What do you do when you are depressed? How do you get out of it?

[AlisaMarie]

Ha ha... 9 lives, he is dead to me. I feel so much better than yesterday. I am still non productive and have not washed my @ss yet, but I am getting there. This thread helped me so much!

 

Flower88, I seem to have lost a lot of faith throughout my life. I really need to find myself spiritually, I know that will help. It sounds like you are really broken. Do you have your story posted? I would love to listen and help if I can. I am good at advice, just not at following it.

 

worlybear, my doggies have been neglected. They just lay here and act depressed with me. It's sad! Maybe a choclate bar will help me get some energy to walk them. And burn off the calories.

 

Fern, like 9lives said, my friends will hang up on me and tell me to get a grip and that he's a loser... blah blah. Stuff I know, but they do NOT support my pitiful ways.

 

phateless: I don't feel like working out yet! I still want to be lazy and depressed. Maybe I will start small, a couple crunches tonight and a jog around the block tomorrow... if it stops raining. HA.

[9Lives]

Ha ha... 9 lives, he is dead to me. I feel so much better than yesterday. I am still non productive and have not washed my @ss yet, but I am getting there. This thread helped me so much!

 

Flower88, I seem to have lost a lot of faith throughout my life. I really need to find myself spiritually, I know that will help. It sounds like you are really broken. Do you have your story posted? I would love to listen and help if I can. I am good at advice, just not at following it.

 

worlybear, my doggies have been neglected. They just lay here and act depressed with me. It's sad! Maybe a choclate bar will help me get some energy to walk them. And burn off the calories.

 

Fern, like 9lives said, my friends will hang up on me and tell me to get a grip and that he's a loser... blah blah. Stuff I know, but they do NOT support my pitiful ways.

 

phateless: I don't feel like working out yet! I still want to be lazy and depressed. Maybe I will start small, a couple crunches tonight and a jog around the block tomorrow... if it stops raining. HA.

 

lol lol...dont feel bad, i have not washed my ass yet either!!! lol

 

my friends wont let me ball over him. not cool

 

going to the gym i the morn

[AlisaMarie]

I am sad, some lady yelled at me in one of my threads. I'm not playing the victim, but why is it that people secure in their relationships are so non sympathetic? I know I am an idiot for dragging it out... I know he's moving on and not pining over me... but I don't need to be told that I am playing games on my own and it's my fault that everything happened against me. It's both of our faults! I don't want stuff fluffed, but this posting made me feel worse. Has that ever happened to anyone here? I came here to feel better.

[9Lives]

I am sad, some lady yelled at me in one of my threads. I'm not playing the victim, but why is it that people secure in their relationships are so non sympathetic? I know I am an idiot for dragging it out... I know he's moving on and not pining over me... but I don't need to be told that I am playing games on my own and it's my fault that everything happened against me. It's both of our faults! I don't want stuff fluffed, but this posting made me feel worse. Has that ever happened to anyone here? I came here to feel better.

 

Dont worry about it. Just tell them to give you a break. Everyone has been talk to kinda rough before. Say something back!!

 

Dont worry about it. He is dead

 

marc is dead!

[flower88]

AlisaMarie, thanks for your reply. yes it hurts when someone say harsh things to you in the forum. try to ignore it, not worth being affected. i am indeed broken. i posted a thread today , but no one replied and i worried he may see it, so i erased everything. i was trying to ask for some opinion. i don't even know who is the dumper in my case, so i do not know if i should change my phone number. if i am the dumper, i want to be available if he needs me. i am no way someone heartless, i didn't even want to end it.

 

faith can be easily rebuilt by reading the bible and spending time with god, just like a real human relationship, need to put in time. i was totally distracted from god when i was with him, i guess god is pulling me out of it. deep inside i don't trust him. but we had tons of good times together, we were so innocently happy just sitting next to each other or walking down the street. but during bad times, he just didn't give me enough care and concern. he pouts so easily, i cannot take it.

[AlisaMarie]

I call mine Richard because I don't like to type his name.

 

RICHARD IS DEAD! BYE BYE RICHARD YOU WILL NOT BE MISSED and my new man will be thanking god that you didn't stay in my freaking life!

[alphamale]

I wish I knew what to do.

go to your dr. and get some meds

[AlisaMarie]

go to your dr. and get some meds

Real nice.

 

Flower88, he won't see your posts, don't worry about that. I know it hurts. Maybe I will go seek some spiritual help. What could it hurt.

[flower88]

i don't know if i should change my phone number... if he ever looks for me i want to be there. if he doesn't i want to change because it hurts to keep the number. i suggested the breakup, he didn't even bother to save us because as usual his ego is doing the talking.

[AlisaMarie]

i don't know if i should change my phone number... if he ever looks for me i want to be there. if he doesn't i want to change because it hurts to keep the number. i suggested the breakup, he didn't even bother to save us because as usual his ego is doing the talking.

I was debating blocking on my phone, but I can't do it. I feel the same way. But in the past my ex's needs were selfish and not thought through. It was always about him. I really miss him tonight. It sucks.

[flower88]

kinda comforting to know i am not alone to feel this way. if only he is the dumper i would change it, now is half half. i think i will be brave and keep it for now. thanks for talking to me. so lonely...

[WTRanger]

I was debating blocking on my phone, but I can't do it. I feel the same way. But in the past my ex's needs were selfish and not thought through. It was always about him. I really miss him tonight. It sucks.

 

You got to block him, or at the very least delete his number. It's one of those milestones you need to reach during the healing process. When I deleted her number out of my phone, I was nervous out to do it. It took everything I had, but I did it and felt 100,000% better. I used to avoid her name when going through my contacts, so why not just delete it and be done with it?

[AlisaMarie]

I tried that in our past breakups... I know his number, but I would be nice not to see his name in my phone. I am still holding on to some pictures and final text messages too. I guess it's time to delete, and delete some more. Baby steps!

[WTRanger]

But that's the thing, you can stop yourself from actually typing his number in. I do that with my ex, if I start to type her name into Facebook, I say out loud, "What the F am I doing?!?!?!?" Then I quickly move on and don't look for her. It's easier to stop yourself if you actually have to do work and enter in the name or number.

[AlisaMarie]

I need to practice that ... what the F am I doing!?

I usually say ... what the F did I do!? ha ha

Gotta catch myself!

[Fufu]

i was super down for the past 1st and 2nd week, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, literally becoming a zombie. At times, I still feel on and off in my moods but it really gotten better when i started resuming to do my favourite stuffs.

 

It felt better afterwards when I spoke to my best friend over the phone, poured everything out.

 

Recently, just started dolling myself up and i realised... OMG, I still look presentable why should I look so ZOMBIEISH because of 1 guy who left me.

 

Then, I start to think that everyone is selfish and self-centred.

 

Dumpers leave us because of certain reasons - but in fact is all for themselves

Dumpees want to salvage relationship of certain reasons - but in fact we are doing this all for ourselves also

 

Embrace reality and move on, this makes me feel I'm so much stronger and more magnanimous than the dumper.

Edited December 1, 2010 by Fufu

[Wilie]

Come on Flower and Alisa,.. change the numbers, delete the facebook.. give yourself 21 days... DO IT.. take a break from everything for 21 days.... i know it sucks bad.. but you know the situation is not good... i myself am on Day 6 of NC... after 5 months of being played with it.. i feel like C**P... but i also know i WILL be better after my situation is over, and so will you..... Enjoy the suck for now... there is a better future for you....

 

Will

[AlisaMarie]

Come on Flower and Alisa,.. change the numbers, delete the facebook.. give yourself 21 days... DO IT.. take a break from everything for 21 days.... i know it sucks bad.. but you know the situation is not good... i myself am on Day 6 of NC... after 5 months of being played with it.. i feel like C**P... but i also know i WILL be better after my situation is over, and so will you..... Enjoy the suck for now... there is a better future for you....

 

Will

Oh HI will! the FB is gone. The numbers well... I am trying. I have been effed with for 5 months as well, and tomorrow is my day 6. I do not enjoy the suck! It sucks! But everyone here really helped me get through the day. Thank you!

[9Lives]

I need to practice that ... what the F am I doing!?

I usually say ... what the F did I do!? ha ha

Gotta catch myself!

 

Alisa just start small. Start with a 30 day challenge. But this is not a game. You cant play with your heart. If this man says it is really over between you guys then make that move. Dont be the toy. Him having a girlfriend is not a great sign but start small. Im taking the 30 day challenges starting tomorrow. It is dec 1 so Im ready to do it

[Phateless]

I am sad, some lady yelled at me in one of my threads. I'm not playing the victim, but why is it that people secure in their relationships are so non sympathetic? I know I am an idiot for dragging it out... I know he's moving on and not pining over me... but I don't need to be told that I am playing games on my own and it's my fault that everything happened against me. It's both of our faults! I don't want stuff fluffed, but this posting made me feel worse. Has that ever happened to anyone here? I came here to feel better.

 

They're venting their frustrations at you. Maybe they can relate to the other side of your story or maybe you remind them of someone who hurt them. It happens.

 

That's the main reason I never post. People get their panties in a bunch and transfer their negative energy.

 

The best thing to do? Use the REPORT POST button.

[AlisaMarie]

They're venting their frustrations at you. Maybe they can relate to the other side of your story or maybe you remind them of someone who hurt them. It happens.

 

That's the main reason I never post. People get their panties in a bunch and transfer their negative energy.

 

The best thing to do? Use the REPORT POST button.

Thanks Phateless. I am not being a little baby... I just know the deal. I just want to get it out not be criticized... ya know? Oh well, one week tomorrow...I wish it didn't hurt more and more instead of less and less. This is all wrong!

[Phateless]

Thanks Phateless. I am not being a little baby... I just know the deal. I just want to get it out not be criticized... ya know? Oh well, one week tomorrow...I wish it didn't hurt more and more instead of less and less. This is all wrong!

 

No worries. It's one thing to express your feelings in a healthy way and another to vent them AT somebody.

 

You should not hesitate to use the report feature. There's too much flaming going on around here and it sucks.

[hART]

Exercise helps me. At first I did the elliptical, but I had to stay on it for long periods of time to get the "runners high." I discovered that taking a social class is better; my choice was boxing, but yoga is also good. If money is low, just getting outside and taking a walk is good (maybe not good if you have crying fits). Everyone thinks it is hard to get motivated, but once I started a class people are there to keep motivating me. Eating better also helps, mostly staying away from high glycemic foods like sugar or high fructose corn syrup. Therapy, particularly cognitive behavioral therapy, is great. It helps me sometimes to focus on a positive memory or positive change in my life, which can be impossible when depressed, I know. Think back, even when you were like ten, because depression tends to cloud thoughts with negativity. Finding a hobby is also good, mine has been art, because I can work through the feelings, but the empathsis on technique creates self confidence in a skill, then I start moving onto something more positive (if that makes sense?). Getting all this energy when you are depressed seems difficult, but the momentum will build once you start. Hope you feel better soon!