Tressugar Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I'm still trying to make sense of why a guy would shut me out of his life completely after I couldn't ship off his booze to him. I met a guy about a year ago. We date for all of about a month before he was sent back to his state. We kept in contact sporadically. Recently we started communications again. He is on deployment in Afghanistan. I asked him if he would like a care package. He asked me to send him some alcohol. I told him that I would. I didn't think that it would be a problem. After he gave me his address and I verified the address with him. I proceed to buy him the liquor of his choice. I asked my father if I could send alcohol to a solider overseas. His reply was that alcohol is prohibited overseas. I called back the guy and asked him why didn't he tell me. He said that everyone there receives alcohol everyday and that it was no big deal. I went to the post office and tried to mail of his package, but the post office said that the address that I had was invalid (something to do with it not being an APO address) and plus I found out that even though I didn't state that the package contained liquor I was informed I couldn't mail anything that was flammable. So I took the package and went somewhere else that I could possibly get the package to be mailed and was told that 'they' didn't ship internationally. So I texted the guy in Afghanistan and told him everything that I went though to mail the package and told him that the address was incorrect and they wouldn't accept it. He texted back and basically blew up at me and called me a liar. He said that I thought that he must be stupid because people 'male' liquor there all day long. In fact, the guy next to him just received 18 bottles of liquor. He told me not to ever ask him what could I do for him if I wasn't going to deliver. I asked him to call me (twice) so I can verify the address again and possibly obtain an APO address. He refused to call/contact me. I thought that he would calm down a bit and call me later, but I haven't heard from him again. He went as far to block my emails and blocked and removed my contact from Skype. I was so hurt and confused by his actions. I tried my best to do what he wanted me to do. Could you please tell me why would he be so angry at me over something as simple as this?
Sarah1977 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Probably because he's fighting a war. I imagine the stress of nearly dying every single day would make someone's fuse a little short.
Author Tressugar Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 Thanks Sarah for your reply. At first I thought that same thing as you, but his reaction was too extreme for it to be behind the stress of war. He severed all communications with me forever....and he was willing to risk me getting in trouble as well as an Article 15 for him. He was just using me to get what he wanted.
skydiveaddict Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 (edited) Alcohol is not allowed there. You might be able to get it to him, depending on where he is in country. But he will be in big trouble when he gets caught with it. When I was there we were way out in the boonies and there was no way we could have gotten alcohol anyway. I'm also very surprised that you were able to text him or he you. Edited November 28, 2010 by skydiveaddict
xpaperxcutx Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Sounds like he rather get drunk than date you. This is the time where you can skip the Dear John letter and dump him.
Author Tressugar Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 You're right alcohol is not allowed there. Now he tells me that alcohol is shipped there everyday. I don't believe him but this is what he tells me anyway. How we 'used' to contact each other I send a text to his email and he can email me back to my cell phone. Or he can call me directly to my cell phone. He had me to set up Skype so we can see each other... Fortunately for me that I haven't dated him nor he is not my boyfriend...just a friend I guess...this is guy is a known bad boy, playboy and a manipulator....(after the fact that he severed all communications with me because the post office wouldn't accept the package) I found out that everything that he told me were all lies.
sb129 Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Probably because he's fighting a war. I imagine the stress of nearly dying every single day would make someone's fuse a little short. This, definitely. But also possibly because he is an a$$?
yah Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 There are some pretty creative ways to send it but it wont be worth it. The risk of getting caught far outweighs getting a few bottles of liqueur. If a soldier does not turn in alcohol immediately (although customs usually gets to it first), he could lose his rank and privileges, which would suck in the middle of combat. This guy sounds like an a$s. He knew what he was signing up for.
Pfiend101 Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 this is guy is a known bad boy, playboy and a manipulator.... Is this the type of guy you want? I'm not trying to turn this into a badboy/nice guy thread but...... this confuses me on a daily basis.
Jannah Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 What good could come out of mailing liquor to a person in the military while on tour? I understand their job is obviously one of the most difficult in the world, but, sending booze when they are already under such extremes doesn't sound like a good idea.
Author Tressugar Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 It took this incident to realize that this is not who I want to continue to know as a friend. I want someone who would want to friend me not on the basis of what I can do for them, but of the mutual positive experiences that we can create and share together. My friend did me a huge favor by dumping me over alcohol. I'm glad that this incident happened and have no regrets at all in the manner of how everything unfolded. I wish him all the best. Thank you all for your input.
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