Silver_Tears Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 So we broke up 3 weeks ago to date. And it still hurts as though it were yesterday. I don't know what to do anymore. I try getting out there and having fun with my friends but I feel like I am a drag on everything. I went to dinner with my best friend last week and starting crying while we were eating. When I sit in my classes (I am a college student) I sometimes have to leave because I start to hurt so much I can't focus anymore. I'm seeing my therapist every week and have started medication for anxiety and depression. One of the worst parts is I always feel sick. I can't eat, food all tastes the same to me. I do try and force down 3 meals a day but lately I've been getting sick after I eat. So I need to see a doctor about that because I can't afford to lose anymore weight right now. Its hard to breath. I hate this feeling and I'm trying to move on, but my heart feels so shattered beyond anything else right now. People keep saying only time will heal you, God has a plan for you, you'll get better soon, try exercising, get out there and do stuff, etc...but none of it helps. I guess I just need advice from people who have been there before.
Leandro Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 well the thing is, all that stuff is true. It just takes time. The break up is still very fresh. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I've gone through it too, and the only thing that helped was time.
AlisaMarie Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 It's amazing what a negative effect love has on us huh? I share your same pain and emotions. It's been 5 months since my 1 year relationship ended. It was on and off until Thanksgiving. I am only on day 5 of NC, but I am trying to just accept that it has been over since July, and it's really time for it to be done done. I know it's so hard to live your life and act "normal." I have gone out with friends and totally ruined everyone's night. I left dinner, bars, and even movies with friends just because they are so sick of hearing about it. They think that I brought a lot of it on myself because of the back and fourth with him... which I did. I've tried dating, but end up crying to them about how hurt I am, then ask them for a man's point of view. Needless to say that I usually don't get a second date. ha ha. Now I find myself isolating myself in my house and neglecting things that I need to do (school work, cleaning, ummm showering)! I wish I could tell you that the empty feeling in your soul will go away, and you're going to be great... but the truth is, you will... but in time. Eww I hate hearing that. All you can do in the mean time is TRY. Fake it till you make it? It's so much easier said than done. Therapy is good, but in my experience, I hear "time's up" before I remotely feel better. I guess this isn't advice from someone who has been there, but someone who is there. The only way to rid your thoughts of him is to occupy your mind with enough that will push him out. So it's been 3 weeks for you... has there been any contact at all?
whatadeer26 Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 There are no magic words to make yourself feel better. Happiness comes from within. I was an emotional wreck when I was broken up with. But as time progresses you stop playing all the good memories in your head and you see that not everything was perfect. Time and keeping busy with school and friends are the most important things for you to do. Do not let your grades slip! I honestly know how extremly hard it is. I found myself not eating and barely having the energy to do anything. You have to fake it til you make it. This site has offered me great advice and I hope to see you on the other side soon
Fermentum Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Exercise. Everyday. It will help. And find something that distracts you; reading, video games, a run, whatever. Something to keep you distracted. And if you're into it, meditate. It WILL help, and it WILL get better. It just takes time.
Author Silver_Tears Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 No, I haven't talked to him. I saw him once on the way to classes, so I just said hi when he did. And just last night he walked in when I was talking with one of our mutual friends. That was really awkward because I was feeling terrible yesterday so I was crying and stuff, he just said excuse me and left. I cracked four days ago and sent him a message via facebook telling him if he wanted to talk as friends I would be okay with that. He hasn't got back to me and I don't think he will. It hurts because he was my best friend and my boyfriend and I lost both. I'm not ready to talk to him anyways so it is a good thing for now. But that was the only mistake I made since we broke up.
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