andyohyeah Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I have been on loveshack for a couple weeks now reading other peoples stories trying to relate and heal... I finally wanted to get my breakup off my chest. dated in college for about 3 years (a couple week long breaks here and there) well this summer I could see the breakup coming a mile away. she started acting more distant, drinking more, new set of girlfriends, new roommate aka best friend etc... the phone calls went from talking daily to every other to a couple times a week. then one day I realized she hasn't even been to my place in over a month. we would still go out on dates and when we were together everything was great, or sex life was amazing, but as soon as I wasn't around she acted cold and distant. hell the last time we physically hung out we had a great time together and had sex 3 times. a couple days later I text her to see if she wanted to grab some dinner/drinks. "she responded with sorry I'm busy for the rest of the week, but we should plan a time to talk next week" LOL I've heard the we need to talk before and know exactly what that means. I've always been the one trying in the relationship and fighting to make things right. I just responded back saying "no need its fine, probably long over due, and I have no ill feelings for you. she responded we have great memories together and blah blah blah. Well its been over a month today of NC and its her birthday today. Part of me is sad and wants her back, but when I sit here and type this out and look at what actually happened I could care less what she is doing. Was I wrong to deny her a face to face meeting? I mean come on she pretty much told me it was over via text whats the point of meeting up after that. anyways I feel much better and I appreciate posts. I am glad that this forum exists!
poorguy Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Acting distant, drinking, new friends, new best friend. Wow does her name start with a E by any chance??? That's my story to a tee. No you didn't do anything wrong in this situation. What happened is you saw it coming and she had already left in her mind. You basically served your purpose for her and new new new probably seemed like more fun fun fun. She's all about her so you be all about you and don't contact her. don;t wish her a happy birthday-that's what her new friends are for and trust me when I tell you they are not on your side anyways. They probably made her mind up for her to leave and party or what not. Just let her be and grow and make more invaluable changes in her life only without you. By the way just in case I sounded bitter.I'm not. I wish your ex the best as well as mine. They go through these changes only to realize what they actually left down the road as long as you keep gone. I know mine does now.........So Happy Birthday whatever your name is.......There I just did all the work for you tonight
Author andyohyeah Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 lol it doesn't sound bitter you actually made me laugh
poorguy Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Haha good... Girlfriend+new bff's= kiss of death-and so be it lol
Idalis Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 You did the right thing in not meeting with her if you knew what the text meant. You should never be the only one working to keep a relationship alive, it should be both people involved. Sounds like you are making a good recovery, and although it is natural to miss someone and think of them on their bday, tomorrow will be a new day
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