Madgick Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Brand new relationship, if you can call it that. Trying to move it from work to social (we work at different companies, met at a conference). Had a brief joint project at the conference. He did me a favor. Afterwards I sent him a bottle of wine thank you. He emailed first thing next morning, "Glad you enjoyed it, blah blah, thank you for the gift, it was a wonderful thought, very kind, and of course will be exercised on a future date." Then he told me in detail his business travel plans for the next weeks. There was no reason to do so, he owes me no explanation. However, for the next 3 and a half weeks he was going to be out of town, including weekends, all but 7 random days. A part of me thought, odd he told me this, not my business, maybe he was telling me this because he was interested and wanted me to know he wasn't neglecting me on purpose. And maybe the odd comment about the wine being 'exercised at a future date' meant he wanted to drink it with me. Nah... that's a lot of stretching of the imagination. In the middle of those business/family trips he was in the office and replied to an old business oriented email and said he'd just visited his family, had a good time, and had told them something funny about us from the conference. So I thought...wow, mentioning me to his family, then telling me about. Sign of interest. Or maybe not... Then on Nov 4, I left a voicemail on his business phone, something business related and insignificant that didn't need responding to. And a couple hours he called me and said he just got the message and we talked for about a half hour. He mentioned the wine, said it was chilling and he couldn't drink it alone. Mentioned he was just about to leave town again to go to a Memorial service. Said when he got back from that he'd be in town for 3 days and then was going on another trip with a buddy camping, but maybe we could get together during those 3 days and discuss something business related (very nonessential, and frankly just an excuse to be together IMO). He also said something in passing about how he didn't have any family, which was odd since I know he has 4 brothers and a sister, and 2 parents, and friends (but no girlfriend--we have a mutual acquaintance who's known him 10 years). The thought flashed in my mind, he's telling me he's lonely. But I don't know. I don't know him well enough to read him yet. Well, during those three days between the trips he didn't call, but on the last day he emailed an apology for not getting together. I emailed back no worries, and he mentioned how much fun he was anticipating the camping would be and would call me when he got back. Since he got home frome the camping trip, he had one day at work, a second day when he had a presentation, the first weekend he's had home in a month and the three days before Thanksgiving at work and the long Thanksgiving weekend. I'd love to hear from him, but won't call him him (or should I?). I actually have no legitimate reason and I've been clear I think that I'm interested in seeing him socially and he hasn't been home much and is likely very busy. OTOH if he's interested he will call. Right? It's been 12 days back now (w/ the week before Thanksgiving, the 4 day weekend, and today) and if he's really interested he'd have called, wouldn't he have, at least to say Happy Thanksgiving or something. So is he interested or not? Whaddya think? BTW, we are in our early 40s, if that matters.
Author Madgick Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 Hmmm....now after reading the proactive thread I'm thinking maybe I'm wrong, I ought to call and just ask 'how was the camping?'. Dunno.
sugarmomma Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 I wouldn't call him. He does not sound interested at all. he said that he was gonna call and didn't which means that you weren't a priority in his mind for even a 5 minute phone call. Uh, Next!
Butterfly16 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 IDK, my guy took nearly 2 weeks before he finally contacted me through Yahoo IM and asked me out for our first date. In between we exchanged a few emails. It was almost 2 weeks after that when we had our second date. He is very busy too...working out of town (state) a lot! I'd give him a few more days before sending him a note about the camping trip. And then see what happens after that. Who knows, he may want to keep the wine chilling until you two can get together and share it like he mentioned. I wish I knew why guys were so slow in showing they are interested even at this age! Keep us posted.
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