VJW Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Why is it so much harder in the morning to be strong? I think about my X more in the AM then I do anyother time. All I want to do is call him and see how he is doing but I know that I cannot do that. NC is going to be one of the hardest things I have ever done.
voels Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Maybe it's because you're all alone in the AM. Stay strong!
AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Why is it so much harder in the morning to be strong? I think about my X more in the AM then I do anyother time. All I want to do is call him and see how he is doing but I know that I cannot do that. NC is going to be one of the hardest things I have ever done. Mornings are always hard because through my on and off period with my ex he would try to contact me late while I was sleeping. Even if his texts were negative it still gave me something to ignore- or a piece of him. I would wake up to some sort of message or missed call. Since the last time it's been off he's gotten close to another girl so he has a distraction from me. I feel I am not on his mind and she is replacing me. Every time it ended it was his call, but his call to come back. He's not this time- and it's probably the best... but every morning hurts because I don't know where to start in my life without him.
Author VJW Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 I think they are hard for me because there is that moment when I wake up that I forget he is not in my life anymore. Then it hits me like a ton of bricks. Its like losing him all over again every morning...
AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I think they are hard for me because there is that moment when I wake up that I forget he is not in my life anymore. Then it hits me like a ton of bricks. Its like losing him all over again every morning... My ex moved out 5 months ago (we were together for a year). When he moved out I just didn't even sleep because I couldn't fall asleep without him, and I couldn't bare the fact to wake up without him. I slept on the couch for while just to try to rest, then I redid my bedroom. Idk, maybe that will help you. It was funny, me and my ex have been on and off since we split, and the last time he stayed here, I couldn't sleep next to him. I was almost annoyed with they way he breathed. Ok, I am just trying to make myself feel better, I couldn't sleep because I didn't want to miss a second with him. He's gone now... seeing someone new. He just had to get his emotional attachment for me out of his system a couple last times before he moved on. I hope you start having mornings that aren't hard for you. I know this sucks.
Leandro Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I think they are hard for me because there is that moment when I wake up that I forget he is not in my life anymore. Then it hits me like a ton of bricks. Its like losing him all over again every morning... This happen to me too. You wake up and they are the first thing to come to mind, knowing that your not with them anymore and probably wont be.
Ajax Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 My ex moved out 5 months ago (we were together for a year). When he moved out I just didn't even sleep because I couldn't fall asleep without him, and I couldn't bare the fact to wake up without him. I slept on the couch for while just to try to rest, then I redid my bedroom. Idk, maybe that will help you. It was funny, me and my ex have been on and off since we split, and the last time he stayed here, I couldn't sleep next to him. I was almost annoyed with they way he breathed. Ok, I am just trying to make myself feel better, I couldn't sleep because I didn't want to miss a second with him. He's gone now... seeing someone new. He just had to get his emotional attachment for me out of his system a couple last times before he moved on. I hope you start having mornings that aren't hard for you. I know this sucks. I also slept on my futon in the living room for a while after my ex left. For about the first month I moved back in with my parents because I couldn't even bear to stay in my apartment. When I did come back I couldn't sleep in the bed we shared. Then like you, I changed all my furnature around. To the OP, mornings can be really tough. For the first coupld months after the breakup I'd wake up and just feel like I couldn't get out of bed. If I tried to eat something sometimes I threw it back up. I was pathetic. Things gradually get better, take your time.
Author VJW Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 I am trying to take it one moment at a time but it can be really hard when I see something or think of something that makes me think of him. I feel like I am getting stronger but I just want this part to be over. I want to be in the stage where I am happy and healthy all on my own. I know that I am taking the right steps to get there (nc, excercise, friends and new hobbies) but it still makes my heart drop when I think of him. Why can't time move faster?!!?
AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I am trying to take it one moment at a time but it can be really hard when I see something or think of something that makes me think of him. I feel like I am getting stronger but I just want this part to be over. I want to be in the stage where I am happy and healthy all on my own. I know that I am taking the right steps to get there (nc, excercise, friends and new hobbies) but it still makes my heart drop when I think of him. Why can't time move faster?!!? I wish I could tell you. My year long relationship ended, the 5 months of on and off and maybes and I love you and I hate you...I am broken right now. It's only been 4 days since I decided that I am beat from this. NC no matter what. I wish it were a year from now and he was a flash in my memory.
nsearch4u Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 my wife would leave for the gym at 5:30 am. afterwards she'd go to work. every morning i woke up to a text message. it was hard to get past not having it anymore. the hard time for me was at night though, reaching over to her side of the bed and it being empty. i refuse to sleep in the middle though. i'm saving that side for someone else...one day.... is it possible to find someone else you can text with daily? It may sound odd but i've made a couple friends that are women and they text me quite frequently before i start my day even.....it may not matter that they're male or female but i know for me that a female texting me before i wake up makes me feel special....lol....even just a friend...
stopthemadness Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Yea mornings are hard for me too. Cause as soon as I wake up I think, Why cant he just love me like I love him! I am seeing a therapist and she has me keeping a journal. Guess when I mostly write in it? yep the mornings. Later when I go bk and read it I think Wow I was in a dark place. Like you days are much better. We can get through this...
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