Are you a good catch?

[Woggle]

I do! Cuz you don't sound like a fake bitch. Same with the original poster. I too wear my heart in my sleeve and seek justice. Only calculated, manipulative women catch the best guys - because men are soooooooo naive. Men like women who give them freedom and are too busy for them, because they present a challenge. Men don't realize that thee women just don't care about them. In fact, the less they care the more the men want them. If you want to catch ANY man, just act like you're a perfect woman, give him what he wants (fun, lovely company, great sex) and then take it away. Play the push-and-pull game and he'll be eating from your hands. I've never been able to do that because I was too open and honest, too passionate and clingy.

 

A man only wants what he thinks he can't have. They'll leave Ms. Perfect if she is tooavailable and fight to death with other male specimens over Ms. Average. They're stupid for doing it, but at least they can't help it because it's in their core nature. But what's our excuse for not using it?

 

This sounds like a female vesion of one of those bitter nice guys.

[Sarah1977]

I have my issues but I think I am a pretty good catch.

 

You know...I've been reading your posts and I think that too. Sometimes you can come across as a little abrasive at times. But I think that's because you've become a little disenchanted. Oddly enough, I've always gotten the impression that you're a big softy underneath it all, though.

[Woggle]

You know...I've been reading your posts and I think that too. Sometimes you can come across as a little abrasive at times. But I think that's because you've become a little disenchanted. Oddly enough, I've always gotten the impression that you're a big softy underneath it all, though.

 

Deep down I am but I learned the hard way that many people in this world mistake kindness for a weakness. I would never mistreat a person but sadly you have to have armor to put on when you operate in modern society. It feels great to have a wife and friends who I can take it off in front of though.

[Art_Critic]

Are you a good catch?

 

I used to be

 

If anybody thinks this thread is about bragging then I say brag away..

Eff all the people who think a person should only say bad things about themselves

[Star Gazer]

I used to be

 

If anybody thinks this thread is about bragging then I say brag away..

Eff all the people who think a person should only say bad things about themselves

 

No one said that, Art.

[Sarah1977]

I used to be

 

If anybody thinks this thread is about bragging then I say brag away..

Eff all the people who think a person should only say bad things about themselves

 

 

I agree, Art. Also, I love your quote.

[Stung]

I used to be

 

If anybody thinks this thread is about bragging then I say brag away..

Eff all the people who think a person should only say bad things about themselves

 

Total agreement.

[Star Gazer]

And I don't give a crap who you are or what you're going through.

 

I will keep that in mind when reading your posts in the future.

[Star Gazer]

Eff all the people who think a person should only say bad things about themselves

 

Again, not one person said that.

 

I for one, started the "Brag about yourself!" thread. This thread had a completely different intent than to have others brag. Nope, it was a measurement stick. Kinda funny when you pay attention...

[Art_Critic]

SG.. Did I step on your toes or something ?.. I never mentioned you and now you are picking at my post like I slapped you in the face or something.

 

I don't think there is anything wrong with this thread... and by saying a poster is bragging or poo pooing them after they posted all their good traits or strengths and that they feel they are a good catch you are doing nothing more than raining on a person's parade. IMO..

 

Why do you feel that a poster cannot start a thread like this ? would you rather them post a thread about their bad traits and that would be better for their self esteem ?

[Star Gazer]

SG.. Did I step on your toes or something ?.. I never mentioned you and now you are picking at my post like I slapped you in the face or something.

 

You and a few others are suggesting that those who don't care for the way the thread was phrased have somehow, someway said that acknowledging one's strengths/worth/value is bad, and, using your own words, that those people critiquing the way the OP was phrased have somehow suggested that people "should only say bad things about themselves." Those comments simply do not exist in this thread. No one has said that acknowledging one's strengths/worth/value is bad. No one has said that people should only say bad things about themselves. You, and a select few others, are twisting the critique of the OP into something it's not. So let's just be real about that.

 

Why do you feel that a poster cannot start a thread like this ? would you rather them post a thread about their bad traits and that would be better for their self esteem ?

 

Obviously, I don't think there's anything wrong with starting a thread designed at having people brag about themselves. Did you read my entire post to you? Did you forget that I created such a thread? It was entitled "Brag About Yourself!" not something akin to "Are you as cool as I am?"

 

The point I'm making, the point others have made, is that this thread was not designed just to have people brag about themselves. No way, no how. It was a "Do you measure up to me?" type thread. It was for the OP to brag about herself, and have everyone else try to meet HER standards about what she declared to be the universal standards of what makes a great catch.

 

Thereafter, she kicked a very fragile poster when she was down, in order to "defend herself" against everyone except that fragile poster.

[Art_Critic]

SG.. why do you have to be so petty ?...

[northern_sky]

Northern, I love how you and other posters in this thread want to insinuate that I'm insecure. I'd come right out and call you insecure, but that would be the understatement of the century. You hate yourself. I have read posts of yours and physically recoiled, I was so horrified by what you were saying. In fact, you are so 'in hate' with yourself that I'm surprised that you are here in my thread posting instead of drowning in a pool of your own self pity.

 

The FACT of the matter is, if ANYONE needs a thread like this, it is YOU. You need to pull your head out of your freaking butt and start recognizing that you indeed have good qualities and start embracingthose good qualities instead of trying to knock everyone down to your level. I, for one, would like to hear you tell me about what a great friend you are or how witty you are or how organized you can be. I want to know about your great sense of style or talents at giving back rubs. I think thinking about those things might do you some good.

 

Either that, or you can just go start yet another thread about how nobody loves you. *shrugs

 

You're not very good at sounding nice.

[Sarah1977]

SG.. why do you have to be so petty ?...

 

Art, I appreciate that you and the majority of other people saw this thread the way as it was intended and like the idea of building ourselves and each other up. But I know I didn't mean this thread to be negative and nasty like they are implying, so there is no need to defend me.

 

I think the very best thing we can all do right now is just let them think what they want while we go on about our business by being nice to each other. If we play into their negativity, it will hijack the entire thread.

 

I don't want to spend my day arguing with unhappy people. I'd rather talk about how I get some of these adorable LS girls to come over to my house and cook for me!

[Star Gazer]

SG.. why do you have to be so petty ?...

 

Why are you name calling, Art? I thought better of you.

 

I'm not being petty. I don't think this is a trivial matter. Of the 4 threads OP has started, 2 were bragging threads, designed at comparing herself to others, not making them feel good about themselves. And within this thread, she kicked Shadow/Northern in the meanest way possible, all while claiming she doesn't like to tear women down. I think that's what really got my goat. How does a person who claims their intent was to uplift people justify that behavior??

 

I don't care for putting one's self up on a pedestal and looking down on others as if to say, "Do you deserve to be up here?" THAT is how the OP came across. THAT is how to OP comes across, in this and other threads and posts. I have every right to voice that opinion, and if you and her want to attack me for it...bring it on.

[TwinkletOes26]

I have read the whole thread and fail to see where the OP is bragging and using what she feelas makes her a good catch as a measuring stick for others. She in fact asked others to do the same as she did...or maybe Im reading it wrong ~shrugs~.......ANYWHO

 

I think im a great catch because :

 

Im smart

 

funny

 

I can bake from scratch

 

I am an independent woman I dont depend on a man for my happiness

 

I am a social butterfly

 

Im sweet

 

Im caring

 

Im a girl gamer(in other words i wont get mad if you play call of duty lol)

[Sarah1977]

Im a girl gamer(in other words i wont get mad if you play call of duty lol)

 

If you play WoW, I'm going to hook you up with my brother! He'll fall in looooovvvee in 30 seconds flat!

[TwinkletOes26]

If you play WoW, I'm going to hook you up with my brother! He'll fall in looooovvvee in 30 seconds flat!

 

LOL Ive never played WOW strangely enough...... I hear its FUN...I know I like everquest and Diablo 2 thats my ish... LOL

[Sarah1977]

LOL Ive never played WOW strangely enough...... I hear its FUN...I know I like everquest and Diablo 2 thats my ish... LOL

 

 

I'm going to get him a bib and show him your post. Ten bucks says he starts drooling!

[EasyHeart]

I gotta side with Star Gazer on this one. If there was any doubt about the OP's intention in starting this thread, her abusiveness in responding to people removed it. There's really no need to be that nasty.

[LittleTiger]

Sarah, I don't know you and I'm not even familiar with your posts, other than this thread and the one highlighted by Elswyth.

 

I am assuming from your OP that you are interested in personal development as you have stated clearly you believe you are 'a good catch' by design rather than by accident. Therefore I am sure you will be interested to know that, to some people at least, your posts don't come across well. Also, putting others down, especially people who are obviously struggling with self esteem issues, is never a good idea, even in self defence.

 

I am not going to question your intent because I'm not inside your head so I really don't know for sure what you were thinking and I'm happy to give you the benefit of the doubt.

 

If, as you say, you wanted people to think about their positive attributes, I'm surprised you didn't word the title a little differently. If you wish to post all your plus points here I have no argument with that, but I have to agree with SG that you appeared to be setting yourself up as a benchmark. 'I'm a good catch - are you?' ie 'Can you match up to me?'. For those who are feeling inadequate it's probably not a good start to that type of thread.

 

As I said, I actually don't have an issue with your OP. This is an open forum and you can post whatever you want about yourself. I think it's fantastic that you love yourself and you're happy with your life and what you have to offer others. I agree with you it's a shame that more people don't have your self assurance. The problem is, some people will see your self assurance as arrogance and arrogance is not attractive.

 

So all I'm saying is you might be an even better catch if you think a little more carefully about how you present yourself. This thread could have been posted without antagonising anybody - just by giving it a different title. You could have called it 'Let's all be positive - what does everybody like about themselves' or 'Anyone else feeling this good about themselves'. I think either of those titles would have avoided the negative comments altogether.

 

So in short (not something I'm good at ), there is no harm in bragging about yourself if that's what you were doing but if it concerns you what other people think (and it clearly does) you might want to take a little more care when posting.

 

If you think I'm threadjacking, then I apologise, but you strike me as someone who would be interested in learning how to be an even better person than the one you are right now.

[Sarah1977]

So all I'm saying is you might be an even better catch if you think a little more carefully about how you present yourself. This thread could have been posted without antagonising anybody - just by giving it a different title. You could have called it 'Let's all be positive - what does everybody like about themselves' or 'Anyone else feeling this good about themselves'. I think either of those titles would have avoided the negative comments altogether.

 

This is a very fair point, Little Tiger. And if you'll notice I already apologized for wording a couple of things poorly and tried to clarify my position. Multiple times, in fact. Unfortunately, this only resulted in people calling me a liar and continuing to attack me. I agree with you, though, but I can only apologize so much before I just give up and let the people determined to think negatively about me continue to do so.

 

Ultimately, this is a forum and sometimes things get said wrong, or worded poorly, or taken wrong. It's the way of things, I suppose. I'm not worried about it. But if I offended you in any way, I apologize. You seem like a really nice person!

[Star Gazer]

I am sure you will be interested to know that, to some people at least, your posts don't come across well. Also, putting others down, especially people who are obviously struggling with self esteem issues, is never a good idea, even in self defence.

 

If, as you say, you wanted people to think about their positive attributes, I'm surprised you didn't word the title a little differently. If you wish to post all your plus points here I have no argument with that, but I have to agree with SG that you appeared to be setting yourself up as a benchmark. 'I'm a good catch - are you?' ie 'Can you match up to me?'. For those who are feeling inadequate it's probably not a good start to that type of thread.

 

So all I'm saying is you might be an even better catch if you think a little more carefully about how you present yourself. This thread could have been posted without antagonising anybody - just by giving it a different title. You could have called it 'Let's all be positive - what does everybody like about themselves' or 'Anyone else feeling this good about themselves'. I think either of those titles would have avoided the negative comments altogether.

 

Precisely my point. That was all I was getting at.

 

...you strike me as someone who would be interested in learning how to be an even better person than the one you are right now.

 

I respectfully disagree. Her "I don't give a crap what you're going through" comment, as well as her abusiveness in responding to people in this thread (as highlighted by Easy Heart), suggests she sees no desire for personal growth. *shrugs*

 

I gotta side with Star Gazer on this one. If there was any doubt about the OP's intention in starting this thread, her abusiveness in responding to people removed it. There's really no need to be that nasty.

 

That's it right there.

[Sarah1977]

SG, I'm going just point out that both you and Northern were the first to start throwing punches. And even after I apologized and tried to clarify what my intentions were, you continued to throw punches. That is fact and can be verified by anyone willing to scroll back and read all the posts in this thread. So my final stance is don't dish it out if you can't take it.

 

And that is all I have left to say to you, Sweets.

[Star Gazer]

...if you'll notice I already apologized for wording a couple of things poorly and tried to clarify my position. Multiple times, in fact.

 

You mean when you said:

 

I don't give a crap who you are or what you're going through.

 

 

Maybe it's semantics, but I view apologies differently. IME, they're designed to make the other feel better about a wrong you've committed, not to dismiss their feelings or to personally attack them.

 

*shrug*