Dognut63 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Met in 1994, married in 1997..We have been living like roomates since June 2006..He is in the basement, (HIS CHOICE) and I am upstairs..It is a relationship of convenience..both of us have a nice income..nice house..but there is so much to a marriage..People call me the married widow..as he never wants to go anywhere..( We have had no sex since 2007)..So when is it time to say AU REVOIR?
Silly_Girl Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Someone who's ready to walk away won't be stopped by any practical issues, while someone who isn't ready will find it extremely hard to leave, even though nothing stands in the way. There is no "should" when it comes to our feelings. Very, very true. That's why there's rarely anything to be gained by trying to understand another's actions, in these scenarios.
PlanetJanet Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 1. How long has the affair/relationship been going on 27 months 2. How many times of NC one that lasted for 6 months, at least a few periods of 3 weeks or so when he would disappear. We worked together so at one point when he 'broke it off' we still had to see each other - and sit all of 5 feet apart. 3. At what point did you end it for good. I mean really end it. Supposed to be ending it tomorrow. Meeting to have "the talk" but not sure how that is going to go. Will I have the girl cajones to tell him "NO MORE"?
JsSweetPea Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Just curious those who are/were involved with MM or MW: 1. How long has the affair/relationship been going on 2. How many times of NC 3. At what point did you end it for good. I mean really end it. Just curious... 1. 9 Months 2. None 3. We're still happily going strong... Although he just informed me he's leaving his wife in June. If that doesn't happen I'm gone. I never asked him to leave, but I think it's important he sticks by what he says.
Ladyblue Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 EA lasted 2 years, 8 months, 7 days. Two times NC. The first time, he just didn't call, and didn't return my calls/texts. Lasted about a month. Then one day he showed back up with some lame excuse. I was so glad to have him back in my life, I didn't care. The second NC was the final one. I was tired and fed up with the empty bed, empty breakfast table, empty promises, empty life when he really (supposedly) had nothing to hold him there. Grown kids, wife in PA, we'd known each other and been in love all our lives. it got to the point that it almost seemed he was being cruel to me. I am single. He was always asking me to wait for him, to be faithful to him...while he stayed with wife. While I was facing life alone, he was with wife. That just began to seem incredibly selfish and uncaring on his part. We've been NC about 2 1/2 months now. It still hurts, down to a dull, choking ache. But the pain of loving and waiting was worse. I'm pretty sure I would not take him back under any circumstance.
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