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Background

We were together for 10 months. Had great chemistry for most of the relationship. Went on trips etc. Last 2 months, she got super busy with work and her family and kid. I got a little busier but tried to make things work by having quality time if i couldn't get quantity. I also had a great relationship with the kid, so that wasn't the issue. i started to get pushed out and was being fit into her schedule, as far as spending time together. I brought it up to see if she realized this was going to snowball at some point into a big issue if we don't try and address it. She then broke up with me 2 weeks after she had told me we were going to try and work it out. Naturally i was pissed since i felt i was misled. Breaking up wasn't as big an issue for me, as being disrespected and misled as i was.

 

G/F broke up with me 2 months ago. At first i was broken up inside, did the usual pleading for closure, etc. Was pissed, angry, hurt, betrayed. she would give me "real" answers as to why we broke up, just one word or short answers. She wouldn't give me closure. She tells me she doesn't have the time or mind to be in a relationship right now.

 

 

Did the NC for the last 3 weeks, after i realized i was loosing respect for myself, from some of the texts/ and letters i sent her. Defriended her from Facebook, dropped off the planet, since having access to her via FB was driving me nuts . Wished her Happy Thanksgiving via text after the 3 weeks and she responds, the same and we get into a chit chat via Blackberry messenger (BBM)about how each of our thanksgivings were and briefly/generally what we've been up to.

 

She tells me sorry for everything (shes said this before, in response to emails/texts i had sent her when we first broke up when i lost my head),and then says i'm a great person (which she has told me in past messages, post breakup)and hopes i find someone. Yet she said she feels alone and that it sucks that she and i cant be friendly and chat. She wants to be friends.

I respond by saying: This is what you "wanted". Honestly i can't realistically be "just friends" given our involvement.

 

She says she can respect that and wont bother me again. She deletes me from her BBM.

 

Mind games or what?

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It's clear this girl wants a friend and not a BF sorry i know it's hard to here but the best thing you can do is cut all contact....... as hard as it seems it would be best to help you heal, i am out of a relationship (13 yrs together 3 1/2 married and 2 kids) 1 yr and 2 mts seperated and because i can't cut all tie's wid him because of children he is still able to hurt me on almost a weekly basis what i would give at this stage to completely cut tie's with him.... it may not be what you want to here but move on and try and start again with someone worth while because if you keep contact you are open to an endless time of hurt. Good look hun hope all works out for you.

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