DollWelch Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I have never done OD (Online Dating) but recently I thought I'd search and discover before I commit. I browsed through the men in my city, and of the men listed I couldn't find one single profile I was impressed with, let alone intrigued. None of the men I found were attractive. Absolutely none. There was one man however who was quite attractive and had the best profile, hands down -but he lives about 5 hours away. Sigh. Am I the only one on this front?
a_woman Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 people come and go on dating websites. on some days you will see a handful of people that appear to have potential, on other days you see none. new people sign up every day. the issue with online dating (and the reason why it doesn't work for me) is that you need a lot of patience to sift through people/profiles, potentially have a lot of first dates before you get somewhere. in my opinion it's worth putting an equal amount of effort into real life dating and have higher chances of success. if you are not prepared to spend significant amount of time in the evenings on the internet (I'm not), online dating won't work for you
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 No you're not alone. Probably the most frustrating thing about sites like Match are the paucity of attractive women. I'm not hugely fussy but even so, there seems to be a lot of plain women in my area. This is why I cast a wide net when looking for people on dating sites.
EasyHeart Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 No you're not alone. Probably the most frustrating thing about sites like Match are the paucity of attractive women. I'm not hugely fussy but even so, there seems to be a lot of plain women in my area. This is why I cast a wide net when looking for people on dating sites.Same here. I've never pursued on-line dating, mostly because it didn't seem very productive. The women seem very plain, and their profiles are incredibly lame. OTH, I have no problem finding attractive and interesting women in real life, so I know they're out there. But my experience seems to be the opposite of most proponents of online dating.
Andy_K Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Most people have no idea how to write, or how to convey their personality. Online dating is about finding someone who's more into the 'dating' part than the 'online' part, and meeting up with them. You have more to go on with an online profile than when you meet someone in real life. You wouldn't judge someone in person without speaking to them, so try to avoid it online too.
waynesworld Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I have never done OD (Online Dating) but recently I thought I'd search and discover before I commit. I browsed through the men in my city, and of the men listed I couldn't find one single profile I was impressed with, let alone intrigued. None of the men I found were attractive. Absolutely none. There was one man however who was quite attractive and had the best profile, hands down -but he lives about 5 hours away. Sigh. Am I the only one on this front? How many profiles did you look at? It seems like the odds of finding an attractive profile are abysmal. Guys, is it the same for women's profiles?
SmileFace Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I think internet dating requires patience, time and some more time. It worked for me in the beginning but it gets tireding after a while . I will go days no messages. Then find someone who i am interested in , decide to take a break from the site and 15 messages in a hour - yes this happened. Haha but i think i am done with it - since the flakiness i have witnessed lately gets to me.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I have never done OD (Online Dating) but recently I thought I'd search and discover before I commit. I browsed through the men in my city, and of the men listed I couldn't find one single profile I was impressed with, let alone intrigued. None of the men I found were attractive. Absolutely none. There was one man however who was quite attractive and had the best profile, hands down -but he lives about 5 hours away. Sigh. Am I the only one on this front? Look... no matter what is on a profile... you need to get to know the other person first. So... I typically contact women and chat with them for a few weeks before proposing a date. I've found that even the most intricate profiles are usually bullcrap. Why do you put so much weight on them? The site is just a vehicle for you to start talking to men you would not otherwise meet. It's really stupid to think you will find the man of your dreams without talking to him... just by reading a profile. Also... pictures are only a basic reflection of what a person looks like. I've met women who were gorgeous in real life... but had fugly pictures. In conclusion my advice is this: Stop being superficial and lazy... you will have to talk to them anyway so just pick a few that have attractive features and go with it see if more develops.
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