EarthDweller Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 So, I feel I have in me the 'nice guy' gene who can't date more than one at a time, because I feel like I have to abandon one of them.. Then I feel guilt so I stay with that one, despite knowing the other was really who I want. I feel the other will then see me as having jumped from the first one, so I may be less trustworthy with her. I could hide the first one, but that would make me feel I lost all sense of morals. Then, I feel I'm an idiot for having morals, cause dating is about being a bit 'mean' to get what you want.. I mean, rejection is part of the game. I feared rejection my whole life but that makes me hate being the rejector... Does anyone else feel this way??
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I have a fear of abandonment and rejection, but I can still reject people if the need arises. I was dating someone a year ago and, whilst we got on well, we were missing that spark and physical chemistry. A lot of that was down to me not being attracted by her body. I then met someone who had a great body and vibrant personality, and the decision then became quite easy for me. I think you have to start asking yourself what you want in a girlfriend.
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