larry121 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 hi everyone, my gf just broke up with me at the start of november and yes it hit me pretty hard, now i asked her questions why, and she has given me so many different answers, like: she is living her for now & she wasn;t ready for this relationship she said she wasn't leaving me for another guy etc she has moved away about 2hrs for a job in the town where she is working and we have to sell the house. but she still calls me, the other day i dropped off the kennel off to the guy's work cause i thought it would be the right thing. she is living down there and i dropped the kennel off. about 10 mins later i got an abusive call saying its creepy & i should have consulterd her first. i said i was worried bout the dogs. do you think she still has feelings for me do i still have chance with her? even when she said its over? she still has pics of us up on FB too but i deleted my fb account now. we were together for 2.5 years and gave eachother promise rings for xmas Larry.
ccnaboy2000 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Well there's always a chance, no doubt about that, but no one can for sure tell you what the future holds for you. 2.5 years is a decent amount of time to be in a relationship and develop strong feelings for one another, so despite what you may feel she probably does still have feelings, just not enough at the moment to be with you. Now I can tell you one thing, random drop by's, constantly contacting her, etc is not going to help your case, just push her away farther. Pretty much the best you can do is agree with her about the breakup, be very non confrontational and end it on good terms. From there it's pretty important you just go silent, dont contact her at all. And dont respond to her contacting you either, unless of course you hear the "I made a mistake I want you back" No the main reason I say dont contact her is because this will give you the space and time to pull yourself together and get yourself into a better frame of mind. It's not easy, believe me I know. But it's important. It's good you said you deleted your FB, when you go no contact, this includes not cyberstalking her! Go out on some dates, you might feel this is hard and that your betraying the memory of your relationship, but its pretty important, it will help you regain your self esteem thats probably taken a big hit. Now if your lucky some time has passed and by not talking to each other you've not only started to pull yourself together mentally and emotionally, but your ex might start missing you, might feel like she made a mistake. I cant promise you this will happen but believe me in the end you will feel a lot better regardless of what direction it decides to take. Stay strong man! You can do this! :)
Author larry121 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 ok thanks mate, i just a got a msg back she said it has been brewing up for a long time she nearly left me in the last house b4 the 1 we bought together she said i need to take time out for my an sort out my life she said im a good person and i dun need to prove anything.n said do things for me and no1 else. she said she still cares for me but i need to let go because its over (which i accpeted) i will support you as a good friend as you need she said thoughts?
Leandro Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 she wasn;t ready for this relationship she said she wasn't leaving me for another guy etc . My ex told me this when she left me. Turns out that she did leave me for another guy, but I'm not saying that she did it to you. I hope she didn't and that she told you the truth.
Author larry121 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 so do i dude, but if she said she still cares, would i even have a slight chance? my chic mate said you should bring a girl down to the hockey club and if you get a reaction that means someting is still there. i deactivated fb coz i know it has been a problem for me then she blocked me off fb cause she thought i "de-friended" her, her status was has cut some dead wood...and it felt great i told her i deactivated fb coz it was the right thing to do but i have 2 use it again for the hockey club. we both have pics of us up on our pages....i think we need time apart this breakup must be a good thing i guess . thoughts anyone?
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