marg Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I am recently divorced after 16 yrs. He cheated had a gf and I was left just boggled by the whole thing! I'm a strong independent woman with a career and a great family and circle of friends. I haven't however dated for a long time!!! I'm 36 and a sz 10 not Ms America but not ugly either. My question is are there sign to look for when there is interest? I love to flirt and because of that maybe I just think its all just in fun. Any advice would be so welcome!
Author marg Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Wow then this whole tango is a lot easier than it used to be! I hope it is that simple. Maybe I'm just not ready to dance yet.
Surrealist Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Wow then this whole tango is a lot easier than it used to be! I hope it is that simple. Maybe I'm just not ready to dance yet. Times have changed, there's a lot more game playing than years back, though some people will beg to differ. For example, guys might tell you how much they love you and want to spend the rest of their life with you and it will be bliss and we'll live happily ever after, until such time they get their doodle wet and then they don't want anything further until such time their libido recovers, repeat ad infinitum.
imktmontral Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 If you want to know, just ask the guy, I'm pretty sure he would answer!
yessy21 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 He will tell you. But dont take any of them serious until they Show you their serious.
Green Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Wow then this whole tango is a lot easier than it used to be! I hope it is that simple. Maybe I'm just not ready to dance yet. you just have to trust yourself. If a guy asks you out and keeps making time for you two to spend togather then you know. Obviously a guy can ask you out and then disapear but if he keeps seeing you then he probably likes you... and you obviously like him if your willing to keep seeing him
hydorclops Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 He will tell you. But dont take any of them serious until they Show you their serious. their vs. they're makes a big difference in this sentence.
yessy21 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 their vs. they're makes a big difference in this sentence. LMao sorry... unproper vocabulary. hey I make mistakes all the time.
Flirt Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Learn to read and understand body language. There is a ton of free material you can find to educate yourself.
somedude81 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 How can i tell if a man thinks I'm attractive? Simple, if you catch him staring at you, he thinks your attractive. If he gives you more attention than other women, he's interested. If he invites you do something/go somewhere and it will be just the two of you, that a huge sign he's interested, somehow most women don't pick up on that...
Green Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Simple, if you catch him staring at you, he thinks your attractive. If he gives you more attention than other women, he's interested. If he invites you do something/go somewhere and it will be just the two of you, that a huge sign he's interested, somehow most women don't pick up on that... Women don't automaticly think a guy who invites them out on a date is attracted or romanticly interested... thats why as the man you have to KISS the girl
phineas Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Women don't automaticly think a guy who invites them out on a date is attracted or romanticly interested... thats why as the man you have to KISS the girl I agree with this. Also the word "date" is subjective. Sometimes a first date doesn't become a date unless there is a 2nd date & he makes a move. It can be very confusing. Oh & Green, Nice avatar!
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 He will tell you. But dont take any of them serious until they Show you their serious. Don't you think it's a little perverted of a guy to show you his "serious" before you have established the groundwork of your relationship?
ConstantCraving Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I am recently divorced after 16 yrs. He cheated had a gf and I was left just boggled by the whole thing! I'm a strong independent woman with a career and a great family and circle of friends. I haven't however dated for a long time!!! I'm 36 and a sz 10 not Ms America but not ugly either. My question is are there sign to look for when there is interest? I love to flirt and because of that maybe I just think its all just in fun. Any advice would be so welcome! As Green said, if a guy asks you out that certainly indicates interest. However, there are no guarantees of WHY he is interested in you. You'll have to cross (or not cross) that bridge when you come to it. I would advise you to pay more attention to what a man DOES than what he actually SAYS.
Author marg Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 Thanks everyone so much. So yeah I am scared its tricky out there. I really just want to get out have some fun laugh dance and enjoy life for awhile. Nothing complicated or serious. I sometimes worry maybe I am so independant that it maybe a turnoff but determined to be myself!
carhill Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 How recent is the divorce? Considering what precipitated it, what's your current perspective on men? Men our age generally ask women out because they want to have sex with them. There's really no other tangible reason to socialize. That sounds harsh, but think about all the great times you have with family and friends. How you feel loved and valued. You can laugh, dance and enjoy life with them. What is it about a man which brings more to that party? TBH, I couldn't give you a straight answer about how to tell if a man *genuinely* finds you attractive. Life experience has taught me that the only sure way to know is, when you find yourself coming to the end of life, he is there holding your hand looking lovingly and sadly into your eyes. That may sound effed up, but it is the fruit of my path. Best wishes to you on your path
Author marg Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 Carhill My divorce is very recent and yes I think I need validation that I am a beautiful worthy woman. I have been in this marriage for almost 16 yrs and TBH I am sad as hell I will never have a 50th wedding anniversary, or that I may never find someone to look lovingly at me in my last days. Right now I'm dealing with being 36 yrs old and the future I thought I had just fell to pieces. Some days I am face the world with my head held high confident and some days I am like a scared teenager with no clue! I am having a bit of a hard day today so sry I think I kinda needed to pour all that out...lol.
Green Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Carhill My divorce is very recent and yes I think I need validation that I am a beautiful worthy woman. I have been in this marriage for almost 16 yrs and TBH I am sad as hell I will never have a 50th wedding anniversary, or that I may never find someone to look lovingly at me in my last days. Right now I'm dealing with being 36 yrs old and the future I thought I had just fell to pieces. Some days I am face the world with my head held high confident and some days I am like a scared teenager with no clue! I am having a bit of a hard day today so sry I think I kinda needed to pour all that out...lol. I get scared to some times and I'm a BIG MAN. And you could still have a 50th wedding aniversary it would just be at a much later age lol. Don't overthink this, live in the here and now. Also have some fun. Men can be real perverts so watch out for that unless that sounds fun lol
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