durkadurka Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Follow up to my thread I posted about a week ago. I'm in Vegas with my ex, staying at the Bellagio. It's been a confusing experience to say the least. She's dropped lines like 'Now that I'm back in your life you have to start eating healthy again', 'If we get married, we need to have a big wedding', amongst other things like saying how good we look together and we'd make great kids and how hot I am. How she wouldn't want to be here with anyone else but me and how much fun she's having. But she's also been really restrained, there has been no sex, only holding hands, cuddling and snuggling, she was nice enough to give me a message . We share a bed. We were out last night and I wouldn't say I laid it down on her, but she could definitely tell something was up. She asked and I told her that I'm happy to be here with her, and that I was happy I could bring her here. I didn't really want to bring up the relationship. I'm looking to the future not the past. As the night went on I took her to this club she wanted to go to, things got a little bit awkward, eventually I just told her to speak her mind. She said she had a lot to think about, that she's really conflicted and just trying to think and deal with what's going on. That she realizes that if something happens, it is a big deal. It's not just sex. She then broke into tears saying how much she has been thinking of me, but that she is seeing someone and she just doesn't know what's going on in her life, and that she's been restrained while she was down here because she doesn't know what to do. To quote her 'It's not that I don't crave or desire to have sex with you, I do. I just don't know what to do here because if we it the decision is much bigger than just having sex' Now, this leaves me in an awkward position because that chat last night was fueled by booze. I don't really know what to do now, because she's still being touchy feely with me. Gahh. It's tough because I'm seeing here run around the room half naked. It's like in some ways she's pretending we're still together, and in other ways absolutely not. I'm not getting an inch from her. So, how do I change my approach? I need to start opening some doors.
Capital P Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 why would u go away with an ex who is ****ing someone else? And sit there like a chump while she decides what is happening in the relationship, and if she is even going to get back with you. Take her out if needs be, but tell her u also are just having fun. Hit on other women, make her work for it. You are generating 0% attraction at the minute and are a stopgap betwen her finding another better partner And you are weak
johan Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 She's seeing someone else, but she's there with you, sharing a bed and taunting you with her body. What kind of person is she? You're taking what she's giving and hoping for more. But you have no evidence she'll ever offer more than she is offering right now. The bottom line, I think, is a girl is either in or she's out. Typically when a girl is in, then there's no mistaking it. But when she's out, that can range from being completely gone, to being cold, to sending confusing signals. You're getting the signals. But they're just signals. You aren't getting the real thing. What you need to do is what a man should always do: look at the facts, make a decision, make a plan, and then make it happen. The facts are she's not your girlfriend. She's not giving the unmistakable "in" signals. She's seeing someone else. You aren't getting what you need from her (and I'm not talking about sex). So given those facts, what is your decision? What is the plan? Get started now. Do the right thing for yourself: get out of a crappy situation as soon as possible.
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