Str8noChaser Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Well, I just turned 32 and I think I look good for my age. I take care of myself and don't even have a single wrinkle on my face. I'm sure you look good for your age and at this moment in time you have no wrinkles. You are missing the point if that's what you are defending. You may not have wrinkles but you don't look the way you did at 22 when you didn't have wrinkles then either. I am not sure if I even want kids (most likely not) so that is not a huge issue for me. At 32 you should decide fairly soon if that's something you want to do. You don't have the luxury you may have had 10 years ago to ponder if you want kids are not. But since you said most likely not, then men that want to father children wont get into relationships with you. Or you can luck up and marry someone who already has a family. Even when I am 40, 40-something men can easily still go for me. And when you are 50, 50-something men will go after you and when you are 60 so on and so on. You seem to have it all figured out. What's your point?
Star Gazer Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I will agree with this. And what you agree with is what most people here are referring to as "stupid." Not stupid in the "not knowing that 2+2=4" way or understanding why the sky is blue or how to read a map, but stupid in the "choosing to slum it for a FWB with a druggie" way.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Well, it would be unwise and risky no matter what, but if you were really capable of just having a light fling and actually keeping it fun (and used multiple layers of condoms and dental dams at all times) it would be fine, I'm sure. From what you've shared about yourself on LS ... and lordy, it's a helluva LOT, it's pretty clear that fun is not something you partake of. Look! You've already noted that he did not express enough "excitement" about you! That's really a buzzkiller of an attitude. All you need to worry about is whether he's excited enough to hoist you over his manly rugby playing shoulder prior to flinging you down for that hot casual sex you are going to have together. Don't be expecting any displays of "high interest" or whatever (you know, like texting within a proscribed time frame, lots of phone calls, etc.) in between the sexy sessions, though. Promise? Okay, have fun then.
Sarah1977 Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 He seems to be looking at my OKC profile every 30 minutes. That's kind of weird - he has seen it multiple times before and I haven't changed anything. Maybe he's high?
Author OceanGirl Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 I think that I am finally feeling my age. Tonight has been the third night in a row of going out and heavy drinking. By the end of it, I was exhausted. At about 1am all I wanted to do was go to sleep and badly. I met yet another guy while out tonight and we made out for ages, He already texted me to get together again. It's a bit of an overkill and I am just drained. After he left, my brother's friend and my former hook up (one night make out only months ago) showed up and was keen to hook up again but I was too tired. He is hot but agh...I have my limits. I am supposed to have breakfast with Polish guy tomorrow morning but I simply know that I can't. I need to sleep in, I need to spend the whole of a Sunday recharging and doing nothing. All the work stress, getting my house keys, multiple guys, clubbing with friends is finally taking its toll. Not to mention that I am back from a trip not even a week ago from a very different time zone. I texted Polish guy and asked him to re-schedule as I told him that I am simply too tired from a full on week. He was sweet about it, He responded immediately and offered me couple of options. We re-scheduled for Wednesday night. I am supposed to have the second date Tuesday with a guy from OP and he has been texting me all day. He seems super keen even if it's just for sex... I am all dated out
Str8noChaser Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 A nap some protein rich food and you'll be right as rain.
Star Gazer Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I think that I am finally feeling my age. Tonight has been the third night in a row of going out and heavy drinking. By the end of it, I was exhausted. At about 1am all I wanted to do was go to sleep and badly. Oh man, I can relate. When I go out (drinking), most of the time it's with girlfriends who are still in their 20's (late 20's, but still), and they can handle their booze better than I can. Something happened at 31 or thereabouts where I just can't drink like I could in my 20's.
Ariadne Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 All the work stress, getting my house keys, multiple guys, clubbing with friends is finally taking its toll. Not to mention that I am back from a trip not even a week ago from a very different time zone. At least life is exciting. Congrats on the house keys! Now "that" is major! And good luck with the Polish guy.
sb129 Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I am looking for a guy that's essentially nice but also edgy, aggressive (non-passive) and fun and of course doesn't smoke and do drugs (basically like myself). So why did you ask the rugby player guy to get you some weed? I think that I am finally feeling my age. Tonight has been the third night in a row of going out and heavy drinking. By the end of it, I was exhausted. At about 1am all I wanted to do was go to sleep and badly. I met yet another guy while out tonight and we made out for ages, He already texted me to get together again. It's a bit of an overkill and I am just drained. After he left, my brother's friend and my former hook up (one night make out only months ago) showed up and was keen to hook up again but I was too tired. He is hot but agh...I have my limits. I am supposed to have breakfast with Polish guy tomorrow morning but I simply know that I can't. I need to sleep in, I need to spend the whole of a Sunday recharging and doing nothing. All the work stress, getting my house keys, multiple guys, clubbing with friends is finally taking its toll. Not to mention that I am back from a trip not even a week ago from a very different time zone. I texted Polish guy and asked him to re-schedule as I told him that I am simply too tired from a full on week. He was sweet about it, He responded immediately and offered me couple of options. We re-scheduled for Wednesday night. I am supposed to have the second date Tuesday with a guy from OP and he has been texting me all day. He seems super keen even if it's just for sex... I am all dated out Whew, what a weekend! I am a year older than you and I would need to sleep for a few days to recover from all that. I am tired just reading your threads! Lucky for you the Polish guy is understanding- remember when that guy wanted to reschedule on you because he was sick or tired or something and you got really p*ssed at him?
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Heh "druggie" is making a bit of effort in pursuing...he texted me this morning (below). BTW he is 4 years younger than me (28) Note: I told him yesterday not to expect sex just because he is coming to my place and also not to expect me to cook....No idea why I said that because I WANT sex. I guess it's traces of my Catholic upbringing :S Hey gorgeous, Hope you had fun at the party last night and your head doesn't hurt too much today! Looking forward to some pizza and some kisses on Tuesday! See you soon XXX
sb129 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 So you didn't answer my question as to why you wanted him to get weed..
sb129 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Of course he is pursuing btw- he is guaranteed a shag without any effort or having to have a relationship!
Art_Critic Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Until you alter your people picker and pick a better type of man and stop using looks as a gauge to what kind of person they are you will continue on this speed dating and wearing yourself out. Why not look into why you are picking the wrong type of man for you ?..
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 So you didn't answer my question as to why you wanted him to get weed.. Because I smoke weed every once in a while. I thought it would be fun. I don't do any other drugs.
Star Gazer Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Until you alter your people picker and pick a better type of man and stop using looks as a gauge to what kind of person they are you will continue on this speed dating and wearing yourself out. Why not look into why you are picking the wrong type of man for you ?.. Soooo true, Art. The best question to ask, OG, is WHY are you knowingly and intentionally continually picking the wrong type of guy?? It's like deciding to go on a diet but choosing to only eat cupcakes and french fries... totally counter-productive!
sb129 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Call me old fashioned, but its probably not the best idea for a second date. Getting wasted at your home with a guy who is to all intents and purposes a stranger isn't the safest thing in the world to do. And don't you have to work on wed? Just looking out for you there OG.
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Until you alter your people picker and pick a better type of man and stop using looks as a gauge to what kind of person they are you will continue on this speed dating and wearing yourself out. Why not look into why you are picking the wrong type of man for you ?.. Art, I DO know what type of man I want. Unfortunately, I haven't met anyone that fits the criteria in the past 5 years - and this is despite meeting a huge number of men. I have now accepted that I want is not possible to happen for me. I have accepted that I will never get married or have kids and family. I could marry a nice guy that bores me just for the sake of it - but I would be unhappier than I am now. At least my life is exciting and I am not living inside my head with fantasy crushes on my boss etc. I just need to slow down the pace somewhat.
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Call me old fashioned, but its probably not the best idea for a second date. Getting wasted at your home with a guy who is to all intents and purposes a stranger isn't the safest thing in the world to do. And don't you have to work on wed? Just looking out for you there OG. No, he can't get weed. He apologized and even asked if I am still interested in seeing him if he can't get the weed. He also asked me if I know how to roll a joint (I do) because he doesn't know how But yeah, weed is off for now...
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 I do worry that I am too sexually inexperienced for him so he will be put off by that....
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Polish guy just called. I didn't pick up because I honestly just want to be left alone for today. I have kind of had it with all the guys. My head is pounding, my muscles are aching. It's 3pm and I am still in bed. I haven't eaten anything either :S
Pfiend101 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I think ur attracted to all the drama that comes from this. You remind me of my sister. Everyone tells her she needs to take a break from dating. She never listens and constantly dates bad boys who show her all these red flags and she thinks the next one will be different. Then she ends up crying and wondering what she did wrong. I wish you good luck though. I dont think random sex with some druggie dude is in your best interest. The polish guy that is smart sounds so much better. I dont really understand why you even entertain the idea of that loser druggie. Does he live at home with his mom?
Author OceanGirl Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 I think ur attracted to all the drama that comes from this. You remind me of my sister. Everyone tells her she needs to take a break from dating. She never listens and constantly dates bad boys who show her all these red flags and she thinks the next one will be different. Then she ends up crying and wondering what she did wrong. I wish you good luck though. I dont think random sex with some druggie dude is in your best interest. The polish guy that is smart sounds so much better. I dont really understand why you even entertain the idea of that loser druggie. Does he live at home with his mom? Nah he has his own place and lives by himself. He is from London originally and his parents live there. He is FUN and I want to see him again. The problems with Polish guy are following: He is a genius and has so much knowledge about any topic on Earth. I think that I am pretty smart but he is smarter than me hands down. That scares me. He is also extremely picky. He is looking for either LTR or nothing. He has dated so many girls in the past year and none did it for him. It's laughable to think that he is actually going to like me. In summary, Polish guy is out of my league and he will realize that once we meet.
sb129 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 He is also extremely picky. He is looking for either LTR or nothing. He has dated so many girls in the past year and none did it for him. It's laughable to think that he is actually going to like me. In summary, Polish guy is out of my league and he will realize that once we meet. Oh. My. God. Have some confidence would you? You have written him off before you have even had ONE date with him, yet he is doing everything "right" according the standards you applied to the guys you were dating last month. He is courteous and respectful, he has called you, (you didn't answer) and when you wanted to reschedule the date he agreed immediately and gave you options. These guys (and you) can't win if you keep changing the goalposts. I am not even sure if you know what you want. You are like a kid in a candy shop, and not in a good way.
Ariadne Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 In summary, Polish guy is out of my league and he will realize that once we meet. Well, he must be looking for love as well and you never know...He may like you. I remember a story of a Jewish woman who was interviewed in a program about soulmates. She had been with her husband for over 50 years and in love like the first day... So she said that she was scared because he was going to a prestigious university and all said how incredibly smart he was, so when he asked her for a date she decided she wasn't going to talk because anything short of Plato and Socrates would be a joke... And he fell madly in love with her. So.... I think you scheduling that date with the druggie right before the date with the Polish guy complicated things a little bit. Good luck with it all!!!! At least you are giving it a huge effort, and at least you are actually being interested in many guys for a change!
Ariadne Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Btw, Have you heard from the divorced LSD guy? Did he change his mind and try and see you again?
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