HeartOnSleeve Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Went on one online date with this guy and am not interested anymore. He keeps texting me and lives really close to where I work. What is the best way to tell him that I am not interested? I want to be nice but get my point across Thanks!
welikeincrowds Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Thank him for taking you out, give him a compliment about his character, and then bring it back to you: didn't feel a spark/connection, whatever.
alexlakeman Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Do it via TEXT message. That's the easiest way, less drama, in case he "can't handle it" after just one date, lol.. Let me look in my archives on the cell. I keep some scripts in there for different scenarios of dumping.. brb This is the one I like most lately: "I have to be true to myself. You sound like an upbeat and pleasant person, but I'm going to pass. All the best in your search". Here's a few more options: "I'm going to have to pass on tonight and on this online dating thing. Good luck on your search.""It was great meeting you, but I didn't feel the spark I was looking for. Gd luck on your search".I had a great time, but I don't think we're a good match. Good luck on your search".I'm sorry, but I don't feel there is enough compatibility here for a ltr. I feel that it's best that we both move onYou know what? I like you, I enjoy you, but I know we are both looking for something more and I don't think we should invest more time in this; b/c as much as I enjoy you, I'm not feeling it. Good luck and warmest regards. I like circulating through them, each time I decide not to see someone it's a different scenario, so I use the best one for said instance. If I have to create a new text, I add it to my database on my blackberry.. Oh, make yourself a new phone entry.. I label mines "DNA" , and drop their phone numbers in there and put the ring tone to SILENT.. therefore they will never bother me again.. Good luck
GolferGirl123 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Don't leave any room for interpretation or argument. "Thanks for taking me out, but I'm not interested."
irc333 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I keep some scripts in there for different scenarios of dumping Gentleman, ladies, you see what this person said? LOL!!
alexlakeman Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I couldn't go back and edit my post. I guess this board uses old forum software, oh well.. Anyway, my DNA entry on the cell, stands for Do Not Answer.. Don't sweat it, it was only one date..
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Thank you so much guys! Yeah I figured it was going to be simple...just akward that he lives soooo darn close and goes to the same places Oy! Thanks again!
irc333 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 How is this person living close to you be an issue? Thank you so much guys! Yeah I figured it was going to be simple...just akward that he lives soooo darn close and goes to the same places Oy! Thanks again!
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Do it via TEXT message. That's the easiest way, less drama, in case he "can't handle it" after just one date, lol.. Let me look in my archives on the cell. I keep some scripts in there for different scenarios of dumping.. brb This is the one I like most lately: "I have to be true to myself. You sound like an upbeat and pleasant person, but I'm going to pass. All the best in your search". Here's a few more options: "I'm going to have to pass on tonight and on this online dating thing. Good luck on your search.""It was great meeting you, but I didn't feel the spark I was looking for. Gd luck on your search".I had a great time, but I don't think we're a good match. Good luck on your search".I'm sorry, but I don't feel there is enough compatibility here for a ltr. I feel that it's best that we both move onYou know what? I like you, I enjoy you, but I know we are both looking for something more and I don't think we should invest more time in this; b/c as much as I enjoy you, I'm not feeling it. Good luck and warmest regards.I like circulating through them, each time I decide not to see someone it's a different scenario, so I use the best one for said instance. If I have to create a new text, I add it to my database on my blackberry.. Oh, make yourself a new phone entry.. I label mines "DNA" , and drop their phone numbers in there and put the ring tone to SILENT.. therefore they will never bother me again.. Good luck I serioulsy need to do this!!!! But man I hate rejecting people! lol
alexlakeman Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Thank you so much guys! Yeah I figured it was going to be simple...just akward that he lives soooo darn close and goes to the same places Oy! Thanks again! Unless he is immature (what age are we talking about?) or turns out to be a stalker, don't worry about it.. If he is very young and hasn't been let down enough times he might make some drama out of it... so do NOT answer his calls after you text him.. If he is an adult, say over 25+, it will not be a big deal for him, we all get .(dumped is NOT the right word) but we get let go of after 1-2 dates regulalry. I do it, and it is certainly done to me.. no biggie, part of dating.. Don't sweat it.. Always better to be the dumper than the dumpee, so the ball's in your park...
WTRanger Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 If you are out of Jr. High School, you'll do it over the phone. Doing it by text is gutless. You want to do it nicely? Text says, "I have so little respect for you and for myself that I'll take the cowards way out." Even if you've only gone out on one date. He stepped up to ask you out, the lest you can do is tell him in person.
youngskywalker Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 If you are out of Jr. High School, you'll do it over the phone. Doing it by text is gutless. You want to do it nicely? Text says, "I have so little respect for you and for myself that I'll take the cowards way out." Even if you've only gone out on one date. He stepped up to ask you out, the lest you can do is tell him in person. Whatever you do just make sure you get your point across. No hints!!! Guys will appreciate this. Don't leave the door open in any way, shape or form so he can't interpret it as....maybe in the future.
ConstantCraving Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Went on one online date with this guy and am not interested anymore. He keeps texting me and lives really close to where I work. What is the best way to tell him that I am not interested? I want to be nice but get my point across Thanks! If he is just texting you with general chit-chat, then you can either ignore it or reply to it as the mood takes you. But if he is suggesting that you go out with him again, just put him straight with: "no, [insert name here] I don't think we should go out any more. I'm just not feeling it. You're a nice guy, but there is no spark for me." Its OK to do this via text message.
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 27, 2010 Author Posted November 27, 2010 DONE! Since it was only one date...I thought text was appropriate (that has been a main form of communication) and I simply stated "sorry nothing against you, it just wasn't there for me. You are a great guy. Good luck!" He wrote back and said he understood. He's 30, an adult, like I said it just weird when I know i'll probably run into him at some point. I'm good at playing "buddies", but you never know how the other person will be...lol. Thanks again!!!
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 I wish people (women) would do this at the end of a date. I hate being left hanging at the end of a date and wondering how it went. I have done it myself - the girl suggested meeting up again, I said that we could only be friends. I hated doing it, but at least she knew there and then.
irc333 Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Typically, most dates end (if someone didn't want to do it a 2nd time) "We should do this again sometime" the other person kind of goes, "um...yeah....sure" really quick ( you can tell by their tone) And nothing happens after that. lol But that happens even with regular friendships/acquaintences...you bump into each other in public, "Hey, it was nice meeting you, we should do lunch sometime" But they never actually do lunch. lol It probably happens more often than not. I wish people (women) would do this at the end of a date. I hate being left hanging at the end of a date and wondering how it went. I have done it myself - the girl suggested meeting up again, I said that we could only be friends. I hated doing it, but at least she knew there and then.
Dante311 Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Hey (Guy's name here), I had a lot of fun with you the other night, but I am just not feeling the chemistry between us. Doesn't mean I'm not attracted to you, but without that feeling I don't see this going anywhere, but I'm flattered you wish to spend more time with me.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Typically, most dates end (if someone didn't want to do it a 2nd time) "We should do this again sometime" the other person kind of goes, "um...yeah....sure" really quick ( you can tell by their tone) And nothing happens after that. lol I've noticed that too. I understand that some people don't like being put on the spot, but I'd prefer them to come out and say how they really feel than make an empty gesture. In my experience, if the date goes really well and she really likes you, she'll be the one who brings up seeing each other again at the end of the date. I can't remember a single time where she's left it hanging and we've then gone on to more dates.
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