U1987 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Trying to meet girls in real life isn't working out well. I'm trying to work on online dating again. I'm wondering what everyone thinks of my Plenty of Fish profile. For the tag next to my name, it says "Don't get crazy gurl" Intent ______ wants to date but nothing serious.Relationship History The Longest Relationship _______ has been in was over 1 year longGeneric Do you drink? Socially Marital Status Single Profession sales associate + band Smarts Some college Do you want children? Does not want children Do you do drugs? No Do you have children? No Do you have a car? YesAbout Me I study molecular biology at _______. I want to specialize in either neuromuscular biology, virology or environmental microbiology. I also work part time at ________. My coworkers are really cool, and the customers always make it a lot of fun (I never would have imagined how strange some people could be until I started working at the mall) I enjoy reading (about science and current events mostly). I've traveled to Southeast Asia, Central America and Europe. I appreciate modern art and will go to any museum and art gallery more than a couple of times. I also love live music, and will go anywhere that has a band playing (jazz and classic rock especially) I'm not super-outdoorsy, but I love being out in the sun and chilling in the heat in humidity. I love winter-hiking though (more of a challenge and there aren't any bugs or mosquitoes) I also play bass guitar for a local cover band. It's my biggest passion. There's nothing is more thrilling than playing in front of an audience, big or small, and they're all dancing and singing to you. I have some avant-garde tastes, but most of all, I'm a bit of an 80s nut. I'll be smooth when I need to be, but a bit of a goof when I want to be.First Date Admire (or make fun of) some modern art exhibits at the gallery or museum. Then off for some live music. After, explore for what ever looks fun late into the night.
Author U1987 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Blah, blah, blah - are you hot? I really don't want to plaster my pictures on here. I don't anyone who I MAY know to stumble on here and recognize me. If you want I can send you the link to the actual profile via private message.
Jannah Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Blah, blah, blah - are you hot? I was wondering the same thing. Because, if you're going to write this in your profile: ______ wants to date but nothing serious. ....You better be hot! Oh, and rich too.
Knittress Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I really don't want to plaster my pictures on here. I don't anyone who I MAY know to stumble on here and recognize me. If you want I can send you the link to the actual profile via private message. I was teasing, yet making a point at the same time. Words are great but that's not really the deciding factor in deciding whether someone holds romantic/sexual potential. Why do you care what I think of your pics anyhow? I like a certain type. (Nerdy cuddlesluts, generally) Though... ACTUALLY, we have enough in common that we could probably hang out just fine.
In The Green Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 The tagline you said you post next to your name would almost make me skip over you, its a little annoying. "Don't Get Crazy Gurl"? What's that about? (unless its a line from a movie I'm not familiar with?) I just don't think it will do you justice or contribute to your profile.
Green Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Ur profile is bad. I'm a guy so you may not care what I think. First off INTERNET DATING is BAD for MEN. You have a much better chance asking out the cute girl in line infront of you at the supermarket then finding a date online. Just put Looking for a relationship... no one expects you to make a seriouse comitment from day one... heck most girls will have sex with you before you have the "you are my gf and I am your bf and we will date no one else talk..." and no one likes talking anything beyond we are dating until a good deal of time has passed. as for your science stuff... why not just leave it as "I'm going to be a scientist." and leave the other stuff out. Then how about "I'm looking for some one laugh and have good times with" then just leave it at that. Not make it to WORDY. Also be sure to put up a really good looking pic of yourself.
Knittress Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I agree with Green that online dating is probably not the best way to meet people. There's something tepid about online dating, and as a great many of us chicks are more on the passive side anyway, we're more likely to wander off to the park with our friends than bother with online penpals. (That being said, online dating led to a three year relationship for me) But bad? Too wordy? Play to your audience! If the OP was cute and not-so-young I'd probably go for him.
Author U1987 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 So how does this sound, slightly revised? I'm ________ and I'm studying to be a molecular biologist at _______. I also work part time at ________. My coworkers are really cool, and the customers always make it a lot of fun (I never would have imagined how strange some people could be until I started working at the mall) I've traveled to Southeast Asia, Central America and Europe. I appreciate modern art and will go to any museum and art gallery more than a couple of times. I also love live music, and will go anywhere that has a band playing (jazz and classic rock especially) I'm not super-outdoorsy, but I love being out in the sun and chilling in the heat in humidity. I love winter-hiking though (more of a challenge and there aren't any bugs or mosquitoes) Also, I normally have brown hair, but since I like being in the sun the and swimming, my hair tends to turn dirty-blond during the summer. I also play bass guitar for a local cover band. There's nothing greater than playing in front of an audience, big or small, and they're all dancing and singing to you. My favorite drinks are Gentleman Jack, Johnny Walker and Grey Goose straight. I have some avant-garde tastes, but most of all, I'm a bit of an 80s nut. I'll be smooth when I need to be, but a bit of a goof when I want to be.
Author U1987 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 If I was a girl looking for sex Very few girls are looking for simply just sex. Most want to date or a relationship. Type in "casual encounters" in POF and the number of women who come up is, I'm not joking, about 5% of what would have come up if you put "dating" or "relationship." I think the best bet is to go for normal, relationship-oriented girls but try to coax them into trying casual hooking up.
Mad Max Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I agree with Green in that online dating is horrible for men. Most of the men there aren't that good looking, but that's not even the main issue. Most have issues of some sort. All a woman has to do is post a picture of herself that looks halfway decent and they'll get hits with no problem. I feel that most of the women on those sites have just as many issues as the men, but women have a much easier time.
Star Gazer Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I think the best bet is to go for normal, relationship-oriented girls but try to coax them into trying casual hooking up. How do you plan on doing this? Lying to them? Leading them to believe you're interested in a relationship? Knowing full well what they want, to pursue them is manipulative, IMHO. And FWIW, casual sex or not, I wouldn't respond to the profile as drafted. It reads very....dull. I wouldn't want a dull boyfriend, nor a dull sex partner.
Star Gazer Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 OP: You have indicated a million times that you're just looking for casual sex. What about just going to a bar/club and hitting on sleezy looking girls, and seeing who will willingly go home with you?
Jannah Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 "Don't get crazy gurl" sounds a bit homo'ish.... It sounds kinda funny.
Green Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 "Don't get crazy gurl" sounds a bit homo'ish.... It sounds kinda funny. would "Don't flash me gurl" sound homo'ish? cause thats what I sugest he goes for "homo'ish...."
radiokilledthetvstar Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 You sound sweet but telling me you're a microbiologist wouldn't really appeal to most people. I'd stick to talking about your passion for music, that's something a lot more people will find some common ground with. I used POF for a while but it's got a lot of sleazy people on there. I took my own advice in the end and put my profile on http://www.tastebuds.fm It's meant for people who like music and I don't get messages asking for sex all the time which is really nice. The guys seem interesting too, probably been on more dates from there than ones like match.com or run of the mill places. P.S. get a picture, us girls aren't all vain but looks are still important.
flying Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 (edited) Since I'm a science geek, I might actually be interested in the microbiology thing...but definitely not for a hookup! Seriously, I don't think this will work as is...if what you want is just a casual fling, then talking about your career path, appreciating art or how your hair turns golden in the sunshine probably isn't going to get you there. It's all much too relationshippy and that sends the wrong message. Your goal: casual sex. Thus: shorten the profile to something like: "I'm a bass-playing science student with a taste for Gentleman Jack. I love live music, and will go anywhere that has a band playing. And there's nothing greater than playing in front of an audience, big or small, when they're all dancing and singing to you. Hit me up if you want to know more." Edited December 1, 2010 by flying
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Wow, Flying, that is GREAT! To the OP - there is NOTHING in your profile to inspire any sex-minded girl to choose you for a casual hookup. What is sexy about you? We all know you just want casual sex - why would a girl choose YOU for that?
flying Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Wow, Flying, that is GREAT! To the OP - there is NOTHING in your profile to inspire any sex-minded girl to choose you for a casual hookup. What is sexy about you? We all know you just want casual sex - why would a girl choose YOU for that? Just call me Cyrano.
yessy21 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Good luck cause god knows even if you are hot it aint happening... She will have to be pretty incompetent to date someone when shes looking for something possibly serious. A woman will not be in a dating site if shes not looking for something serious.
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 When it comes to looking for "dating but nothing serious" (which most people can decode to mean "flings") I'd say what you write counts for about 15% of the deal. Pictures are 85%. I know this from experience. A woman will not be in a dating site if shes not looking for something serious. Not necessarily true. I was. I was on OkCupid for a short duration about 2-3 years ago looking for the exact same thing the OP is looking for now. But, I gotta say OP, when it came to the pursuit of a casual fling, I pretty much browsed by pictures. Profiles came into play eventually, but I only viewed the profiles of the most attractive men I saw.
irc333 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Interesting, I had women telling me other wise...I kept arguing how I send out nice well-written emails, and well, I kept thinking they take ONE look at the picture, and "Delete" (sometimes UNREAD/Delete - which affirms ALL they care about is looks. and never look for substance, just care about the pictures. But I'm hearing from women they read very carefully the profiles/emails....but I still doubt that. When it comes to looking for "dating but nothing serious" (which most people can decode to mean "flings") I'd say what you write counts for about 15% of the deal. Pictures are 85%. I know this from experience. Not necessarily true. I was. I was on OkCupid for a short duration about 2-3 years ago looking for the exact same thing the OP is looking for now. But, I gotta say OP, when it came to the pursuit of a casual fling, I pretty much browsed by pictures. Profiles came into play eventually, but I only viewed the profiles of the most attractive men I saw.
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Interesting, I had women telling me other wise...I kept arguing how I send out nice well-written emails, and well, I kept thinking they take ONE look at the picture, and "Delete" (sometimes UNREAD/Delete - which affirms ALL they care about is looks. and never look for substance, just care about the pictures. But I'm hearing from women they read very carefully the profiles/emails....but I still doubt that. Don't misunderstand me...had I been looking for relationship material, profiles and e-mails would have been hugely important determining factors in the men I chose to contact. But I wasn't. I was looking for a casual sex partner (same as the OP). And in that case all those other factors pretty much go out the window. A woman who is looking for a relationship is foolish do browse solely by pictures and ignore profiles/e-mails.
ConstantCraving Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Trying to meet girls in real life isn't working out well. I'm trying to work on online dating again. I'm wondering what everyone thinks of my Plenty of Fish profile. POF is a total sausage fest. The free aspect of it seems to attract a ton of guys. The women who do join are super-flaky. They are JUST PLAYING. You can mess around with your profile from now until the heat death of the universe and your results won't get any better. If you are very good-looking or very successful (good job or rich) then you might get some results, but otherwise, look into one of the many dating sites that charges a subscription.
Author U1987 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 When it comes to looking for "dating but nothing serious" (which most people can decode to mean "flings") I'd say what you write counts for about 15% of the deal. Pictures are 85%. I know this from experience. Should I switch to "looking for relationship" then? I've heard that putting "looking for relationship" on a profile makes a guy look desperate though
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