Lucky555 Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 So the new guy and I are officially exclusive I should be happy but oh the dreaded fb says he is single. Red flag I think so. He could just removed it and not post anything. I'm concerned because he did have a dating site associted with it. Plus it's respect to me that he acknowledges our relationship. Now I don't think it's up to me to tell him anything he knows what his status says. Now although maybe it is not a big deal to some but it Is like being "active" on a dating site while being in a relationship with someone not respectful. How long to give him? But I feel like although I had a great time with the guy I'm worried because he kissed bye but never walked me to the door he just stood and watched tv. Odd if u ask me.
Kamille Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Are you positive it wasn't a simple oversight on his part? Have you changed your status? Could you simply ask him to change his?
Author Lucky555 Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 Are you positive it wasn't a simple oversight on his part? Have you changed your status? Could you simply ask him to change his? He knows his stays says single. We only just became exclusive. My status does not display anything because I don't use it for dating and I don't like my personal life displayed online. Now he did have a dating site asscociated with it. I just wonder how long to give him really. I don't think he thinks it's a big deal because he would say I should trust him but to me it's respect. Fb shouldn't be a big deal but it is because he's using as a dating a dating site too. It just concerns me
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I just answered another such post with the opposite stance, given the details there, but in your case it would be fair that you inspire him to remove the "single" label if indeed you are exclusive.
sugarmomma Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 You're not in a r if his status says "single" and you should let him know that. This is a no brainer. He's not claiming you to everyone else, just you. Uh, no!
Author Lucky555 Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 I agree with your posts. How can I gently say remove that damn status! Lol I'm not likingthe fact he has not done this but it's only been a full day since we became exclusive. I thought to give him some time. My feeling is he won't remove it and then what ? I break up over it? It would be clear that he doesn't want to be with me then I suppose. Worst case scenario. To me it's a big deal because he is still advertising himself as single and lately a girl was inviting him out to meet other girls and this made me think yup he needs to remove it!
DontWorryBHappy Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Ok, this same thing happened in my relationship, but it was no big deal. The difference is that both me and my boyfriend still had "Single" listed on our statuses for the first few days and neither of us mentioned it to the other. I thought that he would probably change his first (since he had done all the pursuing beforehand) but when I noticed he wasnt changing it I found a way to bring it up in casual conversation. I was chatting with him in his room and it went something like this: Me: "Soooo I'm your girlfriend now huh?" (with a big smile) Him: "Yes! you definitely are" Me: "Hmmmm well facebook says otherwise..." (said in a playful, non-threatening way) Him: "Ohhhh, did you want to change that?" etc... After that we both agreed to delete the "single" status and leave our relationship statuses as unlisted. Neither of us felt the need to publicly advertise it but agreed that we didnt want it to say "Single" either. So I would urge you to try something like that.
Author Lucky555 Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 Ok, this same thing happened in my relationship, but it was no big deal. The difference is that both me and my boyfriend still had "Single" listed on our statuses for the first few days and neither of us mentioned it to the other. I thought that he would probably change his first (since he had done all the pursuing beforehand) but when I noticed he wasnt changing it I found a way to bring it up in casual conversation. I was chatting with him in his room and it went something like this: Me: "Soooo I'm your girlfriend now huh?" (with a big smile) Him: "Yes! you definitely are" Me: "Hmmmm well facebook says otherwise..." (said in a playful, non-threatening way) Him: "Ohhhh, did you want to change that?" etc... After that we both agreed to delete the "single" status and leave our relationship statuses as unlisted. Neither of us felt the need to publicly advertise it but agreed that we didnt want it to say "Single" either. So I would urge you to try something like that. very clever! I like the idea. i think i will try it out if it does not get changed soon enough. I will make sure to ask him in person. but its so funny how he said "oh you want me to change that" like really of course!! LOL. thanks for the advise!
zengirl Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 My boyfriend (who is in no way a "player") left his FB status single for a couple weeks. Mine was not listed at the time, so I didn't do anything with mine. Finally, I just changed my status to in a relationship (still stays hidden, but the little heart appeared in the feed). He changed his within an hour of me doing so.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 My boyfriend (who is in no way a "player") left his FB status single for a couple weeks. Mine was not listed at the time, so I didn't do anything with mine. Finally, I just changed my status to in a relationship (still stays hidden, but the little heart appeared in the feed). He changed his within an hour of me doing so. Wow that I didn't know. I'm going to give it a little time then do something about it thanks
Knittress Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 I agree with your posts. How can I gently say remove that damn status! Lol I'm not likingthe fact he has not done this but it's only been a full day since we became exclusive. I thought to give him some time. *My feeling is he won't remove it and then what ? I break up over it?* It would be clear that he doesn't want to be with me then I suppose. Worst case scenario. To me it's a big deal because he is still advertising himself as single and lately a girl was inviting him out to meet other girls and this made me think yup he needs to remove it! Hey, chill girl! Be the cool girlfriend and calmly talk about stuff instead of jumping to conclusions and/or getting confrontational. Yes, he WILL like you more if you take that approach, but the main benefit is you not having to get yourself worked up over nothing. Don't ever talk about ending a relationship as a 'disciplinary measure,' either. If you are unhappy about something say so, and if you two can't work it out, tell him it's not a good situation for you and go your separate ways. None of this "OMG, you TALKED to her! I hate you, DIIIIIE!!!" garbage I was so infamous for in high school.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Hey, chill girl! Be the cool girlfriend and calmly talk about stuff instead of jumping to conclusions and/or getting confrontational. Yes, he WILL like you more if you take that approach, but the main benefit is you not having to get yourself worked up over nothing. Don't ever talk about ending a relationship as a 'disciplinary measure,' either. If you are unhappy about something say so, and if you two can't work it out, tell him it's not a good situation for you and go your separate ways. None of this "OMG, you TALKED to her! I hate you, DIIIIIE!!!" garbage I was so infamous for in high school. Ya I know...that's why I can here to ask instead of getting worked up. I think of it as respect and common sense so it it's more than just omgosh sort of thing it's just so simple to do and I know he could change it If he really wanted to it's just hard knowing what his level of love is for me lol but I'm being cool right now
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