TheGrimSweeper Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 This girl has broken my heart twice now and I'm once again left in confusion. We first dated for a year and 4 months.. it all went really well, she was crazy in love with me the whole time. It went downhill once she got really busy with school and her mom got diagnosed with MS. She became unhappy and ended it because she said she needed time to find herself and jsut couldn't be in a relationship right now maybe in the future. All while saying this still saying she loved me and I was perfect. She wanted / almost begged to stay friends and I did reluctantly at first. About a month after staying friends I realized I couldn't do it, told her so that I can't be friends and did no contact. 3 weeks later she came back saying she made a mistake, loved me and wanted to be with me. We were back together for 6 months until now when she ended it again. Her parents are seperating and its been going on for months, its finally happened that her dad has moved out and needless to say its hit her really hard. Shes become incredibly unhappy and depressed all the time and has been pushing me away. She's now saying she needs some time alone, to figure out who she is again (she's starting therapy soon) and doesn't want to be in a relationship. She asked me to remain friends again for, to take a step back but I said no this time and now im going back to no contact with her. Meanwhile she once again wrote me a huge letter, saying how she knows she'll never find anyone like me ever again but its just not a good time for her to be in a relationship. I can understand going through this once but not twice. Reason why I dont know if I can believe her, the first time we broke up she fooled around with a guy a couple times. Afterword she said he meant nothing and it was just a rebound, but recently ive noticed shes been texting this same guy a lot more again, even though shes claimed theyve just become really close friends now. Ill point out that I'm 24 and shes 20, I realize the age difference here and that she won't be as grounded as she would be in a couple years.
fishtaco Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Repeat after me... I am not a toilet. I don't get used when needed and then promptly forgotten when their business is done. When she needed you, oh and she did -- have you ever had to pee like mad? I mean you'd skip over a tasty steak and head straight for the bathroom. And boy do you love the sight of that toilet. But after you're done, you wash your hands (hopefully), and you're outta there. Now you're thinking about the steak, not that contraption you just peed on. Don't be the toilet. There's nothing confusing about it. You're just her toilet when she needed to pee. Here's a rule, never make excuses for the other person. That's their job.
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