Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Ok I need to know I won't play the waiting game. He left me saturday night has already made positive communication with me. Are first meeting was good I still felt the sparks. long story short... I offered him friendship I know I want him back its the only way we can recconect. He says he truly wants to see me everytime I try to take back the friendship he won't let me. He wants to come see me I am getting anxious I feel like I can't wait. He is thinking friday has definetly said I want to see you! not just our baby. but see me!! I can't wait to long and won't I don't care about his confusion its my well being i need to protect!!! I tell him I don't want anthing to do with it basically f it I don't want friends were over! he says Wow! I exploded and said plenty of angry things but we have never called eachother names and I never did that! He said he needed time! His txt after my explostion! He says he understands why Im so upset! He says just realax a little bit and take a breather it will be ok. My reply patients was never my strong point Im sorry and I am trying! then i said Ok I will be ok. I said whats going to be ok? Your probably don't even know yourself do you! He says things will be ok we will figure out the best route for us. I say so see and it sounds like a positive thing. So then I think thats how I should take it/ Then I realize in fact it could be completley diffrent. The guessing game is wearing me thin. He says if I wanted to be negative with you, I would be obviously negatvie.. Pls advice!!!
Don_da_Ho Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Advice? Sorry, but I think you're holding on to false hope. Your idea of "staying friends" isn't going to work into getting him back. Going NC and not being his friend and not telling him what you're doing might. That's a long shot and you shouldn't put hope into that either. NC is for you to give you the time and space that YOU need to start to heal and move on with your life. I think the rest of what he's telling you is just a means to keep you online as friends. That's what HE wants. He's not telling you anything concrete because he has nothing concrete to offer you. Hence the vagueness of his "answers". Of course you will do as you like, but I think you'll get dragged along in the mud for quite a while with this guy and at some point you'll realize it's going no where. I would advise a clean break.
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 Its not that easy as I posted in my other post we have a child together. I am the one that asked if we could be friends and he agreed. Then I started regreting it because I don't want false hope. He is confused about things right now and says he needs time I have been confused as well and in doubt. Not as much as him though. When I tell him I don't know if I can be friends he says its only been a few days and to have some patients in the going slow. He is coming over tomorrow I am looking forward to seeing him. But am still not so sure how I feel about anything anymore. Alot weighs in my ultimate decision of getting back together. He has said alot of positive things about seeing me tomorrow. I guess we will see how it goes.
Don_da_Ho Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 On either post, my advice as above is the same. Don't hold onto hope. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 (edited) ty for taking the time for me don.. I will defiently let you know how I feel about things tomorrow after we meet. This will be the second times since the breakup. The first time things were amazing. I excpected to be just wanting himt o leave but i didn't. I just felt things not just with me but from him. But the way he kept smiling blushing and went after me for a hug. I think thats what has been prolonging my hope. One thing I need to make clear is even though I am doing contact and keeping things open. I am moving on with my life and even when I am to tired to do it I force myself to be positve about my life in general and get my butt out of bed! So people who read this don't think I am waiting around. I may be hoping and doing everything I know I can do to make this work. If he leaves things to long he knows things will be over. So even though alot of u might not beleive in fate. I just think things will happen if they are ment to be but being negatvie about them ignoring him won't bring it back. Eventually I am going to have to do nc because of how much I love him. That sux... I will let you all know. Edited December 3, 2010 by Jdw_Icequeen
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