Dante311 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 This is kind of long, so thank you for reading it... So I'm taking a 15 min break from putting together a presentation I need to have submitted by noon for a presentation I'm giving tomorrow morning... so I'll make this snappy (even though I'm wasting time writing THIS) heh... ie, more details to come later, but for the most part, this is straight forward. So aside from being a graduate student en route to dropping his route to his PhD (and change tracks to Md)... i'm also a certified health fitness specialist through a nationally accredited organization that is a leader in the health/fitness field.... and that's how I met her. We're trainer's together. She's certified by a well known, but less reputable organization. It was a staff meeting. I only remember I sat down and she sat next to me... next thing I know, I was planning to go out for drinks with another buddy of mine who works with us... and I invited her. 2 scenarios of her out with the 2 of us... she always found a way to make me feel as if she were attracted to me. The issue is... I know her boyfriend... or ex boyfriend now. He cheated on her. She's been single since August. It's now December. Plenty of time to get over him, right? Nope... he still keeps in contact with her that he loves her... and she is steadfast they're done b/c he's a) crazy and b) cheating STILL. I'm embracing this... for some stupid reason, b/c I'm dating someone, but still in the open dating phase - regardless of the fact we're exclusive in hooking up/sex - and we have pet names for eachother already.. ****. Anyhow... my fcked up love life out of the picture for a moment, when I learn of this girl's story... I empathize and tell her if she wants to talk... I'll gladly listen. I know what it's like to take this kind of torment from someone you care about. Recently having dumped a psycho girl... and dated Nicole... the woman I love who broke my heart (whom I've recently told I have no room for her in my life after she contacted me 10 months later... while I was nearly 100% mended emotionally...)... This new girl, we'll call... um... K. K looked to me and we caught eyes... and something just told me... there's more there than just friends, but we're not lovers. within a few days... she wanted to hang out. I thought nothing of it and said ok. What was to be a 20 minute walk turned into a 2 hour hangout/conversation... The following day, she made dinner and invited me over... ...and then the next as well. This is where **** gets a little complicated. She wanted to watch a movie. So I agreed, again, thinking nothing of it. As We're on the couch... I spread out across it... and she just wrapped her legs over me. within moments, she's tickling my feet. I just look at her and she smiles.. next thing I know, we're on the couch spooning and I fall asleep... and we just lay there till 4am... but nothing happens. I don't make a move, knowing I probably could. She told me she's not 100% over her ex, even though she's against getting back with him despite his efforts... but she wants to be single for awhile. This occurs one more time... Friday ight into Saturday. Saturday I leave (after sleeping on her sofa b/c I was wayyy too tired to drive home that night - seriously)... she wasn't up yet. I go into my lab. She texts me and next thing I know we're getting coffee together... ****, it ends up we spend the whole day together... we make brunch... put on a movie and just relax all day. That night we go out for ice cream and coffee... since then, it was thanksgiving so we were each at our respective homes... i've asked her to hang out this weekend... and she agreed to. We're going to an art museum.. a nice one at that... I am SO in the wrong. How do I tell the girl I'm dating I'm in an emotional love affair that MAY bring more?
Star Gazer Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Let me understand this. You are in an exclusive relationship with someone who you're having sex with and have pet names for, and you're having an emotional affair with someone else? So, you're cheating. You're another poster who needs external validation. It's so sad to see.
Author Dante311 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Let me understand this. You are in an exclusive relationship with someone who you're having sex with and have pet names for, and you're having an emotional affair with someone else? So, you're cheating. You're another poster who needs external validation. It's so sad to see. It's NOT an exclusive relationship. If anything, but women know I'm seeing the other... so to say.
Star Gazer Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I'm embracing this... for some stupid reason, b/c I'm dating someone, but still in the open dating phase - regardless of the fact we're exclusive in hooking up/sex - and we have pet names for eachother already.. ****. Not exclusive, huh? Then what does the above mean? Pet names, exclusive, sex... This girl is your girlfriend, and you're trying to get with someone else.
Author Dante311 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Not exclusive, huh? Then what does the above mean? Pet names, exclusive, sex... This girl is your girlfriend, and you're trying to get with someone else. meaning we're not hooking up with anyone else, but we are seeing other people... for some reason, I trust her.... and she trusts me.
Author Dante311 Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 Ended it with both of them tonight. I actually feel good.
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