Jlovestruckx0 Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have been broken up about 2 weeks now , were trying to be friends and just give each other space. The first time we hung out it was a bit new and weird and we ended up kissing and being cuddly sort of. I really love this kid and being his friend is hard enough but now im confused because were suppose to hang out tomorrow with some friends and im not sure how to act around him. My first instinct is to be cuddly, but im suppose to be a friend lol. Another thing is i don't know if during this break up space time we should have sex. I know if were having sex he won't be talk to anyone else , he's honestly not that kind if person and im not worried about that. Im more worried about whether the sex will make this space last longer... BASICALLY how can i make him miss me 100000000 times more even while hanging out with me once in a while. I can tell already he misses me a tiny bit, he asked me if I've talked to anyone lately or met any new friends. Soooooo i don't know if we should have sex while friends , or if i should just leave it alone and be the friend and hope he misses me ? Help ? lol
Fufu Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 (edited) Do not become his friend with benefits. it's a BIG NO!! Secondly, do not be friends with your ex-bf. Does it make sense to you that you guys are broken up, but yet he still wants to hang out with you, be friends with you and cuddle (all those intimate actions) with you? By being his freinds, you are giving him 0 chance to miss you because he knows he can have you. (He knows you are waiting for him.) If he has a new gf, can you accept 100% without feeling any hurt? Do you still want to hang around with him and do all the intimate actions with him? Seems like he broke up with you? Does it make sense to you if he loves you still but doesn't want you to be his gf? Go NC (As all other threads suggest) to move on and not to have hope if he wants you back. That hope is going to slow you down from healing. Time will tell, if you guys are meant to be, you guys will be together. If he really wants you back, let him make the action and chase. Don't initate any contact with him. For Dumpees: - Do not become a doormat / spare tyre - Do not let your ex take advantage of you - Do not get string along by their wishy washy mixed signals (Words & Actions) - Do not be friend with your ex until you reach indifference stage (Besides, even if you reach indifference stage, you can choose if you want to be friend with your ex or not.) - Most importantly, do not lose your own dignity and wait for someone who can call it a QUIT so easily in a relationship Edited November 27, 2010 by Fufu
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