She blew me off once, but still remembers and laughs at my old jokes: Second Chance?

[U1987]

So at the beginning of the semester, I asked out my lab partner, but she never got back to me. It was a bit awkward for a while, but I got past it. I posted about it a long time ago (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t245215/)

 

The thing is that to this day, when we're working together, she'll just start laughing out of nowhere and say she just remembered a joke I told WEEKS ago.

 

Example, I when we got our first lab-test results back, I didn't look at them. I told her that I don't like to know my test grades because I'm confident I did well and I wanted it to be a surprise at the end of the semester. She thought that was funny. When we got our 3rd test results today, I again turned it over and looked away. She started laughing and imitated my spiel from way back about not wanting to know my test grades.

 

Another example, a few weeks ago we were using force-transducers (those things that make squiggly lines on a graph whenever force is applied to a small lever) to measure muscle contraction in frog legs. I came in late and said, "Alright, what is this? A time machine? Okay, this must be the temporal displacement device. That's the wormhole generator. How do you charge up the flux capacitor?" She got a kick out of that.

 

Today, we had the force-transducers out again. When I came in, she said "Look, we're using the time machine again. And I charged up the flux capacitor this time."

 

There are a few other instances, but the point is, she always remembers my jokes, and brings them up days, even weeks later for a laugh. Is that a good sign? Think I've won a second chance with this girl?

[waynesworld]

Maybe she thinks you're funny, but isn't interested in you? Hard to say. Because she blew you off once already I'd let her initiate this time around. Question though, why would you want to date a lab partner? Couldn't it make future labs awkward if it doesn't work out?

[U1987]

Maybe she thinks you're funny, but isn't interested in you? Hard to say. Because she blew you off once already I'd let her initiate this time around. Question though, why would you want to date a lab partner?

 

She's hot.

 

Couldn't it make future labs awkward if it doesn't work out?

There are only 2 weeks of school left.

[O'Malley]

Most likely she just feels comfortable with you at this point, so it's easier for her to joke and tease.

 

Does she seek you out, initiate more of the conversations with you, find excuses to touch you, ask you about your personal life? That's better indicators of interest on her part.

 

If school is ending and you don't feel you have anything to lose but a little pride, there's no harm in asking her if she'd like to grab a bite to eat with you after class (or make it a specific day and time). Regardless of her response, just let her see the best of you -- don't appear as if it's a big deal that she isn't interested in you romantically. Joke it off and change the topic. And if she turns you down a second time, you need to take your focus off her entirely.

[zig]

Dude, If anyone of us had the answers to the questions of love we wouldn't be sitting here in a forum talking about romance.

 

I'm going through something hard myself at the time. I feel for you.

 

My response is to you is just go with your heart and have no regrets. Keep in mind girls actually do like friendship and sometimes it lead to more... sometimes it doesn't. I suggest befriending this girl but that is up to you.

 

It sounds like you're young because you're in school. Trust me on this one.. I'm 33 and you have a LONG life of romance ahead of you even if this doesn't work out for you. My romance is just as strong if not stronger when I was 20. Love never dies even if you're 60.

 

This isn't the last girl in your life. Go for it! You have nothing to lose. Just work on yourself to be the best, most loving person in the world to a girl. It will come.

 

I'm 33 and single. Some girl will find me someday and it will be wonderful for both of us. Enjoy life! Make the most of it and don't get bent out of shape because of a girl. When you work on yourself and set goals and accomplish them the rest will fall into place. Keep focus on how you can make an impact on the world as we know it. We need it now more than ever. Cheers.

[U1987]

Dude, If anyone of us had the answers to the questions of love we wouldn't be sitting here in a forum talking about romance.

 

I'm going through something hard myself at the time. I feel for you.

 

My response is to you is just go with your heart and have no regrets. Keep in mind girls actually do like friendship and sometimes it lead to more... sometimes it doesn't. I suggest befriending this girl but that is up to you.

 

It sounds like you're young because you're in school. Trust me on this one.. I'm 33 and you have a LONG life of romance ahead of you even if this doesn't work out for you. My romance is just as strong if not stronger when I was 20. Love never dies even if you're 60.

 

This isn't the last girl in your life. Go for it! You have nothing to lose. Just work on yourself to be the best, most loving person in the world to a girl. It will come.

 

I'm 33 and single. Some girl will find me someday and it will be wonderful for both of us. Enjoy life! Make the most of it and don't get bent out of shape because of a girl. When you work on yourself and set goals and accomplish them the rest will fall into place. Keep focus on how you can make an impact on the world as we know it. We need it now more than ever. Cheers.

 

I'm not looking for "love" or "romance." And I know she isn't the "last" girl. There are others I am interested in as well, and there will be many, many others I'm attracted to.

 

I'm really only after casual sex; 1 or a few encounters. I'm just at a point at my life where finding "the one" isn't a high priority, but I do have needs and desires that I feel I deserve to have met. I don't feel particularly ashamed or embarrassed to admit that.

[carhill]

If you want sex, ask for it. You're not trying to develop a relationship. If she says no, move on. Next. These days, plenty of women will say yes. Go with those.

[U1987]

If you want sex, ask for it. You're not trying to develop a relationship. If she says no, move on. Next. These days, plenty of women will say yes. Go with those.

 

You're serious? Just flat out ask her in the middle of class? No date? No first kiss?

 

Has that ever worked for you? Or anyone?

[carhill]

I have no interest in casual sex, but, yes, it does work out and I have been asked directly by women for casual sex. Casual sex is defined as sexual contact without any emotional involvement or expressions of intimacy outside of the sexual act. No kissing required. Knowing each other's names is not even required.

 

Asking in lab? I wouldn't recommend it. Walking to another class? Sure.

 

'How do you feel about casual sex?'

[kiss_andmakeup]

I do have needs and desires that I feel I deserve to have met.

 

I'm sorry, no, you don't deserve anything. You aren't just entitled to sex because of what a great catch you think you are.

 

Everyone deserves to have their basic human needs met (food, water, selter). That's where it ends. Sorry.

 

And as for carhill's suggestion, some girls might be more open to it than you think.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Oh, and to answer your OP, the fact that she laughs at your jokes really means nothing other than that she's comfortable and friendly with you after spending time together in class.

 

I had many male friends when I was in school who I thougt were hilarious, but wasn't interested in dating (or f*cking) them.

[carhill]

If I'm reading the OP right, it sounds like he's trying to 'friend' his way into casual sex just like I once tried to 'friend' my way into dating. Neither is likely to work. Try something else. Since he's already been rejected for a date (by omission), and is really only interested in casual sex anyway, just go for it.

[U1987]

I'm sorry, no, you don't deserve anything.

 

Why don't I deserve it? Do you?

[carhill]

Thanks. Based on life experience, my opinion is a more direct approach is healthier and generally better received. He can continue upon this path and see what fruits it brings. Anything is possible. Also, 'feigning interest' can become an ingrained habit, one which is hard to shake when the 'right woman' happens by. It becomes a behavioral pattern. It sends specific signals. A healthy woman might see his behavior as 'fake' and dismiss him, where otherwise they could have been compatible. Many potentials. Hope it works out

[kiss_andmakeup]

Why don't I deserve it? Do you?

 

Nope.

 

Are you entitled to your right to pursue your desires? Absolutely. But you don't deserve anything from anyone else, including sex. No one does. If we did, hookers would be available for free in soup kitchens & homeless shelters.

 

Getting laid comes as a result of a chain of events leading up to some kind of intimacy (whether casual or serious). No one gets sex because they "deserve" it.

[U1987]

 

And as for carhill's suggestion, some girls might be more open to it than you think.

 

So how would I go about that?

 

What specifically and exactly should I say? Where, when and in what context? What comes before and next?