Mittens Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I posted about my situation earlier this year: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t225483/ Unfortunately since my last post things deteriorated even further. His 'friend' finally paid him the money she owed at the beginning of September. It immediately got swallowed up by his debts. I had to leave the job I had got as the agency lied about the hours I was expected to work...I was expected to do at least a 60 hour week...my health went downhill rapidly. As I'm still in remission from cancer, my health is/always comes first. I was back on benefits, but I stopped giving the 'friend' any of my cheque...as I stated previously, I wasn't legally obliged to pay any rent...I paid my share of the bills. She had made it impossible for me to claim housing benefit, so as far as I was concerned the rent was her problem. Anyway, at the end of October she decided she wasn't going to pay half the rent anymore, and that she expected my fiance to pay my 'share'. I immediately left the flat and luckily my ex-husband let me move back in with him in Manchester. I was extremely unhappy to do this, but as long as I was there she was going to use me as an excuse not to fulfill her legal obligation regarding the rent. Really I had no choice but to leave. The lease runs out at the end of December...she has already found another flat - exposing another lie about not being able to afford half the rent (she's going to be paying at least 200 pounds a month more in rent at the new place). My fiance is moving back in with his parents and will save up the deposit for a new place. It's going to take him at least 3 months. That's where my anger comes in...I feel like I've been taken advantage of, and am now being 'punished' for being ill. I don't want to be back living with my ex, I've wasted at least 3 thousand pounds on this, and am right back where I started. I never wanted a long-distance relationship. I'm thinking that my fiance is going to be more likely to be going out and having a good time than saving...I'm just so upset and angry. And I'm taking it out on him...every time we talk on the phone, I end up picking a fight, or crying. I'm missing him dreadfully, but just feel so angry with him at the same time. It was his stupid bitch friend that has done this, and she's got away scot free, and I'm the one who has had to move city for the second time this year. My health is really bad at the moment.... I don't want to ruin things between us, but I know if I don't stop being so angry I will. I'm trying to be positive, but finding it really hard. Can anyone offer any help, advice, empathy?
anne1707 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Well living with your ex is obviously not going to help. I am assuming you can get housing benefit if you are not working so in theory paying rent etc should not be an issue if you can find somewhere affordable. Get yourself down to your local council office and apply to be added to their housing register. As a single person (in terms of applying for housing in Manchester), you will not be top of the list but if they have bedsit/1 bed accommodation you may be in with a chance - they should accept that you living with your ex is not desirable and creates an element of housing need (greater the need, greater the chance of getting somewhere). In addition, also check out local housing associations and apply with them for housing - you may be able to register with just one but end up having your name on the waiting lists of several because of the way they work together. Check out these sites for landlords near you: http://portal.tenantservicesauthority.org/FindAndCompare.aspx https://www.pinpoint.org.uk/
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