Author tigressA Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 There's a guy I'm talking to now; we've been corresponding for a week, he hasn't asked me out yet. I just found out that he has the same first name as my dad. I feel iffy about that. It may seem ridiculous, but it's a thing I have. My interest dropped somewhat after finding that out.
SmileFace Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 There's a guy I'm talking to now; we've been corresponding for a week, he hasn't asked me out yet. I just found out that he has the same first name as my dad. I feel iffy about that. It may seem ridiculous, but it's a thing I have. My interest dropped somewhat after finding that out. Ha !I had a guy nearly break it off with me since I had the same birthday as his ex. lol I would of broke it off if I was him lol
Author tigressA Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 Ha !I had a guy nearly break it off with me since I had the same birthday as his ex. lol I would of broke it off if I was him lol I was the rebound for a guy who has a name that starts with the same letter mine does. What's more is that his two prior exes also have names that start with the same letter--and the three of us in progression were in alphabetical order! I think I'll let Guy #1 know I'm available for next weekend--I'll be back in town by 5 on Saturday.
alexlakeman Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Good idea OP. I started a similar thread a few mths ago but didn't follow up on it. I would forget and start new threads lol. I should merge them and have a guys' version lol What type of info was on his blog? Like a woman's diary???? Or "a blogl"? Sounds great Rare find, the guy with a relationship blog... don't think I know a single male with one! Or maybe they just don't let people know.. Lol, hold on I keep a spreadsheet with specs and keep the pics catorgorized by month a dates' name. Does that count? Lol
alexlakeman Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Ha !I had a guy nearly break it off with me since I had the same birthday as his ex. lol I would of broke it off if I was him lol I had one woman tell me she couldn't date me b/c my first name was the same as her ex husband's lol. That would akward. I could dat someone with an ex gf's name, but I don't if I could date someone with my parasitic ex wife's name lol. I would be remembering her every day with the same names uggggghhh
Author tigressA Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 Just got back from Date #1 with Guy #2. I'll be making my first cut already. We went to a hibachi place that I'm familiar with for dinner; the food was good. Conversation was great, things flowed really well, BUT--the whole thing felt more buddy-buddy to me than anything else. I didn't feel a spark with him. He's 28, works as a military scientist, gets to travel all over the world for his job. He's really interesting, good-looking and I get along well with him, but I honestly can't see him being anything more than a friend. I do have plans now to go on a second date with Guy #1 on Saturday, after I get back from my trip. Next up is Date #1 with Guy #3 on Tuesday.
Author tigressA Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 I was talking to a guy friend of mine about the dates and how I'm learning restraint with regard to physical intimacy, that all I've done is hug these guys. He said, "Good! There's more to life than satisfying your debased needs." :lmao: I noticed right away that things become much more fraught with tension (the good kind) when you know nothing is going to happen and you find the person attractive. I was definitely checking out Guy #1 when we were out last night and thinking naughty things. I could get used to waiting. It's pretty delicious.
Star Gazer Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I could get used to waiting. It's pretty delicious. That it is!!
Author tigressA Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 (edited) I have a definite plan with Guy #3 now, for Tuesday. We're having dinner at a cozy Thai cafe and then going to Borders to have coffee/dessert and browse the aisles. We're both very avid readers--FINALLY I have come across a guy who loves to read as much as I do; I started thinking they were an extinct breed! --so that'll be fun. I may end up purchasing a few new books, too. Edited November 29, 2010 by tigressA
threebyfate Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 At the pace you're going Tigress, by Valentine's Day you're going to have a clean dozen in your bouquet of men! Have fun!
Author tigressA Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 At the pace you're going Tigress, by Valentine's Day you're going to have a clean dozen in your bouquet of men! Have fun! Thanks, TBF. I have been having a lot of fun, though I do hope to just have one by the time V-Day comes around...:love:
Author tigressA Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 (edited) I might be being stood up by Guy #3... I haven't heard from him yet today, and I just called, but his voicemail picked up. I didn't leave a message. Judging from our conversation the other day he'd be on his way right about now, so there is the chance that he didn't answer his phone because he's driving. I am kind of annoyed at this point. Usually I get a call saying they're on their way...that may not be his style. I don't know. Edit: Well I was wrong. He just called, he had left at 5:30 but the highway is heavy with traffic so he'll be later than intended. He'll give me another call when he's closer. Edited November 30, 2010 by tigressA
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 There's a guy I'm talking to now; we've been corresponding for a week, he hasn't asked me out yet. I just found out that he has the same first name as my dad. I feel iffy about that. It may seem ridiculous, but it's a thing I have. My interest dropped somewhat after finding that out. That seems illogical. Does this happen to you with other things as well? I was the rebound for a guy who has a name that starts with the same letter mine does. What's more is that his two prior exes also have names that start with the same letter--and the three of us in progression were in alphabetical order! I think I'll let Guy #1 know I'm available for next weekend--I'll be back in town by 5 on Saturday. It is statistically improbable that he planned something like that. There are many things in life which are meaningless coincidences. Though sometimes they can have great impacts on our life... that does not make it any less coincidental. Don't look for patterns in places where they don't exist. I understand it's nice to feel like you can predict the future through superstition... but really you just wind up limiting yourself for silly reasons. Just my opinion on this particular topic.
Crazy Magnet Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 Oooo I love this thread! I believe my BF was number 4 or so from online dating, but overall after my entire multidating phase was over he was like #25 or so. In other words, don't be discouraged and take as much time as you need! I too kept things to hugs. I let it go a little past that once or twice (no clothes ever came off) and it felt too weird. I kept having thoughts about the other guys and what they were doing! lol So not what I wanted to be thinking about. hahaha PS...I would not date anyone with my father's name or my exH's name. I rather be single. I do know a guy who got cheated on by his wife and then she left him. A few months later he started dating a woman by the same name. They live together now but OMG that would be way too weird for me. At least he doesn't have to worry about calling her the wrong name!
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Just got back a few minutes ago from Date #1 with Guy #3. I had a very nice time. We had dinner at a hole-in-the-wall Thai cafe I'm familiar with (what is it with me and Asian food on first dates? ) and conversation flowed really well. There was a lot of eye contact. When we were back in the car and had been talking for a little while longer, there was a bit of a lull and we were looking at each other. He said, "I've been wanting to do this..." and he just leaned in and kissed me. I stayed kind of passive for a minute but tentatively inched my way into it. It was really nice. It happened a couple more times. He was really into it; he was doing most of the leaning in and was holding me really tightly. Yeah, yeah, I broke a rule! I feel kind of guilty...but it was so nice. Argh! We went to Borders for a little while and looked around, and we both found a book that we wanted. At one point I had spotted a Buffy the Vampire Slayer book and he commented on how much he liked the show. I said, "Are you serious?! That's my favorite show EVER!" He said he's seen every episode. In the car on the way back we were talking about our favorite episodes, ahh, it was awesome! I never thought I'd be able to talk about my favorite show like that with anybody, much less a cute guy! He's 28 and teaches math to high school-age kids at a private school. He's really cute, with these big, dark eyes and pitch-black *curly* hair (ohmygosh I luuuuurve guys with curly hair ). He's away at a conference from tomorrow through Sunday; he said he'll be in touch.
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 (edited) Wow, assertive isn't he? I don't think kissing is exactly breaking the rules, besides you enjoyed it Any chance Guy 3 will get a second date? Oh yes, he is very assertive. But I like that in a guy. His hands were in 'proper' places the whole time--face and neck, back and shoulders, always above the waist, and outside the shirt. I appreciated that, though if he had tried anything beyond he would've been swiftly corrected. And hell yes, he will get a second date. So far Guy #1 and Guy #3 have the green light for a second date. I have vague plans to go out on Date #2 with Guy #1 on Saturday, after I get back from my overnight trip. Edited December 1, 2010 by tigressA
threebyfate Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Yup, yup, wouldn't worry about a few hugs, kisses and restrained caresses. Glad you had fun! And there's no real hard rule out there. Just an opportunity to try something different to see if it works for you or not.
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 (edited) Guy #3 is the one OKC said is 98% compatible with me. As yet I have no objection to that calculation. We have a nice bit in common so far. We were both the "weird" kids in minority-starved high schools (he's Indian, U.S.-born and raised), both late bloomers. We both love to read, though our taste in books differs somewhat. He writes; I used to write quite a lot more than I do now but still churn out some things every so often. And we agree on what the best season of Buffy is (3, with 6 as a close second). Edited December 1, 2010 by tigressA
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 I. Am. Sick. Not too long after I got back last night my throat started feeling itchy, then sore. Now I have a slight cough and body aches as well as a sore throat. It's Wednesday. Friday evening I'm supposed to go see my friend, come back Saturday afternoon and then go out with Guy #1 that evening. Since it's only Wednesday and this could be just a temporary thing, I'm hesitant to cancel this weekend's activities, but what if it isn't? And I don't want to possibly get anyone else sick even if I'm feeling better. I don't want to cancel the date "last-minute" if I'm still not feeling better because then it sounds like a lame excuse, even if I propose another day. I suppose I could wait and see if I'm feeling any better tomorrow. What to do? I did send a short email to Guy #3 a little while ago telling him I'm sick and to load up on fluids, etc in case he's caught it.
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 (edited) Tell him that you're feeling a little sick right but that you hope to get better for your next date. Tell him that you're looking forward to the date no matter what. I like that, though I really don't want to go out anywhere if I'm still feeling sick. I've tried it before and it just sucked. The night before my first date with my first boyfriend, I had developed a cold. Sore throat, congestion, runny nose, body aches. I still went out with him and overall had a good time but felt absolutely awful. Additionally, going out that day probably had an adverse effect--I ended up staying sick for over a week, even losing my voice, and that was in springtime. With this weather... I feel worse about possibly having to cancel on my friend--we've tried several times to get together over the last few months but haven't been able to. This is the first time we've had a concrete plan and now my body chooses to fail me. Edit: I saw the edit to your post, and it wouldn't sound overeager. Guy #1, the guy I went out with last weekend, is the one I have plans with on Saturday, not Guy #3, who I went out with for the first time just last night and possibly gave my sickness to/caught my sickness from. Edited December 1, 2010 by tigressA
SmileFace Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 (edited) For what its worth. You have inspired me to multi-date. Five new hopefuls and three dates set up. Wish me luck ,:-). One from Turkey and another from Europe. I am going to be cultured in no time,lol. Edited December 1, 2010 by SmileFace
yessy21 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 What dating website is this on? im about to go over there and find myself a date!
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Good luck, SmileFace! You should start your own thread; I'd like to see how things progress on your end. Yessy, I'm on OKCupid. It's free. You can get a "premium" membership that you have to pay for--you can have more pictures, attach pictures to messages, use super-specific search parameters when looking for matches, etc. But the regular membership has been working just fine for me!
Author tigressA Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 I just called Guy #1. His voicemail picked up, so I left a message. I said hi and that I got sick with a cold last night, I will try to get better because I would like to go out this weekend, and I will update him on my condition. So let's see how he responds to that.
yessy21 Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Thank you!!!! This sounds interesting. i might just do this myself. Ive been on other sites and no luck. but i havent heard of this one yet. as soon as i get home i will be signing up. And i will keep you posted... if i get any dates. (fingers crossed) This sounds like its going to be a lot of fun!
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