monkey00 Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 Originally posted by littlelavenderlilac Sweetbilly, If a girl is flirting and is actually interested, she will let you know for sure... Either she will ask you out, give you her phone number or get yours... end of story. not all girls will give you their # or ask for yours or ask you out. some of them wont even do that! they usually wait for us guys to do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 You just have to do what you feel is right at the time and not look back later. If you get rejected, well that happens sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetbilly Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 I disagree Dyermaker. If a woman or a man cheats with another person they must not want to be with that person really bad. And no matter who you may end up being with, if you don't love that person, you'll be distracted easilly. it's human nature to try to find the person that you will love unconditionally. That's why humans tollerate dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Hannah Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 Most girls flirt when their boyfriends are not giving them enough attention they flirt with other guys to make them jealous Link to post Share on other sites
sweetbilly Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 why are women such teases ! I don't ever flirt unless I really want to do something. Link to post Share on other sites
Dug Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 Whether women flirt or not, ya gota remember that men will percieve damn near anything as a "come-on". As Jerry Seinfeld says......if a woman asks a married man about tire rotation, he'll map out the route to a fair establishment to do the job.......the single guy will say "oh yeah baby, I'd love to rotate your tires". Alot of what we react on is pure perception. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetbilly Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 I agree, but it agravates me when women make a game out of it. Sometimes, with me in particular, it can cause an inferiority complex. Make you think "is there something wrong with me". Link to post Share on other sites
dlb311 Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 its not just the females that flirt. I know tons of guys that flirt... its just healthy and fun.. its not always because you want to get into someone pants. I think that you are so upset with women flirting because you think way to into it. I thought guys were more simplier then us girls... we analyze you shouldn't... If you think a girl is giving you mixed signals then call her on it... or let her know in your way which way you want her to be into you or just friends... Link to post Share on other sites
sweetbilly Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 If men are so simple then explain why women are so facinated with sparkly things like jewelry "Ha Ha just kidding". Your right, I know I put too much into the little things. But I think it has alot to do with the hope that this will turn into a relationship. However, all the teasing when I was younger didn't help either, it really made me self conscientious. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 I can't understand how some women can say it's ok to flirt while being in a committed relationship. Alot of these women are the same ones who oppose their men viewing porn. Flirting to me is ALOT worse than viewing something on TV. People who flirt while being in a relationship are very ignorant to their mate's feelings. It's also not fair to the person receiving the flirting because they could easily get attached, or create problems. I should know, I saw it happen to my brother. He was SO excited because this beautiful woman actually showed alot of interest in him. My other brother's wife set them up and we all went out. Things were going great so we went to another club. Soon as we got there she took off for one of the guys she knows (ends up they were dating). My sister-in-law didn't realize this. The look on my brother's face was just like he got the wind knocked out of him. He was played for a fool. Women, unless you are serious about a guy, don't flirt. They aren't toys to be played with. It's pretty sad that someone has to do something like this just to boost their ego. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetbilly Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 Thanx, jmargel. That's the point I was trying to get across. Just, I always use too many words. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 People who flirt while being in a relationship are very ignorant to their mate's feelings Actually my husband and I talked quite openly about how I related to my male friends when we first met. I would never do anything to hurt him. I flirt quite a lot - but it's never a direct come on of the type you describe or the commonly cited example for men - overtly looking at an attractive person. I do it when I get to know and like someone - and it's an expression of appreciation rather than sexual interest. I do it with some women too. I am an extreme extrovert and my husband is an extreme introvert. Much of my social behaviour he would find embarrassing so I tone it down when I am with him. But he knows what I'm like, we lived with friends for years. When we last talked about it he said that he trusted me and that I could relate to my friends in any way I liked. I agree it's wrong to confuse people or mislead them. Not everyone who flirts does this. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 i agree with meanon. i think we should rigourously define our terms here: when i say i flirt with people, i guess what i mean is that i attend to them seriously. when they are talking, i look straight at them, touch them for emphasis; i'm just super-aware of who they are as people. if i like them, and am comfortable with them, i make fun of them a great deal. i can do this readily in front of my guy; he finds me amusing - he is himself quite charming, but it's the laconic and distant kind of charming. i like people. i'm curious about them. i think this kind of attitude does colour most of my daily interaction - if i like a clerk's ring or cheekbones, i'm going to tell her. i'm not sure why this would be a problem. how are those of you who are so against flirting defining flirting? Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 12, 2004 Share Posted March 12, 2004 i look straight at them, touch them for emphasis; i make fun of them a great deal Yes that's my definition of flirting too. Link to post Share on other sites
caretoo Posted March 13, 2004 Share Posted March 13, 2004 I agree with meanon and jenny. I flirt in a different way though. It is mostly banter and yes it's fun. If I know someone quite well, am comfortable w/ them and they have a healthy sense of humor then it is simply good fun. I think many times I do it to boost the confidence of the "flirtee". It is done with affection. Too bad that many guys take it as derogatory teasing or rejection, but I see some do. Guys, tell me this... Why can you make fun of us gals (in good humor/or warped humor ) and think it is so funny but when we do the same it ticks you off? Is it personalities, security or a bad past experience? Don't men like to keep things "light" most of the time? It seems a lot of men complain about baggage and such when women are too sincere or serious. Just curious Link to post Share on other sites
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