MrsOhio Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I don't know what to do, my husband says I imagine things. I make things up, and that I am crazy. The most recent dreamy episode was him turning off the webcam while I was out of the room. I took the dog out and saw him thru the window, go over to the lap top and make sure the webcam was turned off, I saw him flip the switch several times to make sure it was off, half an hour passes by and I hear loud ring, it was so loud I almost jumped out of my chair, my husband sat there and acted like he didn't hear it, but evidently I imagined all of it. The problem isn't him using the webcam it is him saying I imagined it. He has said this in the past about other questions I've put forth to him. And I just don't understand why he says that I'm make things up, I'm crazy. I'm ready to move out because of it. I may not be the smartest bear in the woods but I do live in reality.
EnigmasMuse Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Whoa, sorry your post was hard for me to follow at first. So basically you're saying he has been using the webcam but claiming he hasn't been by saying he hasn't and calling you crazy and that you're imagining things? What else has he said you imagined?
quankanne Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 look up the term "gaslighting," in which someone basically tells another person that everything they see and hear is a figment of their imagination, in hopes that the other person will believe him. Which then allows the first person to get away with murder ... very common in affairs where the cheating spouse doesn't want to get caught so that they'll be forced to choose which partner they want/give up their lifestyle. trust your eyes, my dear, because actions speak much more loudly than words ...
JackJack Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Is there anyway you or someone you know and trust could put up a little hidden camera type of thing, and that way you could see for sure? If in fact he is using the webcam and he is lying and telling you that you're crazy, then all you have to do is present him with what you have found on the camera and say, "Am I imagining what I'm seeing on camera too? Just a thought. I also agree with quank about the gaslighting.
Mimolicious Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 and if you continue to listen to his gaslighting, you will have a new fashionable white little jacket in no time! You can tell what last application was used on a PC. Check the history of his internet usage, etc, or get a keylogger. Sounds like monkey business though.
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