thekid55 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 My ex-girlfriend and I broke up 8 weeks ago after a 2.5 year relationship. It was a mutual decision. We both had become unhappy in the relationship and wanted to take time to work on ourselves, spend time with friends, etc. When we decided to breakup, we vowed that we would come back together stronger one day. We are both 22 and have spoken about marriage, moving in together, etc. She has showed me rings that she likes as well. Neither one of us have rebounded, gotten into another relationship, etc. Well, I have tried to come back to her and work on things a few different times and she has always denied me. However, after I leave her alone for awhile, she'll contact me with something small. Asking about my life, family, etc. Basically 'checking in'. On Thanksgiving, she sent me a personal text message. We can't seem to go longer than 2 weeks without talking. We are no longer friends on Facebook and neither one of us have rebounded or gotten into another relationship. A mutual friend told me this last week. Friends have told me that she either adds or accepts friend requests from a few new guys. There is no interaction between them. I think I'm just being insecure about that. Also on Facebook, she recently posted a quote saying 'Fake it until you make it'. What do you think about her behavior? Will she want to come back? Does she still have feelings? I realize now that I miss her and want her back.
Perhaps Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 This is as black and white as it gets: If you really love her, sincerely tell her that you want her back (assuming you are 100% sure you want to be back with her). If she says no, or says crap like "I need more time.. blah blah blah" don't talk/stalk/respond to her for more than two weeks. It'll require immense strength but this will be your best shot at either moving on or getting her back.
Author thekid55 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 I have tried telling her multiple times that I want her back, but she has not budged. Granted, I was intoxicated the few times that I tried, but I have made an effort to work on things. She has not made an effort other than a few attempts at small communication.
C-dot Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 As a woman, I can sort of understand her behaviour. Women give off mixed signals when they just can't decide what they want. Her friends may be telling her one thing, her family another... It can become difficult to make a decision. Especially if she knows you'll always be there, and therefore, that she can treat you this way. My suggestion is similar to Perhaps': Start living your own life. Go out with your friends, cultivate some hobbies, maybe even date casually. You've done everything you can for her at this point, and she still hasn't made the effort. It takes two to tango, right? If you build your life back into a comfortable place, when the time comes it will be easier for you to move on, or to fit her back in. The bottom line is, if she definitely had made up her mind, she'd be in your arms. Until she has, you have yourself to take care of. Good luck.
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