wondergirl_6 Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 So I eventually went out again with the guy I met once 4 weeks again tonight, we had dinner which lasted 2.5 hours, paid for ourselves, talked about a bit this and a bit that, and said goodbye at the metro station from where I walked by home myself then. No any sort of physical contact. I guess this is just two people hanging out? Our first "meeting" was also like this.
tb24 Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I don't really think you gave us enough information to be able to make an accurate assessment... how much do you talk to him on the phone/text? has he done anything to show whether he's interested? He had dinner with you so there must be something there but a 4 week gap is a long time! Any reason it was so long? On a related note, us guys cant win. If we start initiating physical contact too early you think we're just after sex. If we don't you think we're not interested. Finding the "right time" is hard to judge and varies woman to woman!
Author wondergirl_6 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 ^Sorry for the lack of information. So basically I met him online a month ago, emailed back and forth for a week and met in person. He sounded fun in emails but not really in person. Then I started to talk to someone else online while our different schedules didn't allow us to meet again although he asked to "hang out again" by email right after the first meeting. I tried to contact him again earlier this week as I'm not seeing the previous guy anymore. He never called/texted me even he has my number. I honestly don't know how to tell if a guy is interested only except he says so or has some "actions".
WTRanger Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 What does it matter if he's interested in you? You are obviously not interested in him, as you say he's not as interesting in person. He suggests you "hang out" = BAD SIGN You two pay separate = BAD SIGN If he says you should pay separate, he's a cheapskate If you say you should pay separate, you are obviously not giving off good date vibe. I have never taken a girl on a date, a real date mind you, where we split the tab. It's old school, but the guy should typically pay. At the very least, only one person should pay if you want to treat him (though it should be a rare occasion like his birthday). Either you two date, or you stop hanging out. He may be interested, but he's playing it way too passive or you are giving off a just-friends vibe. A guy should always specify that it is a real date, not some hang-out fest that should be better left with his male buddies.
Author wondergirl_6 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 ^If I was not interested at all, I wouldn't contact him again after 4 weeks. He actually always used the phrase "hang out", he never used "date". So when I contacted him again, I used "hang out" as well. I thought it's just a casual way to say "date"? We paid seperately the first time because the restaurant gives students 10% off but we had to pay in cash, and neither of us had enough cash to cover the whole bill. This time I planned to pay my share as I kind of "asked him out" after 4 weeks. I guess I'll just see if he ever contacts me again, if not, then never mind.
runner Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 doesn't really matter if you say 'date' or 'hangout'; i think what matters more is your body language when the two of you are together and if it gets flirty and physical.
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