fazz Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Hi all.. I would like to have your opinion. My bf has always been ....well i would call him a womanizer and that was the reason for my break up. After break up he always contact me for innocent things which I really cant have the heart not to reply....like mentioning about the first snow or asking about my update via email/text. But I know that he also sleep around... dont know how many but he does. My question is .... what is he doing?! And how should I react? I always welcome a reconciliation possibility but I lost respect because of what he is doing ( the sleeping around thingy ) I think if he really mean it I would welcome an attempt of someone who respect and save himselves for me and I will reply his innocent gesture as my welcome. But as he acts as everything are "platonic" and i can't really address the sleeping around thingy ( another issue is he doesnt know that I know about that) and he still pick up girls etc..this one I saw it by myself. I dont know what I should do... should I ignore him ( but he will think that he is lucky to keep all his female friends since I dont welcome his gesture) or ....should I ....act "platonic" as well ( but there's no point because if he still doing that female friends thingy I would not welcome the reconciliation anyway....its disgusting he cant even respect himselves thus i cant respect him) or should I confront him directly like " what is your real motives are" but this wont be good as well because he would answer something like I just want us to be friends etc........lame and classic. And if I confront him about his "behavior" he would.... I dont really know what would happen. He might get angry or I really dont know.... Many thanks all...
Livelovelearn Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Hi all.. I would like to have your opinion. My bf has always been ....well i would call him a womanizer and that was the reason for my break up. ...... But I know that he also sleep around... dont know how many but he does. ....... I lost respect because of what he is doing ( the sleeping around thingy ) I think if he really mean it I would welcome an attempt of someone who respect and save himselves for me and I will reply his innocent gesture as my welcome. Sorry to say this, but why would you want to go back, when clearly he isnt doing anything to change his ways?...If you knew he was a "womanizer", did you think you could change him? Sorry hun, but there alot more guys out there who appreciate one woman, and one woman only. You said you lost repsect for him, did you think you could get back with someone who you no longer respect, imagine the resentment you would hold towards him..that itself would ruin your relationship. Also he will not change, if he loves to sleep around and he enjoys not being in a relationship, do not waste you time. It sounds like you still have feelings for him, and him being platonic is confusing your head since you feel you cannot open up to him. My advice would be to move on, leave him alone, you could do better than that. Dont settle for a womanizer, because at the end of the day if thats what you think about him, then is that something you want for the rest of your life, a man of your own that you consider to be a womanizer?...hmmm i rather pass on that one, and i think you should to. Go out, have some fun, casually date and meet men, alot of them! Best advice i could give, you deserve more.
paleblue Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Well you broke up because he is a womanizer and sleeps around. It sounds like nothing has changed to me from what you are writing. It sounds like we are dealing with the same old same. You make him feel good by answering his calls. Its nothing more than an ego boost for him. He doesnt really love you. If he did he wouldn;t have acted that way in the first place. What you do depends on what you want. If you enjoy his behavior and are happy with how he treats you than by all means, continue the relationship. If you want something better in life, than ignore him, and move on in your life and find someone better for you. There really is no friends in this situation. Its either one, or the other. Lovers, or nothing.
Author fazz Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Thanks everybody... yeah things look quite obvious here actually. I think Im in the coping/ healing period... Its true actually I want to be friends with him....its just looks unlikely. If i were a boy I think that would be possible I always thought that he is attracted with any people with boobs and I told myself that I was overreacting and so does my friend ( who does not know him well either) but its just my instinct I just feel something and apparently its true. Its just really sucks all that emotional investment in 6 months I consider him as my friend as well as lovers... I just want to be friends with everybody really....well sometimes its not just possible ....isnt it. What a shame.... but yeah thanks for the wonderful replies:)
Author fazz Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 guys....do you think I should confront him about what he did ( because he did that sleeping around during our break period) Or should I just leave him out of the blue? The first would give me satisfaction but he might resent me for whatever reason....the second would give him.....I'm not really sure how he would react...either keep contacting me and give up and nothing happened... I prefer the first one tho....to confront him . but what's the use? He probably just being a womaniser so he wouldnt realize that its somthing bad?
paleblue Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Whats the point. you are just going to hear a bunch of Bull**** anyway from him. F him. Just move on. Find someone that appreciates all you have to offer
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