Eclypse Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Well I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I recently moved house and I am living VERY far away from her. Driving to each others house is a long, arduous task. So I suggested we stay the night at each others house sometimes. It seems like the logical thing to do, especially since we're sexually active so it's not like it's a barrier. However she doesn't want to do it. She has a ... weird to say the least relationship with her parents. She is 21 but at times seems almost like a child. She has to leave my house at a certain time etc. She doesn't want to bring up the topic of sleepovers to her parents because she thinks they would find it weird and would make her feel uncomfortable or not let her. Me personally my mum thinks it's a good idea (it's a VERY long drive) and if we did that we'd be saving a lot on petrol and time + not having to drive for hours at night. But however we are 20+ years old so I feel we should be able to make our own decisions on stuff like this. Of course it's not the end of the world, but I was just a little saddened that she didn't even want to try asking if we could spend the night together. I mean, this isn't high school anymore... is it? I've known her family for many years now and I'm a well liked and respected member of our community of friends, so it's not like I'm a psycho rapist going to murder and dismember the corpse of their daughter!
Els Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Well I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I recently moved house and I am living VERY far away from her. Driving to each others house is a long, arduous task. So I suggested we stay the night at each others house sometimes. It seems like the logical thing to do, especially since we're sexually active so it's not like it's a barrier. However she doesn't want to do it. She has a ... weird to say the least relationship with her parents. She is 21 but at times seems almost like a child. She has to leave my house at a certain time etc. She doesn't want to bring up the topic of sleepovers to her parents because she thinks they would find it weird and would make her feel uncomfortable or not let her. My experience is, you can't usually reason with parents like this while you are living under their roof.. which she is. Really, the concept is simple - their house, their rules. She already knows they would be uncomfortable, so there would be little point in trying. There really are only two options - for her to move out so she can have more personal and relationship freedom, or for you to accept this.
make me believe Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Well, if I lived at home with my parents I would feel hugely uncomfortable asking them if a BF could sleep over, so I understand where your GF is coming from. She knows her parents better than you do and if she says they'll be weird about it, then you need to accept that. It sucks but there's not really anything you can do about it.
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