VJW Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Does anyone have any advice on how to prevent yourself from contacting your ex while you are in NC? I am on day 3 of NC and it is a constant struggle.
Fufu Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 This is what I do to distract myself from contacting my ex: When I'm at home: - Delete him from my phone, msn, skype, facebook - Log on to lovehshack forum to read and post (Definitely helps me alot) - Multiple chats with my online friends and close friends - Watch my favourite animations like Bleach and so on - haha, or if you are bored you can pm me for chit chat When I'm out: - Out with family and friends (movies, view cars, view houses, lunches, dinners)
Leandro Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 What I do to keep me going: I play VGs when I'm homeIf I have to say something to my ex, I say it in the coping room on the "Post here instead of your ex" threadI jump on the Coping Chat room and chat with everyone.I workoutI listen to my favorite songs, even if they are about break ups, they still get me pumpedI REMEMBER WHAT MY EX DID TO ME AND KNOW THAT I DID NOT DESERVE THAT
Margot Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I have been in NC for 5 months, even when he had tried to make me break it. This are the things I have been doing to keep me going: * Deleted his phone and e-mail (I know them by heart but if I don't see his name I don't get tempted) You can also leave the phone off or at your house once in a while. *I deactivated my FB. *I talked to "our" mutual friends and told them that I needed space and time from them *I've been hanging out with MY friends and family who can listen to me and keep me out of contacting him *I've been avoiding places where he might be because I'm just not ready for that and it can tempted you to contact them later *I go out of the house even if I don't want to. I exercise, go to a friend's house, go to other towns that just don't remind me of him *I cried and write all my feelings, it helps. And I reminded myself all the things he did to me and how I didn't deserve that. As much as I love him he treated me like ****. *Read other people experiences and write them about yours in all forums such as LoveShack. That helps a lot and you realize you are not alone. *Try to not be alone because those are the moments of weakness. If I don't have a friend or a family member around I just log to this forums and just write and help other people. They know what we've been thru. After 6 years together and lived together it hasn't been easy to keep the NC for 5 months. But is not impossible. I know that it might sound silly but I marked in my calendar all my NC days so I can see how much I have accomplished and how strong I can be after months of weakness by his side.
Author VJW Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 I have been having such a hard time because it seems like since he is not contacting me that he is ignoring me. Or he is giving me my space.... I am not sure. I am having issues because I want to talk to him so bad but at the same time I want to give us some space to try and heal. But I dreamt about him last night and that we were back together and when I woke up this morning I was so sad.... It would just be nice to know if he misses me as much as I miss him.... How can I have so many conflicting thoughts running through my head at one time?!?!? I just want the pain to be over.
Author VJW Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 I am very new here so I need some direction on how to go into the coping chat room.
Scott Clifford Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I have been having such a hard time because it seems like since he is not contacting me that he is ignoring me. Or he is giving me my space.... I am not sure. I am having issues because I want to talk to him so bad but at the same time I want to give us some space to try and heal. But I dreamt about him last night and that we were back together and when I woke up this morning I was so sad.... It would just be nice to know if he misses me as much as I miss him.... How can I have so many conflicting thoughts running through my head at one time?!?!? I just want the pain to be over. I have the same problem. Its hard, it will stay hard. Hopefully time will make it easier. Hopefully they'll contact us.
Nkognito Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 This is the problem with "No Contact" because both parties do it to each other and unless one or the other concave, it is relationship roulette. I don't know what kind of advice you're looking for but it might help to know a little more background on your relationship. Who broke up with who and for how long were you two going out and such.
AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Does anyone have any advice on how to prevent yourself from contacting your ex while you are in NC? I am on day 3 of NC and it is a constant struggle. Hey VJW... I am on day 3 too! Actually... we've been apart for 5 months but on and off... it's been on and off because we have both caved and contacted each other and every time it gets worse and worse. I am sticking to it this time... and not to give him time to miss me... but to give myself time to GET OVER IT! It really does get harder because once a couple weeks go by you wonder why they aren't trying to contact you.. and you think "hmmm maybe I will just see how he's doing"... DON'T DO IT! And if she contacts you... simply ignore and delete! Stay strong because it does get a little harder, but eventually, it will fade and you will be moving on. Listen to all of the other things that people posted to pass time. Sometimes I send a text to my friends that I would want to send to him... they may get annoyed by this, so don't abuse your friends. I love it here because we are all going through the same thing and it's a great place to get it out.
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