Mad Max Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Although most people would like to think leagues don't exist and I roll my eyes at the concept, the fact is leagues really do exist whether we want to admit it or not. The question is, how do you know who is truly in your league and who is above/below it?
skydiveaddict Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Although most people would like to think leagues don't exist and I roll my eyes at the concept, the fact is leagues really do exist whether we want to admit it or not. The question is, how do you know who is truly in your league and who is above/below it? Max, I think you are wrong to think this way. Leagues may indeed exist. But you only get one shot in this life, so go for what you want, leagues or not
musemaj11 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Your instinct tells you what league you are in. I know whether I have a chance with someone or not.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Why does there have to be leagues? I normally just follow the type I'm attracted to.
Star Gazer Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I don't think leagues exist, but assuming they do, what makes up a league? Appearance? Personality/character?
tigressA Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I don't think leagues exist, but assuming they do, what makes up a league? Appearance? Personality/character? In my experience, when someone talks "leagues" in dating, they're referencing appearance.
Author Mad Max Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 Nice muscle on guys = nice boobs and/or ass on girl Handsome face on guy = pretty face on girl You do the math... However, I have seen lots of pretty girls and attractive guys date way lower than them in terms of attractivness because they were more mentally attracted to the person in terms of security.... That doesn't necessarily equal league. Leagues generally involve looks overall. This of course is assuming all parties involved possess an average level of money and status. Would someone as big as Chris Farley have a shot at someone that looks like Adriana Lima or Alessandra Ambrosio? In reality, no. There are people that date down in terms of looks. But, the thing is they only date down so much. An attractive guy can date down and I have seen it before(though not all that often), but not down to the point of a Rosie O'Donnell look alike.
carhill Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Historically, 'league' could also mean socio-economic status. I recall this word being used a lot when I attended private high school and, later, college. 'Buddy, you're a gearhead; she's out of your league.' Based on the way those certain females looked down their noses at me, I tended to get the message. Relevant to LS threads, league appears to generally denote strata of attractiveness of appearance. Regardless, I don't participate in 'leagues' threads. That's for other, younger, generations. Enjoy the leagues.
LaraC Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Nice muscle on guys = nice boobs and/or ass on girl Handsome face on guy = pretty face on girl You do the math... However, I have seen lots of pretty girls and attractive guys date way lower than them in terms of attractivness because they were more mentally attracted to the person in terms of security.... This is where men's vs. women's messages confuse me. I have been told I have extremely great, world class boobs, caught many a guy staring at them, and junk in the trunk. Men seem to be fascinated by this, women (actually, my mom) constantly tells me I have to lose weight and that my ass is too big. You see commercials on TV for ass pads to make women look like their asses are bigger, you also see commercials of stick thin models with no ass and no boobs. I find it extremely confusing. I have never equated good muscles on a guy with my T&A, because I am utterly confused about whether or not having a big ass is good or bad. Generally I feel I'm in the same league with a guy if when I'm with him, I don't feel threatened that he could do better and replace me easily- it's just sort of a feeling of confidence. Or as I read somewhere on LS, "when you can't tell which one is slumming" A big part of how confident I am about being in a guy's league is based on his first impression/reaction to me - guys who meet me and you can tell they are instantly attracted/ acting obvious about it, I know I must be above their usual girl type. A guy who meets me and sort of ignores me or doesn't seem blown away, makes me think I must be below average on his scale. Also look at his previous girlfriend and compare. That first impression is very important as to how confident I will feel around him in the future. Not sure if my "league" compared to him is actually based on my looks or more because of his personality or the way he acts.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I find men tend to use the word " league" more than women. Is this synonymous with the word " trophy" wife/gf? You always hear guys say " she's out of my league" but I hardly hear girls use it. We just use " he's not my type".
zig Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I always date out of my league. It keeps me away from lower grade women that I might otherwise be attracted to for unhealthy reasons.
AD1980 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Ive always wondered this,allot of it can be subjective since most people you see are average or slightly above or below very raely do you see 10's or 0's.. Plus someobdy you think is unattratcive might think you are and somebody who you think si too good looking for you might think you are good looking.. But at the same time most couples you see seme to be pretty evenly matched in terms of looks.. I think its easier to pair people from the outside then figure out whos in your league so to speak..
AD1980 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I find men tend to use the word " league" more than women. Is this synonymous with the word " trophy" wife/gf? You always hear guys say " she's out of my league" but I hardly hear girls use it. We just use " he's not my type". I hear girls use league as well..They may use different wording like "she could do so much better then him"
threebyfate Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 If you're determined to believe in leagues, the easiest way to figure out who's in your league is who doesn't reject you. Beyond that, does it matter?
Author Mad Max Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 Ive always wondered this,allot of it can be subjective since most people you see are average or slightly above or below very raely do you see 10's or 0's.. Plus someobdy you think is unattratcive might think you are and somebody who you think si too good looking for you might think you are good looking.. But at the same time most couples you see seme to be pretty evenly matched in terms of looks.. I think its easier to pair people from the outside then figure out whos in your league so to speak.. I don't think anyone is truly a 10. I've seen models that aren't even all that hot(IMO). Modeling is about the right look, not about movie star looks. Overall, couples are pretty close in terms of looks. You'll see some exceptions but it's not often. And when it does happen, it's the woman that's better looking than the man probably 90-95% of the time.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 This is where men's vs. women's messages confuse me. I have been told I have extremely great, world class boobs, caught many a guy staring at them, and junk in the trunk. Men seem to be fascinated by this, women (actually, my mom) constantly tells me I have to lose weight and that my ass is too big. You see commercials on TV for ass pads to make women look like their asses are bigger, you also see commercials of stick thin models with no ass and no boobs. I find it extremely confusing. I have never equated good muscles on a guy with my T&A, because I am utterly confused about whether or not having a big ass is good or bad. You do know that half the time, women are in competition with each other over looks right? Yeah, maybe having good assets will attract men, but most of the time you're in competition with other women to attract those men. Just something to think about.
tigressA Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 If you're determined to believe in leagues, the easiest way to figure out who's in your league is who doesn't reject you. Beyond that, does it matter? Quoted for truth. I don't believe in leagues. I just go for whoever I think is awesome, and most of the time they go for me too.
threebyfate Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Quoted for truth. I don't believe in leagues. I just go for whoever I think is awesome, and most of the time they go for me too.Thanks. Same here. Ve have veys to let men know ve're interested!
Pyro Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 the fact that I am marrying someone on the other side of the planet makes me believe that no one is out of anyones league. If you like the person enough go for it.
sumdude Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 (edited) Quoted for truth. I don't believe in leagues. I just go for whoever I think is awesome, and most of the time they go for me too. Everyone has their own league inside their heads and there's little way of knowing for sure if you're in it or not until you give it a try. You also have to work on yourself. No one made it to the Big League without a lifetime of work and practice. Edited November 29, 2010 by sumdude
SteveC80 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 If youre a Man look at the girls brother if she has one if youre a women look at the guys sister if he has one and compare yourself to them
donnamaybe Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 http://www.characterent.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/sneetches01.jpg The one on the left presumes he is in a league somewhere above the other.
somedude81 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Leagues apply to men and women very differently. Men are bound to stricter and more requirements than women are. The only 'league' that can affect woman is socioeconomic status. For example if she was a normal person and the guy is a celebrity. Of course that goes both way. Women are not restricted by appearance leagues in normal circumstances. No man would be out of a woman's league unless there was something very wrong with her appearance, for example being deformed or obese. For the man's side there are many, many, things than can make a woman out of a man's league. The most obvious thing is his and her appearance. If she is too many points above him in terms of looks, it will be very difficult for the man to get her. The other things that are relevant, is the mans money, lifestyle, or how charismatic he is. To make a long story short: I don't believe in leagues. I just go for whoever I think is awesome, and most of the time they go for me too. You can because you're a woman. A man going for whomever he thinks is awesome, leads to frequent rejections.
EasyHeart Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 If she's breath-takingly beautiful, she's in my league; if she's not, she's out of my league.
2sure Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I dont really agree with the whole "league" concept but I do understand that other people do. I can tell you that there is nothing more charming to me than a man who on the surface probably thinks he is "not in my league" but approaches me anyway because he has the confidence or the what the hell attitude. Something about that I find more attractive than traditional good looks.
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