bitteorca Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 At first, I wasn't going to contact her at all, and just wait. I have stuff at her house that I wanted back...but I wasn't in any rush for them. I was going to wait about 2 weeks, to see whether she had contacted me, and then ask her if she hadn't. Last night, I got into the mindset that 'I just want this over and done with'. Like, if I was waiting for 2 weeks, it'd be at the back of my mind. So I rang her...she didn't pick up. But she rang me back straight away. No conversation, I just said I wanted my stuff back and we arranged a day for me to pick it up and said I'd ring her on the day. Whether this meeting will involve any talking I'm not sure. She did dump me by text, she'll probably just hand me my stuff because she's a coward with confronting her fears/emotions! I'm not sure whether I did the right thing though?! Should I have waited? Or should I not worry whether I have done the right thing and just get on with it!!?!!
PegNosePete Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Just get on with it, get your stuff and go NC.
AlisaMarie Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Well, if you just want you stuff back so you can move on, then you did the right thing. I would send someone else for it... or tell her to leave it out where you can grab it. My ex was blowing my phone up a while back over a DVD so I knew it was just an excuse to talk to me. Honestly, if it is nothing valuable, I would just cut your losses and move on. Good luck!
Author bitteorca Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 I do want the stuff back, its not urgent, but I do want it back And I'm not going to lie, I do want to speak to her. Mostly because she broke up with me by text, and we never got to talk about it. If she doesn't want to be with me, then fine, but I never even got the chance to talk. Whether I will get that chance or not is another issue; I have a feeling she might accidentley 'forget' and be somewhere else when I ring on the day. But who knows, maybe she wants to see me deep down too. I have no idea how she is feeling about all this
PegNosePete Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Dude, she dumped you by text message, there is nothing to "discuss". She disrespects you so much, all you need to do is get your stuff and move on.
Author bitteorca Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 Yeah it does show a lack of respect. But I also think it shows that she is a coward about her emotions. She obviously didn't want to confront it. Whether she will want to confront it when I pick the stuff up I don't know. I shouldn't really care. I am moving on! I deserve better, how I didn't see that whilst I was in the relationship I don't know
PegNosePete Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Yep right. Just pick your stuff up, there is nothing to discuss. Have a friend/relative come along so she is unlikely to try starting a serious discussion with you.
brokenwingsforever Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Well, if you just want you stuff back so you can move on, then you did the right thing. I would send someone else for it... or tell her to leave it out where you can grab it. My ex was blowing my phone up a while back over a DVD so I knew it was just an excuse to talk to me. Honestly, if it is nothing valuable, I would just cut your losses and move on. Good luck! Totally hit the nail on the head.
Author bitteorca Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 Yep right. Just pick your stuff up, there is nothing to discuss. Have a friend/relative come along so she is unlikely to try starting a serious discussion with you. I am catching your drift, but I wouldn't want to drag a friend or relative into any of this, and I don't think she is likely to actually want to discuss anything with me (based on the fact that she was too scared to tell me face to face and sent it by text, the chances of her actually wanting to do it now are pretty slim). But I shouldn't care. It would be nice to receive an apology from her though about the way she did it
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