primer Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 For those of you waiting and hoping for a second chance, do you ever give up? When is it time to move on? Okay, you regret breaking off the relationship. You realize things really weren't that bad with your ex. You want a second chance. How long do you hope for this second chance? What if the ex has moved on and is a LTR?
Jdw_Icequeen Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I live in day to day confusion the hardest thing can be to agree with yourself with what you really want. Some moments I feel like giving up others I feel like there is a shot. This can only signal I need time to figure out what I want. I will definetly get myself to the point of moving on. Suprisingly enough it will hit you like a stone in the head!! You will know when its right to move on completley at that point even if they come back you will probably find thats not what you want. The best thing to do though is do everything in your power to force yourself to move on. Its tough but the win-win!! You will feel stronger and more confident. I'm not saying that you won't have a second chance. I know its hard not to dwell on. But thinking and dwelling on it is one of the worst things you can do. I am no acception we all have that problem when in hope!! But if your ex is saying she is moved on I definetly suggest you do the same!
Nkognito Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I don't really give up but I don't keep holding a candle. I get to a point that I know who I am, what I have going for me and who I can be and how I treat someone. I treated my previous girlfriend pretty good I think but it did not work out. I have been going out with friends and doing my own thing. I am to a point where I no longer care about rules. I am not hounding her but I have contacted her three times (2 calls, 1 text apology) during the 2 months we have been apart. I received a text reply but that is all. I recently left her a voicemail which I am unsure if I will hear back. The thing is I am also talking to other girls and having fun. I got to a point where I realized that I need to live because you only get 1 of these lives. I can spend months bottled up in my place or I can get out and do stuff. They will think of you again, they will miss something you did, a time you shared. Regardless how you feel now, they (dumpers) will do just that. I can remember all of my pet animals and while I did not have the same type of bond, I still remember times with them. So even if us (dumpess's) are placed into this lower level of appreciation, somewhere out there a person who took a chance to be with us will still remember a time of fondness we shared. While I can't make her change her mind or change someones behavior, I can appreciate myself and respect myself in a way that makes me proud that someone liked me just the way I am, even if it was for a brief moment in time. That makes me confident to know that I can do this again and again and again until someone comes along and does not tire of it.
Gt.ooh Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 You cannot hope for a second chance. The more you "hope", the more you bring yourself turmoil. I was in your shoes 1.5 months ago. You just can't hope, you have to let it happen. I recently just started dating again, it feels good...but I do still have these sharp mental pains from time to time. The best thing you can do is go to the gym, go out with friends, and spoil yourself with something you've wanted but couldn't have it in a relationship.
SimonSerenade Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I tried my hardest to get her back since she split with me in August, Sent her email after email with meaningful words, Rang her and begged, cried etc even tried being her friend at one point but nothing worked so now I'm in no contact, I've sent her a hand written letter along with a necklace with Mother on it and a mix cd with some nice songs on it, I feel better now like I've gotten my closure and slowly but surely I'm getting back my self confidence and self belief, If she come's back now I'm not sure what my decision would be, I suppose the trick is to just get on with your life like she never existed and worry about her when she comes knocking on your door with a bunch of roses, I learned there's nothing else you can really do until that point.
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