So two of my friends are getting married.

[Grobyc]

Now, most people I know are "YAY YOU GUYS ARE GETTING MARRIED! WE KNEW IT WOULD HAPPEN" kind of things.

 

My self, I think it shouldn't even happen. At. All.

 

Why? Because unlike the friends and others, I know what happens behind the closed doors, and let me tell you, its not any fun and definitely not what a healthy relationship consists of.

 

a little background for my reasoning:

 

I car pooled to school with his fiance for the last 2 years to school. We made a pact that whatever she told me, she's not allowed to tell me if she's going to breakup with him. I don't need a good friend finding out that I knew she was going to and not telling him deal right?

 

Its a 45 minute drive to classes one way most days she will spend that WHOLE time bitching about him. I'm not talking little complaints either I mean full-on he's being a dick and she puts up with it. an hour and a half monday through friday. The things he does are something I never would say or do to my girlfriend.

 

She would say, oh we're doing better 3 days later its back to the usual routine. I have told her "You need to make a choice. He treats you like ****, and you put up with it and tell me about it daily. Now I'm fine with listening, but it has to stop. You need to make a life choice Kayla. You have told me, he only likes doing things you do, doesn't take interest in things you like. Doesn't want to do things you want to do. So, you can stay with him and put up with this crap, or do something about it"

 

Of course she stays with him, puts up with his ****. about 3 weeks later I told her I don't want to hear it anymore. It subsided, at least the complaining. She still talked of him constantly.

 

Now, don't get me wrong here. This is just her side. I SEE these two together quite often and things said by both of them are just not something you see happy couples saying to each other.

 

I recently went over to her place to drop off her laptop, and to say hi. It ended up me sitting on the couch listening her complain about him for 45 minutes.

 

The worst part is I am a groomsman in this wedding. I don't really agree with this wedding anymore. This friend of mine is technically family. So its something I can't just say "I can't make it I have other plans" That **** won't fly.

 

I am considering giving up my groomsman spot. Anybody have ideas on how to get out of it without pissing anyone off?

Edited November 27, 2010 by Grobyc

[Grobyc]

I have this all sorted out now.

 

It's all good.

[Els]

So, just curious, what did you do?

[Grobyc]

Nothing. I'm just going to see if things fall apart between them, if not I'll figure something out.

[Els]

.. How is that considered 'all sorted out'?

[Grobyc]

.. How is that considered 'all sorted out'?

 

I'll just figure it out as the date gets closer. Its not until the fall of 2012 and she already has her dress. Why, i don't know.