pinksunglasses Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 My boyfriend and I, of 4 months now, haven't had sex yet. I've spent the night plenty, several times a week for about 3 months now. I guess he could tell I had been thinking about it because he told me not to worry about him going further, that it would be soon. I was completely fine with it, and wanted to know why, he wouldn't answer. A few weeks later I asked him again, because I'm starting to feel like it's me. He wouldn't answer me, he said he didn't want to talk about it, not to worry about it, he even shushed me! Ugh. It's been a month now since he said it wouldn't be long and he doesn't even seem to want to. Every other aspect of our relationship seems fine but this. He won't even talk about it. Wtf is this?
collegeguy_24 Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Could be he is shy about something, like his size, lack of experience in the bedroom, etc. It could be any number of things. Next time, just come out and say something like either tell me why you won't have sex with me, or I am breaking up. You'd be surprised how that can get a reaction.
mitchell Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 How old are you two? Are you virgins? You need to discuss this if this relationship is going to flourish.
Author pinksunglasses Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 I'm 20 and he's 24, I'm not a virgin, and I doubt he is. Though I'm afraid to ask because he seems to really not want to talk about it, plus.. If he were I'd feel so weird hearing that. He says he's not "waiting" that's pretty much all I could get out of him before he shushed me. I don't want to do the whole threaten to break up thing with him. I'm not going to lie to him and say that unless it were true. We haven't gone far, obviously, but I've felt him down there, and he's not small.
alexlakeman Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 You take the lead next time, pull it , eat him, and it's up to him to push you away. If he does, then you have your answer of what to do next - leave. Tell him not to husshh you that he's not your father and you want a definite answer why no sex; period. No answer, just get up, leave, and don't answer your phone for a day or so. Then, ask him "do you want to talk NOW"? You have to draw the line somewhere. It could be religion, problems with maintaining his johnson @ attention, or he could have an STD and has no idea what to say. It could be herpes or aids or just a milder std. I'm just brainstorming. I'd be pissed if in your place. Disappear with your friends and don't answer the phone a few times. His insecurities will increase, and maybe that will lead to him spilling the beans.
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