Which would you prefer a loving relationship or never worrying about money?

[goingstrong]

Seriously, what do YOU think is the problem?

 

Jimbo, RP has nailed it.

 

You cannot change another person, you can only change yourself, which may/may not change the way other people react to you.

[jimbo]

I stick with the dating sites. I do not want to date through facebook or through co-workers. When the relationship ends, it can get ugly fast. Like I said before, the last one really put me through an emotional ringer. I think very differently now about women I would date. I no longer give the benefit of the doubt and question their moves and motives. But, I do say what I do now.

[RecordProducer]

Jimbo, many people are lonely. Even married people and those with lots of friends. Anyone who's not happy is in essence lonely, because emotional satisfaction is what brings happiness. Even people who don't care about other people are lonely.

 

So, if it's of any comfort to you, you're not lonely in your loneliness.

[yessy21]

I already have gone through this except that I just have bad luck. I just stopped caring. I stopped looking. cancel my account on zoosk and mingle2 and said the hell with it. when i go to the cafe down the street i might meet someone. I even thought i was ugly for a while. my friends all have someone and i have noone but my 4 year old. Im happy with that and when i get lonely i just watch a movie or take a walk.

I told my mom i dont want to end up alone for the rest of my life and she told me " dont worry everyone does it nowadays.":osince then i gave up hope. The "perfect for u only" is going to find u one day... while ur walking into the grocery store...u might just drop her grocery's and vualaaaa!!!

[jimbo]

Hmm, I still think I would choose money over a relationship. Money can keep me warm at night (heat). Money can feed me. Money can put a roof over my head. The last relationship, well, the last month, she was as cold as ice to me. Didn't seem to care at all about me. Withdrew completely from me. Told me we no longer serious. Treated me like crap. Then blamed me for the break up cause I disguised my real income/job. That's a load of crap.

 

I think I may be scared for life in terms of looking at new relationships with a clean slate. Money is certainly safer. Lonelier, but safer. Plus, it doesn't judge me, it's not cold to me, it does not treat me like crap. Seems to be the lesser of two evils if you ask me.

[florence of suburbia]

Money is certainly safer. Lonelier, but safer.

 

My gut tells me you're overcommitted to safety. Your gift is an ability to build security and predictability. With it comes an aversion to risk taking and spontaneity. You need to back-burner safety for a while. You've already got that.

 

I would love to be in your position, to be financially independent enough so I could choose a mate without regards to money.

 

You've worked hard, now go out and play.

[nessaaa]

honestly....money...never havin to worrying about money

[nessaaa]

Hmm, I still think I would choose money over a relationship. Money can keep me warm at night (heat). Money can feed me. Money can put a roof over my head. The last relationship, well, the last month, she was as cold as ice to me. Didn't seem to care at all about me. Withdrew completely from me. Told me we no longer serious. Treated me like crap. Then blamed me for the break up cause I disguised my real income/job. That's a load of crap.

 

I think I may be scared for life in terms of looking at new relationships with a clean slate. Money is certainly safer. Lonelier, but safer. Plus, it doesn't judge me, it's not cold to me, it does not treat me like crap. Seems to be the lesser of two evils if you ask me.

 

holy crap! amen to that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jimbo]

My gut tells me you're overcommitted to safety. Your gift is an ability to build security and predictability. With it comes an aversion to risk taking and spontaneity. You need to back-burner safety for a while. You've already got that.

 

I would love to be in your position, to be financially independent enough so I could choose a mate without regards to money.

 

You've worked hard, now go out and play.

 

Take risks all the time. That's the nature of the game. Dating and relationships, still new at it. It's pretty obvious, I've not gotten the last one out of my system yet. The last real relationship before the last one took me two years to get over. I see very very lonely road ahead.

[kuma]

Hmm, I still think I would choose money over a relationship. Money can keep me warm at night (heat). Money can feed me. Money can put a roof over my head. The last relationship, well, the last month, she was as cold as ice to me. Didn't seem to care at all about me. Withdrew completely from me. Told me we no longer serious. Treated me like crap. Then blamed me for the break up cause I disguised my real income/job. That's a load of crap.

 

I think I may be scared for life in terms of looking at new relationships with a clean slate. Money is certainly safer. Lonelier, but safer. Plus, it doesn't judge me, it's not cold to me, it does not treat me like crap. Seems to be the lesser of two evils if you ask me.

 

Money can't make you happy... Your ex-gf wasn't right for you. Do you have any hobbies? Many people make friends and meet potential gf/bf through their hobbies.

Edited December 2, 2010 by kuma

[jimbo]

Not really. I've attended some meetups and yelp events, but most of those people are even weirder than me. I've tried contacting some old HS buddies, no luck there either. Mostly just come home from work, make a nice meal and read books, workout or watch tv.