Last text by me said "let me know when you are back and we will make plans"

[tiredofcaring]

I think I said that after she said something about how we can try to hang out after her trip. "try" or "hopefully"?... Leading up to this message I have come of as too eager. I have not really given her space to contact me. I feel like I need to just let it go now and wait for her to contact me. I assume that if she is interested in seeing me again I will get an email, text or call, as she is outgoing like that. It is a relief to just let it go and see what happens; because I can deal with her not calling me. Being a control freak is making my back hurt:)

[SignalFlare]

I don't know the whole story but if you've made it clear that you want to hang out with her then you don't need to prod. She'll definitely revive the conversation when she comes back if she likes you.

[tiredofcaring]

I don't know the whole story but if you've made it clear that you want to hang out with her then you don't need to prod. She'll definitely revive the conversation when she comes back if she likes you.

 

Thank you, I have been second guessing myself. Signs show she may not want to continue, and that is cool with me. I figure if I hear from here that will be great, but it's easier to just let it go and move on:)

[tiredofcaring]

The problem is with some women, they may adore you, and still refuse to make that contact.

 

Don't think its not true either, there are some seriously screwed up women out there, that hate having the ball in their court. They just dont know how to react that way.

 

So basically guys are screwed either way, you can never win, because you don't know if shes just shy, or if shes needs space, and forget about getting a straight answer if you bring it up.

 

Well, if that's the case then I still wait for her to contact me as I don't need that kind of person in my life. No contact at this point is a win win situation:)

IT"S ALL SO CLEAR!

[waynebrady]

Well, if that's the case then I still wait for her to contact me as I don't need that kind of person in my life. No contact at this point is a win win situation:)

IT"S ALL SO CLEAR!

 

If you are gonna wait for a woman who initiates contact(even just sometimes) then you are gonna be alone for the rest of your life. It's unfortunate but true, women are totally against initiating contact with a man and not just the first time but even in long term relationships. I don't even think women initiate contact in marriages... You have to accept the fact that it is how it is, I don't like it either though. I think if you look at it more like this, women don't actually have much intrest in being with men so they have to be convinced and pursued in order to even agree to date you and in a relationship you are still gonna have to convince them and work to make them stay with you... women have a take it or leave it attitude so if you don't they would leave and they couldn't care less basicly.

[tiredofcaring]

If you are gonna wait for a woman who initiates contact(even just sometimes) then you are gonna be alone for the rest of your life.

 

That's funny, because if you had read what I initially wrote you might understand the situation. I have had plenty of girls initiate contact when I clearly dropped off the map. And now that I have some perspective about the above girl, and I am feeling her resist a bit, I am not going to smother her. If she is interested in seeing me she will send me an email or something as I have made most of the contact and asked her to let me know when she's back. And maybe not, maybe she will expect me to contact her. Well, some of the messages I have gotten from her are a bit allusive, so I am going to hang out with the other girls in the rotation in the meantime:) and if I blew it with her good thing there are many other woman out there to flirt with. Life is fun and I am done being desperate... for now anyway:)