Why do exes lie for no Reasons

[J Wool]

Fellow LSers, I have something I would like your inputs on.

 

During the early stage of she breaking up with me on more than 1 occasions she mentioned that men are so desperate they would do anything to get with a woman. This how she states them

 

 

1. Whenever she & her girlfriends hanging out, even though she is wearing her engagement ring and her friend is a wearing a wedding ring men keeps approaching them offering to buy them a drink or to hang with them.
   
2. I said to her once that I can imagine how many guys are stalking you now that you are single, her response was they don't that she is single and yes too many guys are after her.
   
3. A few days before I moved out she claims that she was going on a date
   
4. On a social site she changed her status to being married as means to keep the guys OFF!!!
   

With all that said above IMO guys have found her to be quite attractive. To make things interesting 4 months after the above she emailed to say that she is dating and at 1st she thought she was not beautiful enough that any1 would want to date her.

 

If you intend to be a liar learn how to remove your footprints 1st.

 

Your inputs guys/ladies

[Nkognito]

Not sure if I follow your post correctly....

 

For one, I was married and yes its true when you have a ring on your finger for some reason it does draw people to antice you. I had several women approach me when I was married. As for guys, I would not approach a married woman, she belongs to someone else. So unless your friend is flaunting herself then I am not sure. But I dont see where she is lying...

[J Wool]

Not sure if I follow your post correctly....

 

For one, I was married and yes its true when you have a ring on your finger for some reason it does draw people to antice you. I had several women approach me when I was married. As for guys, I would not approach a married woman, she belongs to someone else. So unless your friend is flaunting herself then I am not sure. But I dont see where she is lying...

 

Why would she now states that she thinks that she is not attractive enough that some1 would want to date her, when on 4 different occasions she claims that she have to be fending off guys. I mean if anybody is getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex, wouldn't that at least boost their confidence?

[Don_da_Ho]

Most men are not desperate, it's just by nature they do the pursuing. But, questions for you:

 

1. Why are you still pining away?

 

2. Who cares if she lies?

 

3. Who cares if she's attractive to other men or not?

 

Seems like you're struggling to accept that it's over, that men find her attractive and that she's moved on. Sounds like you need to move on too and find someone to date.

[J Wool]

I would advise you not to jump the gun and assume things LS is for a reason and for others to advise each other.

 

Things happen in life which sometimes need clarifying. Non of us knows what the future holds and I'm sure I'm not the only 1 asking questions about the past.

 

Yes I've accepted the BU because:

 

1. I did not become a stalker
   
2. I disappear allowing her to do whatever she wants to do.
   

Put yourself in my shoes. You remain out of sight from your ex then out of the blues she contacted you only to inform you that she is dating which is just 4 months after the BU.

[Don_da_Ho]

Well if your posting about it, obviously you have an issue. Maybe you have "accepted" the BU, but you're really haven't let go. Ok, let's look at it from another angle: she's letting you know you're completely in the friend zone so she doesn't mind flaunting it in your face. Or: she has a mean streak and wants to hurt you by talking about her "attractiveness". Or: both. Either way, I do empathize with you. I would suggest you go NC so she can't tell you this kind of stuff and that you delete her from your facebook.

[J Wool]

Well actually I was in NC, she break it. Since then I've become dormant on everything (msn, fb), we have mutual friends.