Mscchick Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 So... I've been really trying to work on my flirting skills etc. lately because I really don't have any! Haha. Anyway, last night I was out at a bar with friends (all coupled up) and there weren't very many people. So I walked over to these two guys that were friends just hanging out playing a game. I was bored and didn't even know if either was cute at that point! They stopped and talked to me for a long time until I had to go. One was pretty aggressive in IN YOUR FACE, but the other one who I was actually into was less so. He did do things like try to get in close a couple of times, whispered in my ear picking on me, and then jokingly said something like "I feel we have a connection" etc. So he was a bit of a tease, but I didn't really make it clear which guy I actually liked at all! So when I had to leave I just said "nice talking to you" and shook his hand... and the guy I liked just told me his name and asked for mine and he just had this "look" that just made me melt! Then I went to shake the other guys hand and he looked a little annoyed to say the least. At that point though... I didn't know what to do? Did I completely screw that up? Or was he just NOT that into me... Or was he just a complete wuss? I need to know what I'm doing wrong AND better about being able to tell if a guy likes me or not. Guys... Help!
Author Mscchick Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 What did you want from him? His number? To come home with you? What makes him a wuss? Well, honestly I just wanted him to just ask me for my info or ask me out or something along those lines. The whole "wuss" thing is based on some people opinion that sometimes a guy just doesn't ask you out because he is a really shy etc. This same things just happed to me a couple of weeks ago and I'm just wondering if I'm not doing the right things or I'm just talking to the wrong guys. Not to be blunt... but I'm cetainly not a bad looking girl and that doesn't seem to be the problem. Just frustrated and somewhat clueless!
Cee Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I don't see any harm in offering your phone number in a case like this. Chances are slim that he would call, but at least you gave it a shot.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Y'know, I don't think you did anything wrong at all. I mean, we can sit here at LS and keep writing tales about how THAT ONE GUY was your one-in-a-lifetime CHANCE to live the blissful existence, win the lottery (the real lottery, not [just] the romance lottery), and know fame and adulation... but y'know what? - it WASN'T (such a case) At some recent point you resolved to PRACTICE your social skills, and that is exactly what you did. If you dropped everything this afternoon and went to a batting cage, you'd arrive there with full understanding of the object of the endeavor, but before you were hitting home runs with the best of'em you'd work on making contact with the ball. Soon you'd advance to getting the ball out of the infield... and only later would you be swinging for the fences. Now I know you can't race home and tally something material (like a phone number written on a coaster) after the experience you describe... BUT you saw progress based on what you wrote here. Admittedly the 'other' guy was slowing any progress you were making toward securing the details of the party of interest. At the same time, the guy in whom you were interested is kicking himself for not boldly GIVING YOU his number as he, too, tallies another missed opportunity. Y'know what? There are scores and scores of perfectly suitable, attractive guys out there who would match you well. You simply took A step toward more easily inviting romance into your life in the very near future.
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