to it. Then I'd get up and dance like a weirdo.

 

You just have to keep your head up and remember you're worth more than the dumpster your ex discarded you in. Everything happens for a reason so maybe some handsome man/beautiful woman is on their way rriigghhtt now to pick you up, brush you off and take them with you where you will be cared for and loved.

 

And because of my dumpster moment, he doesn't deserve me and your ex doesn't deserve you.

[Username37]

Yeah, that day came for me a few months ago

 

I've been doing fine lately. Been with this new girl for a while, not dating, but we're both interested in each other. And for my ex? I don't know, I deleted her from FB.

 

She's a insecure cunt who is now this new guy's headache and future heartbreak.

[Coolsbreeze]

Yeah, that day came for me a few months ago

 

I've been doing fine lately. Been with this new girl for a while, not dating, but we're both interested in each other. And for my ex? I don't know, I deleted her from FB.

 

She's a insecure cunt who is now this new guy's headache and future heartbreak.

 

It really hurts and is heart wrenching when the love of your life just discards you like you meant nothing to her. Makes you think that your entire relationship was just a lie. And makes me think that I wasn't good enough for her. That's how it felt like for me. There are some days when I just want to tell her how could she be so heartless even after I stuck by her even through her most difficult times. But then I remind myself that it wouldn't solve anything and it would just make her think that she has this control over me and can treat me however she wants.