12yearsin Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I think I am being led on by my ex or am I just seeing things that aren't there. When he comes to see our daughter he wants to hang out with her in my room. He wants to know if I have a new boyfriend or not. He gets really irate when he tries to call me and he can not get a hold of me. He is seeing someone but insist no one is ever going to compare to me and he will never find anyone better than me in anyway. He tells me he loves me but he just fell out of love. I told him we shouldn't talk or see each other because it makes things harder and he got extremely upset with me. Sometimes he even says I am who he wants to marry someday. I do not understand why he is doing this when he is the one who did the breaking and he cheated. Why me? What is he doing? I don't get it at all...
AlisaMarie Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I think I am being led on by my ex or am I just seeing things that aren't there. When he comes to see our daughter he wants to hang out with her in my room. He wants to know if I have a new boyfriend or not. He gets really irate when he tries to call me and he can not get a hold of me. He is seeing someone but insist no one is ever going to compare to me and he will never find anyone better than me in anyway. He tells me he loves me but he just fell out of love. I told him we shouldn't talk or see each other because it makes things harder and he got extremely upset with me. Sometimes he even says I am who he wants to marry someday. I do not understand why he is doing this when he is the one who did the breaking and he cheated. Why me? What is he doing? I don't get it at all... Hello, I am sorry you are going through this. I commend you for being so strong and knowing what is best by only communicating because of the child involved. Here is how I see it from experience. My ex seemed to want to have some kind of hold on me. After our break up in July, we got back together a few times but the on and off was all under his control. He would say he loves me but it's not the same. He said no other girl could compare to me. He told me that he wanted to be with me forever and he is probably going to end up marrying me! Ok, but guess what? He's not here, he sneaks around is seeing someone else. He lied to me about her and her about me. They are "friends." What I am getting at is as long as he dishes you out a few crumbs, and he plays his cards right, he will have you back when he is ready. He is with someone else? Wow... what an egotistical jerk. He's playing both sides of the fence. Since there is a child involved, I would just be honest. Tell him that if he wants to be together he has to make the changes and work for it. He would have to leave his girl, kiss your @ss to the fullest, and go to counseling. He would have to prove to be the best man he can be to make your family work. Tell him that if you are not worth it... then to be a good father and get over it. You do not deserve these mind games!
Author 12yearsin Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 wow! Thanks for the insight! This is why I did not want to have contact at all. I don't deserve to have these mind games played with me. I also feel bad for this poor girl. If the guy I was seeing was sending text and talking to his ex the way he is to me I would be so hurt!
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