do you love your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband?

[cupidsarrow1]

I love my boyfriend so much, he's the kindest, sweetest person I've ever met. It's the little things that he does to surprise me that make it even better, not that I expect him to. Today he insisted that he wants to go with me to donate blood to make sure I don't pass out (I accidentally told him that I did once). I just found the gesture very sincere. He also surprises me with flowers sometimes, not a bouquet, but a single picked flower, which is really random, but very kind. On Diwali, he gave me sweets and gifts (I'm not Indian) and that really warmed my heart. but most of all it's the things that he says .................just wondering how other people view their significant other

[Art_Critic]

do you love your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband?

 

Boyfriend...No!

 

Girlfriend...No!

 

Wife... Yes!

 

Husband.. No!.. got rid of the selfish S.O.B. and never want to hear from him again

 

 

By the way.. your post was sweet.. your BF sounds nice and you sound in love.. good for you...

[Idalis]

I sure do love my SO

 

Sounds like you've got a good thing going! Congrats

[folieadeux]

What a sweet thread!

 

I love my boyfriend more and more everyday.

[fltc]

I suspect I love my girlfriend but we've only been together for 36 years so let's not rush into anything, OK?

[frozensprouts]

yes I do...but the weird thing is that before he had his affair and we went through a whole lot of c@#p and came out the other side much better than before, we used to say "I love you" to each other all the time.

Now we don't say it as much, but it means something more somehow... it's not just words that we say flippantly, they really mean something.

 

Glad they do for you to!

[pablopedro]

I don't even know anymore.

Feelings for her yes, but is it because of us or because we have a kid together? That I don't know. I've done lots of small things as mentioned by the OP. Bought flowers for no reason. Picked flowers. Took her out on some romantic walk to watch the sunset. Tell her she's beautiful, even when she refuses to believe it after a rough day. Surprise her with a new outfit she's wanted for awhile or some small treat she likes on my way home.

 

But the little things don't count with her. Everyday is like another report card session. Something I might have forgotten to do. Like yesterday our daughter was difficult all day. Cranky. Upset. Crying. Loud. Plus I had to make some calls for a job. So I wake up around 6am, attend to our daughter, play with her, change her, feed her, walk with her, hold her, but it was just one of those days. The wife wakes up and is pissed cause our daughter is loud. She goes back to sleep and I take care of our daughter.

Later I go into the bedroom and ask her to watch the little one for a bit because I had a phone call to make. 20 minutes later I go back in, take our daughter, and let the wife go back to sleep. She wasn't angry, just in a somber mood. Tired I guess.

 

Later on that day, around 3pm, the wife wakes up, and is upset she didn't get good sleep. She starts complaining about all the folding of clothes she has to do. It's all our daughters stuff. I wash and dry the clothes, the wife folds them. But the day goes by and I'm busy with our daughter and the wife complains some more and finally after putting our daughter to sleep at 9pm, the wife complains about the trash not taken out. An argument starts but ends quickly as I take it out. She gets upset. But it's things like that which have taken it's toll.

 

Then I go to sleep around midnight, cause our daughter wakes up at 6am or earlier, and the wife gets mad. I dont' spend time with her. I say I'm sorry, i kiss her, say i love her, and i go to sleep. But I get back up and talk to her for a bit, but it's late and I know if I don't go to sleep, i'm screwed. Especially if it's one of those days with my daughter.

 

She strolls into bed around 6am(daughter wasn't awake yet), spending all night watching tv and window shopping online or surfing the net, and then says she's sorry for being hard on me. I'm still sleeping and wake up and try to talk to her. Then she gets mad saying she feels alone and that we live different lives. She gets upset that I'm not upset that we don't really sleep together. it goes on like this and I'm like, "I can't stay up till 5am and then wake up at 6am." She gets mad. Another argument.

 

The little things don't seem to matter and at this point, it's just one big mess. She gets made we don't spend much time together, but she's the one up till 6am, sleeps till 4pm, and rarely takes care of our daughter.

 

So am I in live with the wife? Not really. Not anymore.

[quankanne]

Girlfriend...No!

 

technically, Art, she's your ex-GF and baby-mama :laugh:

 

do I love him? Yes, I do, and sometimes it amazes me that in all this time we've been married it seems like it hasn't been that long, the love is that fresh.

 

I think what I love most about him is that he makes me laugh by being silly ... which is not something you'd expect when you see him, he comes across as a grumpy old man at times!

[sunshinegirl]

I love my husband very much, new as our marriage is (51 days old). Quankanne: I hope many years from now we can still say that our love is fresh.

[Stung]

I do love my husband, very much. Sometimes we have our differences, sure, but we are lovers and partners and best friends, I respect his fine mind, and he's got a great smile and a cute butt. There are still frequently days when all this is superelevated, when something forcibly reminds me how lucky I am, when romance or lust sweeps over us, when I watch him playing with our little son, and I go almost weak in the knees with how happy I am that I'm going to grow old holding hands with that man.

[quankanne]

sunshinegirl, stung mentioned the most important thing that I cannot BELIEVE to list: A cute butt. No really! A thing of delight that brings such joy can only sweeten the pot, especially when you know it's YOURS and NO ONE ELSE'S! And yep, my guy has a nice butt, too

 

meanwhile, you'll get your happy ever after, kiddo ... what's going to amaze you is how quickly time flies by or just how in tune you are with him. I think that last part always blows my mind, because we're from really different backgrounds and I never really expected that we could be so alike!

[elastica]

I don't even know anymore.

Feelings for her yes, but is it because of us or because we have a kid together? That I don't know. I've done lots of small things as mentioned by the OP. Bought flowers for no reason. Picked flowers. Took her out on some romantic walk to watch the sunset. Tell her she's beautiful, even when she refuses to believe it after a rough day. Surprise her with a new outfit she's wanted for awhile or some small treat she likes on my way home.

 

But the little things don't count with her. Everyday is like another report card session. Something I might have forgotten to do. Like yesterday our daughter was difficult all day. Cranky. Upset. Crying. Loud. Plus I had to make some calls for a job. So I wake up around 6am, attend to our daughter, play with her, change her, feed her, walk with her, hold her, but it was just one of those days. The wife wakes up and is pissed cause our daughter is loud. She goes back to sleep and I take care of our daughter.

Later I go into the bedroom and ask her to watch the little one for a bit because I had a phone call to make. 20 minutes later I go back in, take our daughter, and let the wife go back to sleep. She wasn't angry, just in a somber mood. Tired I guess.

 

Later on that day, around 3pm, the wife wakes up, and is upset she didn't get good sleep. She starts complaining about all the folding of clothes she has to do. It's all our daughters stuff. I wash and dry the clothes, the wife folds them. But the day goes by and I'm busy with our daughter and the wife complains some more and finally after putting our daughter to sleep at 9pm, the wife complains about the trash not taken out. An argument starts but ends quickly as I take it out. She gets upset. But it's things like that which have taken it's toll.

 

Then I go to sleep around midnight, cause our daughter wakes up at 6am or earlier, and the wife gets mad. I dont' spend time with her. I say I'm sorry, i kiss her, say i love her, and i go to sleep. But I get back up and talk to her for a bit, but it's late and I know if I don't go to sleep, i'm screwed. Especially if it's one of those days with my daughter.

 

She strolls into bed around 6am(daughter wasn't awake yet), spending all night watching tv and window shopping online or surfing the net, and then says she's sorry for being hard on me. I'm still sleeping and wake up and try to talk to her. Then she gets mad saying she feels alone and that we live different lives. She gets upset that I'm not upset that we don't really sleep together. it goes on like this and I'm like, "I can't stay up till 5am and then wake up at 6am." She gets mad. Another argument.

 

The little things don't seem to matter and at this point, it's just one big mess. She gets made we don't spend much time together, but she's the one up till 6am, sleeps till 4pm, and rarely takes care of our daughter.

 

So am I in live with the wife? Not really. Not anymore.

 

 

I am sorry to read this. How old is your daughter? Maybe your wife is suffering from post birth depression? You seem to care about your family alot. Get her to go to bed somehow on time! I hope things work out for you.

[LittleTiger]

Yes, absolutely ........... and I'm completely head over heels in love with him too.

[quankanne]

arrrgggghhhh!

 

that I cannot BELIEVE *I forgot* to list see what happens when you've got a nice booty on the brain? :laugh:

[Stung]

arrrgggghhhh!

 

that I cannot BELIEVE *I forgot* to list see what happens when you've got a nice booty on the brain? :laugh:

 

 

I knew what you meant, quank. Sounds like you need to go cop a feel before you burn out a brain circuit .

[hoping2heal]

I love him, I like him, I have a major crush on him. I love flirting with him. I am impressed by him, always inspired and constantly proud. I love and care for him so deeply. He is the most satisfying and wonderful experience of my life to date.

[kuma]

Yes. I especially love listening to him sing and play drums/guitar. He can sing!

[hoping2heal]

I don't even know anymore.

Feelings for her yes, but is it because of us or because we have a kid together? That I don't know. I've done lots of small things as mentioned by the OP. Bought flowers for no reason. Picked flowers. Took her out on some romantic walk to watch the sunset. Tell her she's beautiful, even when she refuses to believe it after a rough day. Surprise her with a new outfit she's wanted for awhile or some small treat she likes on my way home.

 

But the little things don't count with her. Everyday is like another report card session. Something I might have forgotten to do. Like yesterday our daughter was difficult all day. Cranky. Upset. Crying. Loud. Plus I had to make some calls for a job. So I wake up around 6am, attend to our daughter, play with her, change her, feed her, walk with her, hold her, but it was just one of those days. The wife wakes up and is pissed cause our daughter is loud. She goes back to sleep and I take care of our daughter.

Later I go into the bedroom and ask her to watch the little one for a bit because I had a phone call to make. 20 minutes later I go back in, take our daughter, and let the wife go back to sleep. She wasn't angry, just in a somber mood. Tired I guess.

 

Later on that day, around 3pm, the wife wakes up, and is upset she didn't get good sleep. She starts complaining about all the folding of clothes she has to do. It's all our daughters stuff. I wash and dry the clothes, the wife folds them. But the day goes by and I'm busy with our daughter and the wife complains some more and finally after putting our daughter to sleep at 9pm, the wife complains about the trash not taken out. An argument starts but ends quickly as I take it out. She gets upset. But it's things like that which have taken it's toll.

 

Then I go to sleep around midnight, cause our daughter wakes up at 6am or earlier, and the wife gets mad. I dont' spend time with her. I say I'm sorry, i kiss her, say i love her, and i go to sleep. But I get back up and talk to her for a bit, but it's late and I know if I don't go to sleep, i'm screwed. Especially if it's one of those days with my daughter.

 

She strolls into bed around 6am(daughter wasn't awake yet), spending all night watching tv and window shopping online or surfing the net, and then says she's sorry for being hard on me. I'm still sleeping and wake up and try to talk to her. Then she gets mad saying she feels alone and that we live different lives. She gets upset that I'm not upset that we don't really sleep together. it goes on like this and I'm like, "I can't stay up till 5am and then wake up at 6am." She gets mad. Another argument.

 

The little things don't seem to matter and at this point, it's just one big mess. She gets made we don't spend much time together, but she's the one up till 6am, sleeps till 4pm, and rarely takes care of our daughter.

 

So am I in live with the wife? Not really. Not anymore.

 

Yikes! Do you want things to change?

[hoping2heal]

Yes. I especially love listening to him sing and play drums/guitar. He can sing!

 

I love him hearing him sing. Sing and snore..both are just so endearing

[Mme. Chaucer]

Yes. I do love him. Truly, madly, deeply. I am very fortunate.

[quankanne]

I knew what you meant, quank. Sounds like you need to go cop a feel before you burn out a brain circuit advice executed. Many times over ... :lmao:

[EnigmaXOXO]

Yes, Yes, YES!

 

And after more than ten years together I was thoroughly convinced I must have landed the only guy like him left in the entire world… until I read your post, CupidsArrow.

 

Thanks for putting a little “love” back in the Shack, and keep appreciating that great man of yours. Good people (like good relationships) seem so few and far between these days.