Girls: how do you respond to love letters?

[lovebitme]

I'm just wondering at what point is it OK to write a love letter or email to a girl you're interested in. I'm not talking about a LTR. I'm talking about someone who you've been spending time with and you think it's time to express your feelings for them.

 

I'm sure some girls in here have gotten these type of letters from time to time. I'm not very good with speaking words but I'm a type of writer. I keep a journal, write stuff ect. It's just my style.

 

I guess it all depends on how the girl feels about you. If she likes you, she's going to love it right? If the feelings aren't mutual then it's a lost cause.

 

I guess I'm thinking about expressing my feelings for someone who I'm not really sure where she is at with me but I'm ready to take a shot or move on. So what's wrong with a little love letter if I'm willing to except the results whatever they may be?

[Knittress]

From one romantically inclined writer to another - DON'T DO IT. It's cheesy, it's creepy, it's weird. The good thing about expressing feelings in-person is that you can ease into things and respond to their mood - this is much better than the sledgehammer effect of just shoving a letter at them. How much can you mean it if you can't do it to their face, anyhow? If you're sitting alone fantasizing about your interactions, we'll that's more of a in-love-with-love scenario. Show your affections, don't talk about them.

[Sabali]

Man, you almost made me choke on my coco puffs.

 

Please don't write a letter. Please. I can almost feel my own testicles shrinking just thinking about it.

[nsearch4u]

I say dont do it......I write love letters every day but thats a different story.....

 

What i've found is some women really adore it. Some classify it as total BS. And some just dont like it. So, if you dont know how she feels about "love letters", just write a letter that isnt so full of "the sun on your cheek" and try to keep it from sounding like its a movie line or something that someones already said.....

 

Just write a letter from you. Be sincere. Keep it short. A note that says "im thinking of you" goes a lot further than a "love letter".....A love letter can sometimes be taken the wrong way.....a "thinking of you" letter is just that....it's so much better especially if you dont know how she'll react....

 

 

If this is a relationship that continues, you'll find her love language (which you should anyway) and you'll know what to give her. Too many times we give what WE think the other person wants instead of giving what THEY want/need.....

 

Just a note......"thinking of you".......peace....

Edited December 1, 2010 by nsearch4u

[Feelin Frisky]

I'm just wondering at what point is it OK to write a love letter or email to a girl you're interested in. I'm not talking about a LTR. I'm talking about someone who you've been spending time with and you think it's time to express your feelings for them.

 

I'm sure some girls in here have gotten these type of letters from time to time. I'm not very good with speaking words but I'm a type of writer. I keep a journal, write stuff ect. It's just my style.

 

I guess it all depends on how the girl feels about you. If she likes you, she's going to love it right? If the feelings aren't mutual then it's a lost cause.

 

I guess I'm thinking about expressing my feelings for someone who I'm not really sure where she is at with me but I'm ready to take a shot or move on. So what's wrong with a little love letter if I'm willing to except the results whatever they may be?

 

I wouldn't presume to tell you not to do it. I bolded some things in your post which I quoted: yes, it depends on how the girl feels about you but NO she doesn't automatically like a love letter. Whether she receives it favorably and thinks better of your for it depends on your sesintivity to who she is and not as much on what you want to say. Surely we all like to know when someone we like or love, likes or loves us back. But no one likes to be put on the spot or discover something about you in print that doesn't wash with who she thinks you are otherwise. So, what I'm saying is there is a difference between a love note and a love letter. Do you really think a letter is approriate? (Maybe if you're off to war and might not come back alive). Or is a shorter note saying something perhaps sweet, genteel, cheeky or cute more what she'll respond to?

 

My guess is that no one will fault you for too short a love note. They can however fault you if you gush too much and it goes on and on too much about you and sort of forgets about her and the position you might be putting her in. So, a smaller note to see how she responds to the idea at all is probably safe and will be received as a nice gesture. It's like a e-mail or a text or a call but it's on good old fashioned paper in your own hand. What could be wrong about that? You don't want to knock her out with some massive confession she might think is weird or creepy though.

[make me believe]

Oh god. This is a horrible, horrible idea! If you are interested in somebody, you ask them on a date. You do NOT write them some sappy love letter. Even if I liked a guy, if he wrote me a love letter before we'd established some sort of romantic relationship with each other, it would probably ruin my attraction to him. Love letters are for somebody that you actually know and TRULY love. Not someone you are interested in going on a date with or that you think you "love" based on a few platonic interactions. Seriously...just ask her on a date, don't give her a letter. Wait until you're in a relationship with her, then you can write all the letters you want.