intothevoid13 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 This might get descriptive, and long. I was involved with a guy for 3+ years and we have a child together. Our relationship, at times friendly, was definitely rocky, with our fights escalating into physical violence and destroyed belongings on numerous occasions. Despite the fact that I've been telling him it's not going to work, for months, he never believed it because I previously took him back on numerous occasions. Now,circumstances have severed our live-in relationship, and I have broken up with him, again. I think he gets it this time, although I'm sure he's still looking for a way to "fix it", as he blames circumstances for the ills in our relationship, rather than himself. I still love him and care about his happiness and well being, although I'm not "in-love with him".....since we were friends before we ever got together, and he claims that he loves me. I believe that deep down somewhere, he does, although his actions can tell quite a different story. In breaking up with him, I told him that I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone, that I'm too mentally screwed up to be involved with anyone, which is partly true. The break-up being very recent, we still talk, and he's definitely keeping tabs on me. Besides all of that, I met an amazing guy, even though I really had no intention of any sort of commitment in the near future. I wasn't looking, we just met, and hit it off. He is a nice, respectful, normal guy with a decent job, and stable. We share many interests, and there's an undeniable amount of chemistry between us. This is a guy that's different from the ex in every way, who treats me sooo much better. This guy is crazy about me, considerate, wants to see me all the time, although I have been trying to take it slow. He doesn't pressure me, and says he knows that you have to have patience for worthwhile things in life. He does not know about my checkered relationship past, and I have a feeling that he will want to be in an exclusive relationship with me at some point in the near future. I don't see this as a bad thing, although I know from the past that committing too much too soon is usually a mistake. How can I avoid moving too fast? In addition, the ex can be spiteful at times, and if he finds out that there's already someone else in the picture, he'll accuse me of being a lying whore or some other garbage, and I'm sure he'll then go out of his way to make my life difficult. If the two should ever cross paths, it might be an ugly scenario. Any insight into this clusterf*ck?
Recommended Posts