NorthernLocal Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Anyway, ive known this girl for like 7 months, and i like her ALOT, as in i cant stop thinking about her, and she is a girl who is kinda middle class, as she went to a grammar school and her dad is a doctor, however her mum and dad split up and she just lives with her mum now. However her mother is a heavy drinker and this girl has to do basically everything around the house and has to clean up her mum's sick, help her to the toilet, clean up after the toilet etc. Becuase of this, she is also very closed off about her real feelings and will rarely let anyone into her life as she is embarassed. I am not bothered as my mother is a heavy drinker also, but not as severe. She is also used ot being spoilt a bit, as her dad is a doctor who is like any other father who has 2 daughters(i would be the same if i had 2 daughters to be honest). I am a working class lad, whose parents dont earn alot, and ive never been spoilt. This girl is also the sorta girl who, (im my opinion), thinks she wants a big cute guy to come and sweep her off her feet, whereas (again in my opinion) she just wants a guy who will love her and care for her when all her personal issues get too much (as they have done before). This girl is also the sorta girl who hasnt had many relationships due to her circumstances, but she likes the attention of lots of guys, like flirting and stuf, but will never take it any further, and if she has tried, the guys just end up being pricks and sending her messages saying they wanna f**k her and stuff. I am kinda the same as her, ive never been very confident with girls, and havnt even had a proper relationship, but i really like her alot. I told her i liked her and she told me that she "used to" like me, therefore giving me the idea that if she liked me once she can like me again. Anyway, one night she got a little drunk (which is when she actually lets her feelings out and expresses her emotions properly, as she never does it when sober as she thinks it makes her look weak), and invited me over to talk to her for a bit. She also told me in a text that becuase she thought i wasnt going over at the time that "i guess you've passed up your chance with me now ): you obvs didnt like me that much grr". I did what i thought any lad would do and went over for a while and i wanted to kiss her all night, but couldnt get up the confidence, and i didnt know if she really did like me, so i got a hug and a kiss on the cheek when i left. Then a few days later she told me that she only invited me over as a friend despite the text she sent me. Then, a few days after that we were texting, and i told her that i wanted to kiss her but didnt know whether she liked me, and she said that she would of let me kiss her becuase i deserved it. I was very confused at this point, becuase i didnt think girls just let lads kiss them becuase "they deserved it" and in the same night she told me while she was sober that she wasnt attracted to me "romantically". And just to kick me where it hurts, she told me that she would have let me kiss her becuase she knew that it would mean something to me and nothing to her, and she would kiss me becuase she thinks it would mean something to me or make me happy perhaps? Which seems very insensitive to me. Basically i wanted to know whether i am being too stupid and over thinking it all and she doesnt actually like me, or that she does like me but doesnt want to directly admit it and i am just needing to man up and just kiss her and see how she reacts, even though she said it would mean nothing to her. CONSTUCTIVE CRITISISM OR ADVICE IS VERY MUCH APPRECIATED. THANK YOU
DustySaltus Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I told her i liked her and she told me that she "used to" like me, therefore giving me the idea that if she liked me once she can like me again. She also told me in a text that becuase she thought i wasnt going over at the time that "i guess you've passed up your chance with me now ): I was very confused at this point, in the same night she told me while she was sober that she wasnt attracted to me "romantically". And just to kick me where it hurts, she told me that she would have let me kiss her becuase she knew that it would mean something to me and nothing to her Basically i wanted to know whether i am being too stupid and over thinking it all and she doesnt actually like me, or that she does like me but doesnt want to directly admit it and i am just needing to man up and just kiss her and see how she reacts, even though she said it would mean nothing to her. Yeah, I think I would just let this one go. You're setting yourself up for a lot of drama and the need for you to be a hero to her on a daily basis....She's all over the place with her emotions. You'd be walking through an emotional minefield with all the games she's playing here. Next.
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