sirweasles Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 my wife is talking to me again ive asked her to get involved and to help me get through my tough times. I thnk she is finally starting to understand a little about what is going on with me and why im acting the way I am. I have given my all and will now sit back and hang on and pray that i can keep the ride smooth.
Surfer203 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 So.. she is talking to you now.. what do you want to get out of this? Are you trying to reconcile or what?
Author sirweasles Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 yes I am fully commited to her and am working towards a better situation if I can get her to see that I truely am workin out my issues then we can begin to work out our issues
PegNosePete Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 She has friendzoned you dude. Women do not reconcile with guys who ask them to help them through the tough times. They reconcile with guys who are strong MEN.
You Go Girl Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Anytime a wife is willing to truly listen, think about, and discuss issues, then there's hope. She hasn't tuned you out, or she's tuned you back in. It's when they refuse to talk, or go silent, that hope diminishes. Here's a test idea of where her head is at--give her a question to answer, something that will take some thought, something that is a stepping stone to repairing your relationship. Then wait and see if she does the mental work to figure it out, put some effort into that, or is evasive or simply avoids bothering with it. There will be a good measure of how much she might be willing to put into repairing things. An answer of "I've been too busy" isn't going to cut it.
Author sirweasles Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 she doesnt want to work on the relationship till ive gotten help for my PTSD I dont know what to do the hopes that keep me going that keep me alive feel dead inside.
Surfer203 Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Hmm.. It's a tough call man. How do we know if our women are being sincere.. I guess you can never know. Go with your gut. Get help for your problems regardless of your marriage. Do it for you! If she follows and decides to reconcile then all the better. If not, you are still bettering yourself and that is key.
Author sirweasles Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 I have three little girls so it doen't matter how or what I feel I have to hang around. I always have hope.
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