AlisaMarie Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 It's only been 2 days since it's over over. The breakup was in July, but the on and off has been since then till Thanksgiving with him calling the shots. We broke up 3 times since July and it was like 3 weeks on, 3 weeks off, etc. We reconnected on Wed and had a great time... full of I love yous and all you could hope to feel with someone that you love and want soo much. While I was eating Thanksgiving dinner... I get about 4 texts telling me it's time to go our separate ways for the moment... maybe the future will hold something for us... I still love you and can't let you go.. but can't let you in. He told me he was sorry he came into my life. He reminded me of all of the good things (which was different because past breakups he would bash me and accuse me of things). I said, well that's all gone now. I am sick, numb, upset... I can't get him out of my head, but I know I have to be done this time. My friends say that I am crying wolf and I have put up with too much. How do you just stop it... even if you're so wrapped up in this person?
b_rouse Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I know exactly how you feel. I'm going through a break up myself (on month 1!) and it is hard. But do believe me, it does get easier. You just have to see what the future has in store for you guys. But don't wait your life away, go out and have fun. Give yourself at most a week to grieve, then go have fun. That's the best you can do, just do things. Staying inside being alone and in silence only makes the thinking louder. Everyone says this, and I know right now, what people say doesn't seem as if it's true, but time does heal. Slowly you'll stop thinking about him and begin to remember the memories. Like I said, who knows what'll happen in the future, just live in the now.
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 I have been trying. I found out today through a friend that he left my house that morning and went to his "friends" house. The friend that he was ignoring all night and told her he was sleeping instead of with me. If he is lying to her about me... he is def lying to me about her. I am sick. This girl is gross. He is gross. I am so sick of unhappiness. I don't care if I am single but why do I keep getting men that treat me like a disposable piece of garbage that they might want to dig up later... or not. Seriously???? I am a good person... what did I do to deserve this from any of my exes?
Am4Real Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I have been trying. I found out today through a friend that he left my house that morning and went to his "friends" house. The friend that he was ignoring all night and told her he was sleeping instead of with me. If he is lying to her about me... he is def lying to me about her. I am sick. This girl is gross. He is gross. I am so sick of unhappiness. I don't care if I am single but why do I keep getting men that treat me like a disposable piece of garbage that they might want to dig up later... or not. Seriously???? I am a good person... what did I do to deserve this from any of my exes? How old is this guy?
Fufu Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 AlisaMarie: Be happy you are no longer with him, celebrate instead of being unhappy I have also gone through quite a number of failed relationships, there were guys that I had been with were, two-timer, a big-time flirt, cheater. Come to think about it, I'm so happy I'm no longer with them. Although, I've 0 idea if my ex-bf recently that dumped me because there was a third party or not, but I told myself I wouldn't want to get hang on with a guy that is not truly committed in a relationship.
b_rouse Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 I have been trying. I found out today through a friend that he left my house that morning and went to his "friends" house. The friend that he was ignoring all night and told her he was sleeping instead of with me. If he is lying to her about me... he is def lying to me about her. I am sick. This girl is gross. He is gross. I am so sick of unhappiness. I don't care if I am single but why do I keep getting men that treat me like a disposable piece of garbage that they might want to dig up later... or not. Seriously???? I am a good person... what did I do to deserve this from any of my exes? You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince. Each break up is a learning experience. The more people you date/break up with, the more you know what you want in a man/woman. Whether or not he lied to you about being with her doesn't matter anymore. My ex said distance was the cause of our break up, but in 2 weeks he's in another relationship with another girl. To be honest, I'm glad he said distance instead of, "Well, there's this other girl that I've been seeing." It means he still cares about me and my feelings. Be glad he didn't tell you the truth, it would hurt much more.
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince. Each break up is a learning experience. The more people you date/break up with, the more you know what you want in a man/woman. Whether or not he lied to you about being with her doesn't matter anymore. My ex said distance was the cause of our break up, but in 2 weeks he's in another relationship with another girl. To be honest, I'm glad he said distance instead of, "Well, there's this other girl that I've been seeing." It means he still cares about me and my feelings. Be glad he didn't tell you the truth, it would hurt much more. I know... that whole what you don't know won't hurt you thing. It's so funny though how I find things out. A friend of a friend of hers or whatever. My friends would usually protect my feelings but at this point they are literally throwing any information at me to show me what a slime he is so I don't go back ever again. I guess that they are trying to protect our feelings, but also trying to keep that door cracked just in case. I got the "maybe the future holds something for us together" and "we have to part at the moment." He knows that if I knew he wanted to see what else was out there that there would never be a chance in hell that I'd come back. If you truly believe that there could be something in the future, then you should be alone, and do your thing for a while without getting involved with one person exclusively. I am feeling a little better. I had some younger guys hitting on me while I was out (and some nasty old ones too) but it will take some time before I am even interested. Even if they're freaking hot and available. Ahhh.. one sided love sucks!
rugbyplayer1990 Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Alisamarie, i'm sorry your going through such a hard time, let me tell you my perspective about your ex. He's a child (man), he's afraid he is getting to close to you and he feels he must run. This new girl, chances are means nothing, but he is like I was before I learn how to be in a committed relationship. Keep postign on here every hour, it will get better. not be afraid to be honest, honesty and the truth will set you free..
Am4Real Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I know... that whole what you don't know won't hurt you thing. It's so funny though how I find things out. A friend of a friend of hers or whatever. My friends would usually protect my feelings but at this point they are literally throwing any information at me to show me what a slime he is so I don't go back ever again. I guess that they are trying to protect our feelings, but also trying to keep that door cracked just in case. I got the "maybe the future holds something for us together" and "we have to part at the moment." He knows that if I knew he wanted to see what else was out there that there would never be a chance in hell that I'd come back. If you truly believe that there could be something in the future, then you should be alone, and do your thing for a while without getting involved with one person exclusively. I am feeling a little better. I had some younger guys hitting on me while I was out (and some nasty old ones too) but it will take some time before I am even interested. Even if they're freaking hot and available. Ahhh.. one sided love sucks! You avoided the "age" question so let me guess...somewhere under 18 cause that's about the maturity of how this situation sounds with him. Just forget him...what a dud!
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 You avoided the "age" question so let me guess...somewhere under 18 cause that's about the maturity of how this situation sounds with him. Just forget him...what a dud! ha ha sorry am4real... he's 25.
rakodako Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 It seems to me like this is not love. He is using these words to loosely and maybe he is seeing someone else. That might explain the back and forth. Stay strong. I am going through hell. Read my post. "WHAT I NEVER THOUGHT ID GO THROUGH"
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 It seems to me like this is not love. He is using these words to loosely and maybe he is seeing someone else. That might explain the back and forth. Stay strong. I am going through hell. Read my post. "WHAT I NEVER THOUGHT ID GO THROUGH" He is.. but they are "friends." HA. I am on my way to read your post now! Thanks rakodako!
Fufu Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Sometimes really puzzled me.. they love you, but they don't want to be with you. Like my ex-bf, he said we still have love, he still loves me but he thinks we are imcompatible. Weird~
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